Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Workaholics: You May Not Like the Truth

We're all so incredibly busy. It's a busy busy life with big responsibilities ahead of you. Life can get so hectic, that the only thing you get to do when you come home is eat, poop and go to bed. (That comma in there is very important.) Weekends are for relaxing, sleeping and binge watching Netflix. Work has taken precedence over everything: your family, your friends, God, and even time for yourself. There's no balance, no give, no relief in sight. Your child begs for your attention, but you're just too incredibly exhausted to even entertain the thought of playing outside with them or helping them with their homework. You have your own crap to deal with. Your child is desperately wanting to share their day with you, so that you'll be proud of their accomplishments, but they start realizing that they're talking to someone who is half asleep already. So they take their A+ test paper and tuck it back into their binder and walk upstairs defeated...and sad.

It's been a couple of years since you visited your grandmother. You're lucky she's still alive after all these years. It's been a few months since you visited your parents. But they can wait, and your friends are always on Facebook to remind you that they're still alive if ever, you want to get together and catch up. We hold these unrealistic expectations of seeing everyone at a later date, because we never want to entertain the thought of possibly losing one of our loved ones. Every single day is a blessing to be alive, but every single day you're too busy to even notice you're alive. Life has been taken for granted, because you expect to wake up the next morning and go to work to only come home to eat, poop and go to sleep and do it all over again. "Tomorrow I'll call mom to see her," or "I'll take a trip over to grandma's to see how she's doing this weekend."

The phone rings. You don't even want to answer it because you feel it may be a telemarketer. Besides, who uses landlines anymore? But you answer it anyway.

The voice on the other end sounds unfamiliar, but you still listen anyway.

"I'm sorry to tell you this, but your mother was in a terrible car accident and was killed by a drunk driver."

"What? She was healthy! She wasn't supposed to be out that late anyway -- I don't get it."

Doesn't matter.

All you can do now is just play some recorded voice mail checking up on you. "Hi, it's mom. Just checking up on ya. When you coming down to visit us? Love and miss you!" 

I know, you were gonna go last week and then planned on going the week afterwards, but but but. Put mom aside for a sec. What about your wife? She hasn't been touched in months and you never have the time or day to just sit with her for a cup of coffee in the morning or to talk to her before you turn out the lights at night. Your bedroom has become a room for the weary, not for the married. But you're keeping the house together by working -- so everything is fine...everything is fine. Everybody is taken care of, right? Your kid cries himself to sleep because he hardly gets any attention and can't let you know he's being bullied at school and your wife falls asleep feeling neglected and insecure because you never show her any affection anymore because well, you're exhausted! After the day you had, who could even think of being romantic?

Until you get the phone call.

People aren't meant to be put aside. God isn't meant to be put aside. In fact, in the Bible, putting something before God is making that one thing an idol. To have "too much" of one thing that it totally drives your life into a pit of exhaustion is considered an "idol." When do you even pray? In the car? For how long? God wants us to be productive, but God also wants us to BE STILL. Hear Him. Take care of your family -- not in the monetary way, but in the loving family kind of way. They did an interesting study on hospice patients who were dying. NONE of them ever said, "I wish I had worked more."

Even if you're a busy little bee, take time for your loved ones. Be there for those who need you. Don't take your loved ones for granted. They're here one day and gone the next and it can happen just. like. that.

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Wednesday, February 07, 2018

Do We All Have the Gift of Intuitiveness?

Science tells us that we only use 10% of our brain, while many religious and spiritual people believe that's where God resides -- in that 90% portion. Eckhart Tolle explains that you are NOT your mind. There is the Being (you as a spirit more or less) and then there is your mind. You can simply witness your mind when you're struggling with something to overcome negative reactions to certain situations. It kind of makes sense though, since we are mostly spirit, but our mind, our {carnal} state of being takes full charge sometimes. I think that's when we're separated from God. I've always wondered what makes a psychic or religious prophet gifted. There are some people who are mediums who can speak to the deceased, while there are others who can somehow predict the future. Some can read your mind. While I believe there are such things as mediums, religious prophets and psychics, I also believe there are false ones out there who either profit from it, or simply want acknowledgment of a gift they wish they had. Many of us are taught that nothing is a coincidence. Then what explains a false psychic guessing something about you? Is there such thing as coincidences?

For me, I stopped seeking out psychics and mediums due to the fact that most are fake, but most of all, it's forbidden to seek out mediums in order to talk to the deceased. Then I questioned, what makes Christian prophesy any different? My fear of going to a regular medium who is not of the Christian faith tends to lean on the belief that the spirits that they are conjuring up are what's called "familiar spirits" -- not spirits of your loved ones, but a "spirit" that's not of God who knows everything and everyone in your life. The devil can hack into a medium's reading and give you what you need. Most likely, you'll start relying on that medium, instead of going to God for guidance. There are many Catholics who rely on psychics just as many rely on psychologists.

For Christian believers, relying on psychics and mediums is just plain dangerous. Here's an excerpt I found on BibleInfo regarding using mediums to talk to your deceased loved ones.

What does the Bible say about ouija boards and contacting spirits?

In fact, there are strong warnings against contacting the spirits. Leviticus 19:31, “Give no regard to mediums and familiar spirits; do not seek after them, to be defiled by them: I am the LORD your God.” 20:6, “And the person who turns to mediums and familiar spirits, to prostitute himself with them, I will set My face against that person and cut him off from his people.”

Why? First, the Bible commonly compares death with sleep. 1 Thessalonians 4:14 NKJV says, "For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus." Ecclesiastes 9:5-6, 10 NKJV, says "The dead know not anything, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten. Also their love, and their hatred, and their envy, is now perished; neither have they any more a portion forever in anything that is done under the sun…For there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave." Our departed loved ones are said to be "sleeping" and actually have no consciousness of those who are living.

So if the dead are merely sleeping, then who are the spirits mediums and psychics contacting? If it is true that our loved ones are unconscious of “anything that is done under the sun,” then who or what are pretending to be those we were “familiar” with and knew us so well when they were alive? Revelation 12:8-9 NKJV, says "But they did not prevail, nor was a place found for them in heaven any longer. So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him."

We see that Satan, "the father of lies," and his minions are trying to “deceive the whole world.” Fallen angels can deceive us by appearing as good beings, even spirits of people we are familiar with. "No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Therefore it is not surprising if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds." (2 Corinthians 11:14-15, NASB)

No wonder the Bible is so adamant about not communicating with the dead. Ouija boards, séances, the occult and witchcraft are all tools that fallen angels, also known as demons, try and use to deceive you. And not just do they aim to deceive, but it’s not uncommon for these practices to lead to demon harassment and/or possession. Throughout the Bible are more than a few accounts of people tortured by evil spirits.

One of the most significant is Jesus’ encounter with a man who was possessed with a legion of demons. “And when He had come out of the boat, immediately there met Him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit, who had his dwelling among the tombs; and no one could bind him, not even with chains, because he had often been bound with shackles and chains. And the chains had been pulled apart by him, and the shackles broken in pieces; neither could anyone tame him. And always, night and day, he was in the mountains and in the tombs, crying out and cutting himself with stones.” (Mark 5:2-5, NKJV) But God offers to anyone an alternative. 1 Corinthians 6:19, “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.------read more over on this site at BibleInfo.

Think about it: "Satan is the father of lies" -- "fallen angels can deceive us by appearing as good beings, even spirits of people we are familiar with. No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light."

If you're going to trust someone that is not from this world, trust in God. Pray to God. Don't rely on someone's "mediumship" to guide you. In fact, even some Christian prophets aren't being truthful. One night I was on Periscope watching this woman whose 9 year old child just passed from a brain tumor. Instantly, this medium logs on. He starts to blurt out a name. "She's calling for a John. Who's John?" The female broadcaster said, "Oh that's my daughter's father." Then the medium blurted out in the comment section, "James. She's calling for James." And the woman said, "That's her brother! Wow! I really need to talk with you!" As I flipped through Google, I saw her daughter's obituary that stated all the names of her relatives and how she was related to them. This was an easy target for this medium. I notified the grieving mother and asked her to please not rely on this medium. He is taking advantage of you and will most likely charge you because you're intrigued by his "knowledge." Google's good for that.

Charismatic people are most likely to reel you in with their charm. In fact, the term, "con man" was coined by the old practice of the "confidence game," which is swindling by means of trust. They're usually very intelligent, funny and charming. They get you to simply adore them. Once they have you reeled in, BAM, you're out a few thousand dollars or more. I've seen many Christians prophesize on live stream apps. They seem like they're in a trance as they start rambling off "good fortune" to everyone who is listening, or perhaps, that "one" person who may have tuned in. I mean, yes it CAN be real, but with their PayPal link all set up for donations, is it really?

Anyone claiming to be a spiritual, or a Christian prophet that are pretending to be speaking God's words should truly repent. You are risking the Lord being against you -- almost like forgery.

“Their visions are false and their divinations a lie. Even though the Lord has not sent them, they say, 'The Lord declares,' and expect him to fulfill their words. Have you not seen false visions and uttered lying divinations when you say, 'The Lord declares,' though I have not spoken?'  Therefore this is what the Sovereign Lord says: Because of your false words and lying visions, I am against you, declares the Sovereign Lord.” ‭‭Ezekiel‬ ‭13:6-8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

When I attended a church back when I was only 23 years old, I was new to Christianity, just crawling out from the barrels of Catholicism. I remember there was one person at the end of the sermon who would speak in tongues, and then someone across the room would then interpret it. I felt the Holy Spirit and felt this to be true. Your spirit will know -- if you love God with all your heart, God gives you the gift of discernment. You will just know who is false and who is genuinely speaking the words of God.

I guess you can say we all have the gift of intuitiveness, whether we tap into or not. And if we strengthen it like a muscle to help other people, we must be genuine and not scam or lie to people. I truly believe I have the gift of intuitiveness myself, but in a small way, like a premonition in a dream, or even just a gut feeling. Never underestimate your gut instincts. They're usually spot on. I use my intuitiveness for myself and personal awareness. Sometimes I'll check in on a friend if I feel something is 'off' -- which I believe many people have that ability as well. Even if I did have the ability to prophesize, I would never charge someone. That's a gift from God that should be free, in my opinion. What I would suggest is that if you are Christian and looking to speak to your deceased loved one or looking for guidance...PRAY. The answer may not come right away, but God will never let you down.

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Tuesday, February 06, 2018

Just Me, God & a Bit of Wine

As I travel through this long road of learning how to deal with my grief, there've been many suggestions and advice given to me, to which I always appreciate. Many share their own heartbreaking stories to relate to me, while others sit and just say nothing. Sometimes, that's just what I need. The one thing I'm not really a fan of is when some people suggest certain medications, like benzos and valium to get over my grief. I have a doctor and he has given me anti-anxiety meds, and is highly against going on something else. I trust him. I don't want to pop a pill each time I shed a tear for Mom. It's healthy to cry. Don't tell me not to cry. And be careful when trying to comfort someone who lost the most important person in their life, like their mother if you didn't lose your own. It can come across as if you were just trying to pacify them. Grief is a tricky thing. It can come and go as fast as it came. The other day on my birthday, I was pretty much okay. I thought I would be a bawling mess of tears. It wasn't until the next day when I had my meltdown.

I'm alone in this. Nobody understands. Nobody seems to care, and if I'm wrong, then let me know. Grief can cloud my judgment, so cut me a break and just either be there or understand my lack of presence anywhere. I try to occupy my time with delving into my work or just reading and studying on things I need to brush up on. I have no desire to sit at a bar, or be around a ton of people right now -- I just want to see the people I love in a safe setting. I joined a church in the next town over and I'm hoping that this'll help me a great deal. So before the pills, the benzos, the valium, the anti-deal-with-your-life drugs, let me try God first. What did people do 50 years ago when someone they loved died? They dealt with it! They cried it out! They wailed and cried and then fell into acceptance. Let me feel this. I need to, otherwise it'll get shoved underneath all the synthetic drugs that are being thrown at me. I don't want that.

My work is important to me, and it's something I love to do thank God. I've been blessed with the ability to work from home and do what I love. I am very grateful. But right now, if you don't hear from me or see me updating my writing page, it just means I'm working and editing behind the scenes. Sometimes writing isn't the avenue to take, especially on certain days. I know that sometimes these articles can be 'doom & gloom' -- but again, my mom died. Cut me a break. I need to vent, cry, yell, scream and sometimes write it all out. I seriously don't know how to live without her yet. I'm trying to get my groove in this life without her, and all I see is her face. If I have a bad moment, forgive me. If I snap at you, please pardon it. I'm not OK...but I WILL be.

For now, I will work on myself. No drugs required. Just me, God, and a bit of wine.

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