Living Proof

This week has been really strange. I came across quite a few Christians who showed their distaste for people of the LGBT community this week for whatever reason. They explained that it was "wrong" for two people of the same gender to be together because their bible told them so. They were surprised that I was Christian and yet still married (to which they don't consider it a marriage) to a woman. It's funny because these people were incredibly nice -- they just didn't agree with the lifestyle. Even when they said it was "wrong" -- they have been programmed to believe it was "wrong". And that's OK. But there's a fine line between having strong beliefs and hurting others with faith-based assumptions about a lifestyle that's not factual. And by the way, it doesn't help the situation by stating that you have a gay friend or that your sister or brother is gay. It's the same thing as saying, "My best friend is black," ...

Trust me, never be mean to a waitress. Your food will taste umm, different. A few months ago, I took my friend out to my favorite lunch spot. We sat down, ordered a couple of glasses of wine and some lunch. When the waitress came over, my friend's entire demeanor changed as though someone upset her. "This wine is just terrible! It tastes like vinegar and you probably had it out all night. Bring me something that wasn't opened. You may be able to fool some customers, but not me, lady...not me." The waitress headed off to the bar and quickly returned with a fresh glass of wine, to which again, tasted like "vinegar", but she'll "suck it up anyway" as she stated. Nothing annoys me more than being rude to somebody who had nothing to do with what you are upset over. Yes, she is the "face" of the restaurant -- your representative for the bar and kitchen, but being rude to someone who is serving you is just wrong and so out of line. W...

When you have a strong prejudiced opinion on something, shouldn't there be some kind of rule to know everything about it before making a "righteous judgment"? Here's my strong opinion on something that I have learned the hard way over the years about some Christians who are against same-sex marriage: they don't attack any other type of "sin". I remember when the Josh Duggar fiasco made its way into the headlines and was shocked to see how many Christian supporters there were, mainly due to his huge stance against gays and lesbians. What about the county clerk who refuses same-sex marriage licenses? Do you know there are many people telling her to "be strong" while she stands up for her beliefs that marriage should be between a man and a woman? And with that strong opinion of hers, she doesn't look at herself and say, "Hmm, well I have four divorces under my belt." She refuses to look at her own shortcomings as an "adultere...

Let's face it, we all are. And as much as I hate that saying, "It is what it is," -- it seriously is . Once we accept the "isness" and all that we cannot control, I bet life would be much more tolerable. But life is tolerable -- it's we the people who just aren't tolerant. We get offended so easily. Our feelings get hurt at the drop of a hat. I also hate using "we" because it lumps us together as a group, even though we may be on opposite sides of the spectrum. But I'm still going to use "we", so bear with me. All of us have our own opinions, views, beliefs and whatnot. Some of us love to be heard, while other people prefer to mute their trumpets in fear of offending other people. Whatever the case, all of us have our own personal convictions and beliefs or lack thereof. So, we're all in this together. Once you put on the news or read it online, we all form some sort of opinion whether we choose to voice it or not. Lif...

To tell you the truth, even I'm sick of this legalization of same-sex marriage. It's not because I'm against it -- I mean, how can I be? I'm married to a woman. But it's the back and forth conversations (or arguments) of those who are for it and those who are against it. I'm pretty much over it, mainly because of all of the ugliness I have seen out there. I have heard outrageous arguments -- anything from, "Well wut' next? Yew gonna marry yer' brother or sister now? Yew gonna wanna hook up with your uncle? How 'bout yer' pet," to "It's a sin and you're going straight to hell in a handbasket!" (I never understood why they would place a handbasket in the mix.) For one, not every gay or lesbian out there is a Christian. Some may happen to be Atheists. That's just for starters. And two: comparing incest and bestiality to being gay or lesbian is just ignorant. And thirdly, as you've seen plenty of my arguments o...