Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Reliving 9/11

There's only so much I can really say about 9/11 that hasn't already been said. We've all remembered where we were at the time of the tragedy and how we felt as we heard about the second tower being struck. The annual memorial brings us all together to remember each and every person who lost their lives, but is it too much? I think about it and wonder how much of a heartache it would be for me if I had to go to my Dad's funeral every July 21rst. It's almost like the same thing. Yes, let us not forget, but also, not lose ourselves to grief once more and relive that terrible moment in time. I have mixed feelings. I watched the memorial on TV, and although I have come to terms over what had happened, I found myself crying as each name was called out, and especially the moment of silence for each plane that crashed. My question is: are the surviving loved ones ever going to have peace? Or are they going to continue grieving for something that had taken place eleven years ago? What about a general memorial where they honor all the victims at once? Wouldn't that make it less heart wrenching?

Between the various photos of the plumes of smoke billowing out from the buildings to even some where they have shown people diving out of windows ---- can't we all leave those awful images behind and just remember our loved ones as they were and not as they died? I don't want to confuse my opinion with forgetting what these evil terrorists have done, but sometimes less is more. This attack on the U.S. has brought out so much in us. It's brought out hatred for certain cultures and religions. It's brought out fear and intimidation even to just walk out onto New York City's streets. Yes, let's not let the terrorists win and go about our daily lives --- but really --- aren't we still a little scared? When will we leave it behind us, but continue to be strong as we pray for the families who have lost their loved ones in a senseless and hateful attack?

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Ian Lidster said...

Thoughtful and thought-provoking at the same time, Deb. For some reason people need to hang on to this stuff and it seems to give them something. Yet, it keeps wounds alive, too. YOur analogy with your father's recent death was so apt. I remember traveling around Ireland years ago and in every town and village seeing a memorial to some fucking patriotic hero or other, and all I could think was 'move on, folks'. Personally, I don't think we'll see 9/11 diminish until it's no longer part of living memory, and that is kind of sad and no way intending disrespect for those who were martyred. I so commend you in this and I am so happy we've reconnected.

The Elephant's Child said...

While we also lost people on that dreadful day it is largely your nation's tragedy. I am bothered by the hatred that has now been legitimised in your country, and to a lesser extent others, for people of different religions or cultures. And sadly, a memorial each and every year, brings no-one back to the grieving families. I don't know the answer, but am believe that on some levels the terrorists did triumph because they changed our lives so much. Not just the grief felt by so many, but the persecution of some people and the increased security measures which have irritated so many of us - without as far as I am aware preventing any terrorist activity. I don't know the answer. I wish I did.

Deb said...

Ian, when I wrote this post, I was hoping I wouldn't come off as arrogant or heartless --- didn't want to offend anyone. I was only trying to make sense of reliving this tragic scene day in and day out. Let's say a loved one died in a tragic car accident. Would you want to see the accident scene again and again? Well then why are we doing this to ourselves? Even people posting the photos of the two towers smoking --- it breaks my heart each time I see it. Stop!!! Enough!!! I know, I know, and believe me, I. will. never. forget. --- and neither will anyone. Thanks for commenting, Ian -- it's great that we reconnected once again!

TEC, it's amazing the hatred that's manifested by many events. But, I will say it's not only our country --- look at what's happening now in Libya. Our U.S. ambassador to Libya was killed in a rocket attack in Benghazi because of a fricken Youtube video that mocked their prophet, Muhammad. Now they're all outraged and burning our flags, replacing it with theirs and I bet you anything, they'll be more attacks targeted at the U.S. .......just for a Youtube video. And sad thing is, if they were to do this to us, they wouldn't even get a fraction of retaliation other than words. So much hate in the name of god... Very sad... and it is still happening.

And one more thing to add --- which is debatable --- but it was one of the reasons why so many people protested putting up a mosque near ground zero, but no one could really understand why so many were against it. I mean.....really? I can go on and on about that --- not that I am against their culture, but it was like putting salt into the wounds of many families who lost so many of their loved ones that day.