Wednesday, September 22, 2021

The Waves of Grief


It's been four long years since I've seen my beautiful mama's face, and yet it feels just like yesterday when I hugged her before she went into the ambulance for the last time. People handle grief so differently, and not way is the right way---your way is what counts. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' too grieving. When my dad died nine years ago, it was such a strange feeling. The long drawn-out, excruciating suffering that went on made is passing more of a sad relief. We were all quiet. Grief struck differently, in waves, and for myself, it came a bit after his funeral. I had already experienced the 'anticipatory grief,' as he was suffering at the end. I remember his funeral all too well. I was greeting people as they came in, while my mom sat in the front with her sister and friend. The memorial video was set up to make people laugh and cry. Some video footages of my dad captured his very essence: funny and 'colorful' with his words. 

Laughter Is the Best Medicine 

As a friend of my sister's approached me, someone who I normally joke around with. He gave his condolences, and I said thank you, along with a funny comment to lighten it up, and then he said to me, "This is not the place to be making jokes. Not appropriate." I said, "Who are you to tell me how I can grieve or what I can do at my own father's funeral?" People there were reminiscing about my dad, telling their funny stories 'of a time when' and it was okay to laugh. There's nothing like being yourself and being genuine when sending someone off for the very last time. 

It's okay to laugh. It's okay to smile. It's okay to wear loud colors at the funeral if you want. Do you truly think the deceased is calculating the details? I know for me, if I was floating around looking at my own funeral, I would tell people to chill the frig out and lighten up. Death is not the end, and people who are grieving need laughter like you don't even know. 

The best thing that happened to me after my mama died was Madelene's sister who was staying with us. She helped us so much. It was so nice to hear laughter in the other room, or someone with a lightheartedness to eat dinner with. I know that without a doubt, I would've been crippled with unbearable grief if she wasn't there. She kept Madelene company when I had to run to my bedroom and cry my eyes out. And then afterwards, I came back out to join them by the fire pit, or at the dinner table to at least be around some positivity. It was needed. 

Don't ever feel guilty for smiling, laughing, joking or doing something that you enjoy while you're grieving. It's all part of the process. Grief comes in waves, and when the waves of happiness and laughter come crashing through, take that opportunity and soak it in. Let it stay for a while, until the next wave comes, where you can purge your heart out. All of it is okay. 

Numbing the Pain

I made the mistake of numbing the pain with countless bottles of wine. I drank so much that it started affecting my heart and giving me arrhythmia. I already was suffering from "broken heart syndrome," and drinking like there was no tomorrow only made things worse. I didn't know why my heart was beating at 200 bpm, and why I was constantly at the ER. My cardiologist finally said, "One day, your heart is just gonna get tired." I knew from that point on, I would never touch a drink again. The alcohol dilates your blood vessels making the heart work harder. In stressful situations, it can cause what's called, tachycardia, (a fast heart rate.) With time, this can turn into afib -- atrial fibrillation. Some people who have this condition are often carted off into the emergency rooms usually after Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve due to eating and drinking way too much. They call this, "holiday heart syndrome." Needless to say, numbing my grief with alcohol prolonged my grief a great deal. I never fully got to purge my heart out properly. After I quit drinking, the emotions rose to the service and I was able to get it all out---well, most of it out. But now I'm at a place of acceptance that I've never experienced before. I still get sad here and there, but it's not debilitating any longer. I don't lose days over it. But this is a personal issue I had to work through. Everyone is different, so if a glass or two of wine helps you to unwind at night, then I say have at it. But if you see that it becomes a struggle to get through the next day, you might want to reel it in. 

Where Did Everyone Go?

With grief comes the absence of friends sometimes. Sadly, this is a very common occurrence and often happens after the funeral itself. All the calls, the voicemails and texts start getting less and less. The offers of "what can I do" become nonexistent, and you find yourself standing in the middle of your living room alone. There's a couple of reasons for this. Remember, your friends and family are also possibly grieving, where they're unable to even help themselves right now, and some people feel awkward to call, or they feel bad and don't want to bother you. They may think that you're surrounded by grieving family and don't want to become a burden on you. Others may feel a sense of fear that this may happen to them, and so even the thought or inclination of this happening in their own lives may cause them to pull away for a short period of time. It's all fear-based. It may be 'too close to home' for them to handle, not realizing that their friend needs them right now. This is also normal and very common. Just learn to forgive and focus on your own wellness and healing. 

Psychics and Mediums

Stop. Do you seriously believe a psychic is drumming up your deceased loved one? Or would you rather believe that your loved one is in the hands of your God? When psychics drum up anything, they're called, "familiar spirits." Familiar spirits is not of God---they are demons and they know everything about you. They know about the locket you have hidden in your nightstand where you sleep, and they can also recall that time at the beach where you lost your flipflop and had to walk barefoot on the boardwalk. They will conjure up memories and items that there is no possible way for anyone else to know. But don't believe it is your loved one. This is a portal where spirits can actually follow you, attach themselves to you and wreak havoc in your life. Anything that has to do with psychics, oracle cards, tarot cards, crystals or saving ceremony is all a part of witchcraft. Please be careful. These are my own beliefs backed up by the Bible. 

"Do not turn to mediums or necromancers; do not seek them out, and so make yourselves unclean by them. I am the Lord your God."---Leviticus 19;31

"If a person turns to mediums and necromancers, whoring after them, I will set my face against that person and will cut him off among his people." ---Leviticus 20:6

"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world." ---1 John 4:1

"And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light." ---2 Corinthians 11:14

If you're a Christian and seeking out mediums and psychics, this can be detrimental for your salvation! I did this too and found out the hard way. 

For instance, when my mom died, I remember sitting in my living room at 3am reading something online. I heard my mom's voice calling out, "Debbie!!!" (As if she was excited to get through the veil.) Now, whether or not it was her is the question, but something didn't feel right. My spirit knew it wasn't her. It was the devil mocking her voice to get me to inquire more about spirits and ghosts. I ran out of the room and jumped into my bed and cried out for Jesus. I remember that so vividly too. So now when I 'hear' from my mom, it's a subtle hint, like her birthday numbers coming up, or a feather on the ground, even dimes and a seashell I found on our lawn. Weird stuff that can't be explained. Treasure the little gifts that your loved ones' spirits can bring, but don't seek them out with theses psychics....please. 

The best way for me to honor my loved ones, is keeping their legend alive. Whatever your loved one did, try to replicate it or celebrate it. I take all of my mom's recipes and recreate her dishes. We used to cook together, so she used to show me how to make soups and how to make a good Sunday sauce. My dad was also a good cook and I remember him teaching me how to cut properly with good knives. I can tell you other things I learned from Dad, but I'd probably go to jail. (ha) 

Let it All Out

Your grief is your own. Let it come out when you feel it---don't hold it in. Remember, your tears are letting out stress hormones. You know how they say, "crying is good for you?" Believe it. Studies of the various kinds of tears have found that emotional tears contain higher levels of stress hormones than do reflex tears (the ones that form when you get something in your eye). Emotional tears also contain more mood-regulating manganese than the other types. Stress "tightens muscles and heightens tension, so when you cry you release some of that---crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance. That's why you feel a relief afterwards. 

Take care of you, because in most cases, nobody else is going to do it. They may try, but you're the best person who knows how to make you feel better. Pray continuously and know that you're not alone. God is with you every step of the way.

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Friday, September 17, 2021

Changing the Atmosphere


Did you ever feel as though your prayers weren't strong enough, or that it really didn't do anything noticeable? Why do some prayers get answered and others not? 

I love what Pastor Rick Warren once said, 

"When you’re going through fire, do you ever wonder why you have to go through it? It’s for testing and purification. As you pray about something over and over again, you face tests that reveal more about you. God says in Zechariah 13:9, 'I will refine them like silver and purify them like gold.' 

You test gold by putting it in a big vat and heating it until it gets so hot that all the impurities are burned off. How do metalsmiths know when gold and silver are pure? When they can see their reflection in them. God can see his reflection in you when all the impurities have burned out of your life—after you’ve been through the fire. He says that, after he’s done the testing and purification, 'They will call on my name, and I will answer them' (Zechariah 13:9). Answered prayer comes after the test. Before every blessing, there is a testing. God tests you with stress before he trusts you with success. These are the principles of persistent prayer." 

Before and after losing my mom from cancer, I always woke up with a pit of fear in my stomach. It started late into her treatments, when I realized nothing was working. I'd wake up with this pit of fear---a feeling of doom. My heart would race, or I would be 'off' all day long. It lasted well into the years, even after she passed away. I was never the same. My worst fear had come true---mom's no longer with me. One doctor even told me that I had what's called, "broken heart syndrome," which is an actual real diagnosis. It can even be fatal for some. 

First Things First

Pray. Even before your feet hit the floor, wake up with a heart of gratitude. Speak aloud your thankfulness to God, even if it's the same thing over and over. I always say, "Thank you God for another day!" And, "Today is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it!" After having my morning coffee, I sit down and pray---before even working on anything. I read scriptures aloud, especially Psalm 91, which is super relevant to today's climate. Don't skip on talking to God the first thing upon waking up. You're not too tired to at least say thank you---because let's face it, He woke you up to see another day. It works better than coffee. 

Changing the Atmosphere 

Have you ever had the feeling of impending doom, or that something bad is going to happen? It's enough to make you wanna curl back up in your bed and throw the covers over your head. I've been there, and from time to time, I can relapse into that mindset. Prayer changes everything. Fervent prayer. I'm talking about the prayer that has you crying, sending goosebumps and chills up your spine. Some would call this the anointing, that Jesus is right there with you---but Jesus is always there with you. It's when you finally believe He is, which sends that message to your soul. Have that conversation with Him, even if you're shaking under the covers---talk to Him and tell Him everything that's on your mind. Watch how the atmosphere changes. It automatically raises your vibration. With that being established, the fear will lessen or diminish altogether. Sometimes, when it's a struggle, I put on worship music. That alone will change the atmosphere, because most worship songs sing out biblical scriptures. The devil can't fight that. Resist the devil and he will flee. 

Conflict Among Friends or Loved Ones? 

Pray. I know that sounds like the simplest solution. But Jesus teaches us to "pray for our enemies"---this isn't meant to sound like they're the "evil enemy"---but to pray for those you're arguing with, or have no contact with. Pray sincerely---not just words to cover whatever you want out of this. It has to be a blessing for that other individual you had a conflict with. A few years ago, I thought I could do it all myself. And while I still can lash out from time to time out of instinctive  self-preservation, to make things better or to restore what was lost (or) accept things that I cannot change---I pray for the wellness and blessings for the other person, even if I never speak to them again. And it's okay to remove people out of your life sometimes. Ephesians and Corinthians speaks a lot about not associating with certain people who are either unbelievers, or who are doing evil things. It literally says, "Therefore, do not be partakers with them." It also says, "Do not be yoked with unbelievers." ----This is not to say to shun those who aren't sure about their faith or who are of another faith. It's the opposition, or even those who say they believe, but their actions speak otherwise. My point is: if an unbeliever or someone of another faith (or set of standards) pushes you to be disillusioned over your own, then cut ties. 

What Others Think of You is None of Your Business

How can you know what someone thinks about you? What conclusions did they conjure up? You have no idea, unless they tell you....or they tell someone else. Then it becomes a 'he said she said' game of telephone. But we sometimes get in this mindset that if someone is too quiet, or not as talkative as they once were, then that means they don't like you, or that they think you're doing something against their moral standards. This is super common. I used to torture myself with these thoughts, until I realized, that the only one I truly care about what they think of me is God, and God alone. You can't control someone's thoughts or first impressions of you...or their last. You can only control your response to whatever situation you're faced with. If you truly care about that person, then call them, make that initial contact and ask them, "Are you ok?" Or just call them as you would normally do. You might just be surprised. And again, as always, pray for those who you are unsure of. 

Shifting a Tense Atmosphere 

Have you ever felt someone else's energy right before they even walk into the room? You know the mood they're in and whether or not to approach them with certain topics. Sometimes, you're even walking on eggshells to avoid the great 'crack.'  Did you know that most people will automatically match your energy? So if you're feeling depressed, or angry---that person who walks in feels it too. They'll instantly shift like a chameleon to match your frequency, unless their frequency is way too high to ever come down. And that's where you want to be. When you raise your vibration, you shift the atmosphere. Little things to push toward that goal is to genuinely enjoy what you are doing, even if it's the most mundane of things. I dance and sing while doing my laundry. It's such a mood lifter. When I cook, I put on my Italian music---(not opera or something too serious)---I put on the goofy Italian goomba music, like the ones they used on 'Mob Hits' back in the day. I dance, sing 'n shake 'n bake like a crazy lady. When my better half walks in the door, automatically I see a smile and I get a big hug! I love hugs. Raise that vibration! 

The Takeaway

Life is too short to be worrying about what someone else thinks of you. Never settle for anything less than sincere and genuine friendships---the ones who can make you laugh while you're down and lift you up just by listening to you. Even if you're isolated and feel alone, it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Society deems that being a loner or being isolated can be bad for our mental health. If isolation bothers you, then yes, you will suffer, but if isolation soothes your soul, then that's a beautiful thing. Of course there's a beautiful balance of mixing the two: isolation and congregating around positive people who love you. Resistance to anything causes suffering, and of course, whatever you resist, persists. Sometimes we have to welcome unwanted changes, and with that, comes acceptance. After those stages, it's up to you whether or not to choose happiness or depression. If you choose depression, then make a conscious decision to stay in it for a little while, feel all your 'feels' and evaluate what you need to do to move forward. We can't be fully happy if we don't experience the lows, and vice versa. 

If you're happy, remember, it won't last forever. If you're depressed, remember, it won't last forever. 


Warning: If you're reading this post today, you've been prayed for. Prayers of emotional and physical health from head to toe in Jesus' name. Amen... 

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Wednesday, September 15, 2021

What Is Your Plan B?




What you did for yourself and your family and friends, as well as those who may be around you at work or in the grocery store was a morally decent thing to do. You're super brave, and your hearts are all in the right place. There's no question about it---you did what you did with good intentions. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. We're supposed to listen to our doctors, our hospitals and the CDC. We're supposed to believe that the government is helping us. We are supposed to believe many things, until the truth unfolds. But remember, it's not your fault. With that being said, this is also not the fault of the unvaccinated. 

We were lied to. 

From the very beginning, all the people around me were "seemingly" vaccinated. No one said a word if they weren't. I didn't care---I always told people I was unvaccinated, so they could make a decision whether or not to be around me. I wanted to give them that choice. I even did that with a coworker who came into my house. She wore a mask and we both were okay. 

When the mandates came out, the truth came out. Nurses, doctors and every type of healthcare worker started walking off the job due to the ultimatum of "get the jab or get the hell out," from their employers. Why in the world would your nurses and doctors walk out over getting vaccinated? Aren't they 'in the know?' This is why more and more people are waking up and realizing what's being done to them. You can call me a conspiracy theorist all you want, but there's more of me with the tinfoil hats than the vaccinated. 

There was a leaked Zoom meeting that revealed a doctor questioning how to increase the count of COVID-19 patient numbers on the hospital's dashboard report. The leaked video came from a recording from an "internal source" at the Novant Health System that includes New Hanover Regional Medical Center in Wilmington, North Carolina. 

One doctor is seen telling the staff, "I think we have to be more blunt, we have to be more forceful—we have to say something coming out—if you don’t get vaccinated, you know you are going to die,” Rudyk said in the video. “Let’s just be really blunt to these people.”

Fisher asked if she meant every patient who has been in the hospital “since the beginning of COVID?” 

Rudyk answered, “Well, that are still in, and that’s something I can take to someone else, but I think those are important numbers: the patients that are still in the hospital, that are off the COVID floor, but still are occupying the hospital for a variety of reasons.” 

Also on the Zoom conference call was Shelbourn Stevens, president of New Hanover Regional Medical Center, who said those patients are classified as “recovered.” 

“But I do think, from our standpoint, we would still consider them a COVID patient because they’re still healing,” Stevens said. Rudyk said she thinks those patients need to be “highlighted as well, because once they’re off isolation, they drop from the COVID numbers,” prompting Stevens to say that they can later talk offline about “how we can run that up to marketing.”

Listen to this video until the end---it's truly the creepiest thing I've heard. 



Since Biden gave out the mandate, healthcare workers everywhere are walking out and now protesting. Many are protesting right here in New York. 

There are many cases where the vaccinated have either been seriously injured or have died from the jab. People aren't listening. It's especially hard to listen if you're being silenced or banned from sites left and right. 

One clue, even before the mandates was this: if you're vaccinated, and still catching and spreading the virus, what does that tell you? Why are there vaccinated people in the hospital right now? 

Families are uninviting their unvaccinated guests from their weddings, birthday parties and other gatherings. They're dividing, calling the unvaccinated, "selfish" and that "they're killing people." They're also using Biden's lingo, "This is a pandemic of the unvaccinated." They want to see you divide. This is exactly what was planned. I can even feel the pull of my vaccinated friends as well. It's okay, because I know how strong fear can take hold of someone. 

If I'm wrong (if most of the world is wrong) then we can easily fix it by going out and getting vaccinated. 

So to my vaccinated friends and readers, what is your plan B? 

Fauci should be fired for crimes against humanity. Everything is coming out in the open and I'm actually terrified over what will come next. 

Pray without ceasing. Try your hardest to LOVE one another, regardless of your vaccination status. We shouldn't be angry at one another---we should be angry at those who inflicted this virus on us, and then tried harder with the "cure." 

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Wednesday, August 25, 2021

When Nothing Makes Sense, Go With Your Gut

There’s a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death. We’ve all made decisions that at the time seemed right but later turned out to be wrong. Some paths lead to dead ends & you end up off track. That’s why you need to admit, “God, I need help.” --Proverbs 14:12 ~ 

The weapon most used by the evil one is fear. What has driven society to go out and grab the "cure" to the disease? Fear. What has motivated the government, business owners and schools to discriminate against those who don't want the "cure?" Fear. 

So let me get this straight. If the cure works, then why are people afraid of the disease? The ones without the "cure" should be more fearful... but they're not because their eyes are open. When people have the Spirit living within them, they have discernment and understanding --- not as the world does. They have more of an intuitive gut wrenching feeling to avoid what is absolutely necessary. What one person may think is right, actually leads to death, as it states in the Bible. 

Last June I was sick with a flu-like illness. I had COVID. Five members in my family who were vaccinated also came down with COVID. We kept hearing more people who were vaccinated having more breakthrough infections with COVID. Those extra lines in your vaccination cards definitely were intended for already foreseen booster shots. It'll never stop. Two weeks to flatten the curve, right? 

I'm not going to get into debating theories and whatnot---or 'my scientist is better than your scientist' type of banter, but the fact is, I am not a scientist. I'm a child of God who has discernment. My spirit tells me that this is bad---not just common sense. It's a gut feeling. The government is so desperately trying to jab us, at any cost! Here, burgers and fries! Here look, a free joint from the distillery! Hey, free beer! But the one thing that wasn't offered was free chemo, free insulin or EpiPens for those who truly need it. They offered other poisons in exchange to take their poison. 

Dozens of essential workers were out protesting against these mandates over in Middletown, New York. Many believe that this should be a personal choice on each individual. Counterclaims and concerns whether or not an unvaccinated person will make everyone sick is contradictory, because the vaccinated are also getting people sick. So none of this makes any sense at all....and when something doesn't make sense, it's a lie.

You can't force anyone to get vaccinated. It's illegal. Yes, you can deny them service at your restaurant or private store, even deny them medical attention at a private family practice, but their time is running short. You'll soon find out the truth of it all if you haven't already. Your vaccine? It doesn't work. It's not even helping with the "new variants" and reports have been published that it is now "variant resistant." 

I urge you, please be kind to everyone, especially those who do not want the jab. Because the time is coming when you're going to find out the truth, if you haven't already. God gave all of us free will, and so should you. A Christian asked me, "Well WWJD?" (What Would Jesus Do?) And I responded, 

Do I believe it's the mark? It has all the traits, but I truly believe they're priming us for it. My belief and faith tells me to repel from it. This is why I think it's important for anyone to understand why certain people should be religiously exempt from taking this. It goes against everything we stand for. We are being threatened that we cannot buy or sell, without the name or number. In fact, I'm not as concerned about the side effects as much as I am about my own eternity with my God. If you could look at it from a person of faith's perspective, you'd know that this is the one thing we cannot do. Ever. And it's no disrespect to you or your family and children, because let's face it---the vaccinated are spreading the disease just as the unvaccinated, so why are you ignoring that important part? We are being lied to. It'll never go back to whatever normal we ever had---because they're waist high in propaganda and they want you to believe that your friends and family who are against this "cure" are bad people, and that they're killing others due to their selfishness. If you knew me, or spoke to anyone who knows me, you'll find out that I'm the least selfish person. I'd help you if you needed anything---I'd give the shirt off my back to help in any way, shape or form. Need a place to stay? Food to eat? A friend to talk to? My door is open to you. And that my friend, is a promise.

Please stop and look at what they're doing to us. Remember that phrase, "divide and conquer?" And if they can't kill us one way, they'll try to have us killing each other. If you want the vaccine, then take it. This is something you have to do for yourself, and I totally respect that. If it makes you safer going out in the world with some protection---I totally get that. I would have gotten it too if it weren't for my faith. Also, I am not anti-vax, I have had all of my vaccinations and annual flu shots. This one is very different though. I just wish other people had the same respect I have for them. 

Remember when people spoke about conspiracy theorists? There were like probably less than a handful of people you could call out. But this is half of America. Not even 2 years ago, conspiracy theorists were few and far between. If this many people are awake to the lies, then you truly have to evaluate what they are looking into. And if you don't think you're being lied to, then go with your gut. But why can't you focus on yourself, your family and go about life and not focus on mine? 

But you're willing to fire your employees over a vaccine that doesn't work? Think about that. 
You're willing to shun a family member because they won't get the jab? Think about that.
You're willing to risk your livelihood and only let vaccinated people in your restaurant? Think about that.
You're willing to let go of nurses and doctors---our heroes last year, who have cared and saved the lives of many, many patients during the pandemic? Think about that. 
And the nurses and doctors who are walking out because they no longer want to help the unvaccinated? Think about that, because when you're before God one day, you're going to have to explain a whole lot.
That's just evil. 

One more thing, if the inventor of the mRNA technology, Dr. Robert Malone strongly advises people to stay away from this vaccine, shouldn't that raise a red flag? They're even trying to discredit him online, when he was the first one to invent this technology. 

I trust that God will reveal all secrets out into the open. 

Though a thousand may fall at your side,
Though ten thousand are dying around you, 
These evils will not touch you!
But you will see it with your eyes, 
You will see how the wicked are punished. ---Psalms 91:7-8 

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Thursday, July 29, 2021

Love Always Wins

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's to love people as much as you possibly can, and help as much as within your capability to do so. Sometimes, when you see someone on a daily basis, familiarity can breed contempt. People may think they know you, or feel compelled to make assumptions as well as snide remarks. I usually just blow it off, but when it comes to someone threatening me with conspiracy theories off their own, I will stand up for myself. The other day while in a Zoom meeting, they hired a new guy who seemed to be nice and helpful. As time went on, I began to really like him and enjoyed what he had to offer to the group. Unfortunately, the topic regarding the vaccine came up in a group where it was a mixed bag of opinions and views. I placed myself on mute, because I didn't want to sway someone else's decision. That's their business---not mine. I also don't judge anyone for taking the vaccine. With that being said, there is one thing that will make me speak up: threats.

It wasn't an all-out threat on my well-being, but the new guy also was aware of everyone else's 'status' if you will. So he took it upon himself to say, (while smirking), "You know they're gonna knock on your door and put your into quarantine camps, right?" 

There are so many things wrong with that one sentence. For starters, it's misinformation. Nobody is coming to my door to drag me out of my home and into some FEMA camp. (Not yet at least.) Yes, they may knock on my door to offer it to me, and I will be respectful to them, but this isn't Nazi Germany, though it's beginning to feel that way. 

For the first time ever, I took myself off mute and gave him a proverbial bloody nose. Surprisingly, as an African-American, did he somehow forget the 40 year syphilis study at Tuskegee, where they gave them all experimental vaccines that killed so many people? People are erasing history more and more, which ultimately makes them forget, more and more as well. Soon enough, by taking away movies like, Gone With the Wind, or anything remotely having to do with slavery, will make people forget it altogether. It's a part of history that we should hold onto, so that we don't repeat it. But many don't see it that way. 

After President Biden assured the American people (which is on video) that you cannot get COVID if you are vaccinated, is in itself, misinformation. There are people in our hospitals with COVID right now who have been vaccinated. Gov. Cuomo wants people to go door-to-door and bring them in a car to put a needle in their arm. He said that the other day, which I have the video for. It wasn't only creepy, it was almost dictatorship creepy. This is not the America I once knew. He also is trying to get restaurants to deny the unvaccinated, when in fact, it's the vaccinated who are spreading the virus as well. None of this makes any sense at all. Your vaccines do not work, otherwise there wouldn't be "breakthrough cases." 

Here's my opinion: if you take the vaccine, that's a personal health choice you made, which is none of my business whatsoever. We are all vulnerable to the virus. I had COVID most of June. It was a punch to my lungs, but God got me through it all. I isolated, stayed home, didn't mingle with anyone. I am not a threat to you or anyone else. I can't even get the shot because now I have to wait at least eight months (if) I choose to get it, due to the antibodies, per my doctor. I have the best vaccination ever---antibodies. I'm good with that.

My reasoning for being hesitant refusing the vaccine is mainly for religious reasons. You can't fight me on that one. I will not do something that I feel goes against God. I won't. I'd rather die. And I am willing to die for my God. That's how passionate I am about it. But I'm not going to say to you ----"Oh you won't get into heaven if you take the shot." No. That's between you and your God. That has nothing to do with me. Your health has nothing to do with me. 

And my health....has nothing to do with you.

The problem is, people are dividing. Families are even shunning one another. My friend's mother won't let her visit any longer, due to refusing the shot. Friendships are severing. If you feel so safe with your vaccine, then why would it matter who got it and who didn't? The government has succeeded in "dividing and conquering." This is what they wanted all along, and it's working. 

Even for myself, I almost made a decision to separate from those who were vaccinated, due to the conversation even being brought up. You can do all the research on the left, you can do all the research on the right, and it'll always be, "I'm right and you're wrong." 

Sometimes it has to come down to faith, and picking and choosing those who will uplift you in life. In the Bible, it clearly says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinth 6:14. 

But then I think of the greatest commandment of all. Jesus said, "Love the Lord God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself." --Matthew 22:36-40  

I will stick with the greatest commandment as a rule of thumb. 

I will love those who are different than I am, and if they accept me, I will be more than happy to have them in my life. I'm not going to shun anyone, in hopes no one shuns me in return. I will accept those who no longer want me part of their life due to this politicized propaganda. It has destroyed too many relationships, and I'm going to fight this negative tug and keep loving those, even if they don't love me in return. I will always pray for them, in hopes that they receive perfect health, love and happiness that can only come from God. 

I will NEVER laugh if someone falls ill, from the virus or the "cure." I will be there for anyone who needs me. 

And this, I promise. 

If you are in my life right now, especially my family and my close friends---I LOVE YOU and will always be here if you need me. If you need food, if you need a place to stay or just someone to vent to, I will always be that friend or family member to welcome you with open arms. Even if you decide to shun me due to my personal health choices, I will understand. I'll pray for the both of us from a distance.  Remember, love always wins. 

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Friday, May 07, 2021

Critical Thinking & Personal Beliefs Are Now Banned


Whether you're a believer or not, you've probably heard quite a few Christians saying that Jesus is coming back soon. As far as I can remember, each war, each political upheaval and catastrophic event in the world has led people to believe that the rapture was coming even sooner. But the fact still remains: nobody knows the day or hour. "But Deb, there's a pandemic now!" Okay---but remember back in 1968 when the Hong Kong Flu, (oh wait, politically incorrect)---the H3N2 virus struck? The pandemic that shook the entire globe? The estimated number of deaths was 1 million worldwide and about 100,000 in the United States. Most excess deaths were in people 65 years and older. The H3N2 virus continues to circulate worldwide as a seasonal influenza A virus.  Jesus did not come back. 

Trek back to the Spanish Flu, (oh wait, politically incorrect as well as literally incorrect)---the 1918 Pandemic. It is estimated that about 500 million people or one-third of the world’s population became infected with this virus. The number of deaths was estimated to be at least 50 million worldwide with about 675,000 occurring in the United States. Mortality was high in people younger than 5 years old, 20-40 years old, and 65 years and older. The high mortality in healthy people, including those in the 20-40 year age group, was a unique feature of this pandemic. While the 1918 H1N1 virus has been synthesized and evaluated, the properties that made it so devastating are not well understood. With no vaccine to protect against influenza infection and no antibiotics to treat secondary bacterial infections that can be associated with influenza infections, control efforts worldwide were limited to non-pharmaceutical interventions such as isolation, quarantine, good personal hygiene, use of disinfectants, and limitations of public gatherings, which were applied unevenly. 

No vaccine. The human race still thrived. And again, Jesus did not return for that one either. 

We've experienced earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes, tsunamis and nuclear meltdowns---all the things that the Bible points out to as a clear sign to the 'end times.' 

"This is unprecedented" --- no it is not. We have been through this before as humans. This hasn't happened in our lifetime, unless you're over the age of 100.  

So when is the right time to predict Jesus' return? 

Never. 

Why never? Because He will come like a thief in the night, when you least expect Him, and maybe not even when there's something catastrophic happening. That's the point---to BE PREPARED. To BE READY. To stand on your faith even when the world is peaceful. If Jesus were to appear on the clouds and return to us, how would you feel? Would you be prepared today---right now as you're reading this----if He was to return to judge us and to either take or leave us---are you ready? 


I can't tell you how many times I've seen Christian prophets on social media saying that they're hearing angels speak to them and that the time is near and to be prepared. They're hearing loud explosions and some even hearing the trumpets (as I've heard in a dream once before, but tis just a dream, I believe.) Maybe it's good to get people to turn to God while they are uncertain and scared, but I don't believe fear should be a motivator to have a closer relationship with God. Fear, is not of God. 

About 25 years ago, I walked into a church called, "The Trinity Assembly of God." It was a born- again Christian church that based its sermons on the importance of repentance. And of course, being a new Christian, I wasn't ready to hear fear-mongering pastors reprimand me, while a divorcee and her new husband were sitting in the front row. I found every flaw, every hypocrisy, and every scripture to back up my ammunition when the time was right. 

One night, they had a female pastor speak. She had traveled out of state to be with us and spend two hours preaching. I'll never forget what she said, although most of my body language was leaning toward the exit sign. She was explaining how the rapture would be, and how those who relied on riding the coattails of other Christians would be disappointed. (Using exact words.) They're forever in my head.

"So you've pulled up to your mom's house, expecting to see family and friends to greet you. You walk towards the front door and notice that it's open already. You slowly walk in, calling out for your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, but nobody answers you back. As you move down the hallway, you can smell the delicious aromas of food being prepared. Somebody's gotta be home, right? As you move toward the kitchen, you can see the stove. The oven has a turkey roasting and on the stovetop, pots are simmering, ready to be taken off. 

But where did everyone go? You're confused,  and so you search through the entire house inside and out. Not one person is there. That's how it'll be like if you don't repent." 

This is how the threat of being unrepentant was explained to me. Back then, I was so offended over everything. "How dare they say I'm not getting into heaven! Why do they hate us?" I seriously thought they hated me and anyone else who was a new Christian. In took many years to figure out that they were actually excited that I was there with them, so they can try and save my soul, hoping I would repent. It took THIS long to believe that story. And today, I love that story. It's how I imagine it would be like if I rejected God, or selfishly continued  living the way I did. But as a baby Christian, "How dare you judge me!" And of course, I always had to look up a bunch of "judge not" scriptures to justify anything.

In all honesty, these past few years have brought me to my knees. Between losing my parents, losing my childhood home, division with my family as well as adjusting to my new environment, plus the pandemic, I surrendered myself to God. I couldn't handle all of it. I couldn't handle the many nights I laid awake with a racing heart, thinking it would finally give out on me. The anxiety, depression and wishing God would just end my life, had consumed me. I can't say it doesn't happen from time to time, as it had recently. But I keep hanging onto God, and relying on my circle of prayer warriors to get me through it all. If I slip, I'm gone. What I mean is, if I lose my relationship with God, my entire purpose, and reason being here right now is pointless. Without God, I am completely lost. Lately, it's been difficult to communicate with Him---my thoughts are just racing with random 'to-do's and worries of tomorrow, when I know the Scriptures say not to worry about tomorrow----tomorrow will worry about itself. But I'm human. 


So my point to this long drawn out article is: stay strong. You're going to find a lot of "silent" division as well as publicly displayed division. On each side of the vaccinated---you're going to see people shunning one another due to personal believes and whatnot. If someone does not want to be in your life due to your personal beliefs, then that's their choice. You have no control over this. 

Remember this scripture and memorize it because now is the time that it's all coming to a head. So when you feel shunned for not doing as the world does, READ this scripture aloud if you have to: 

“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also."---John 15:18-20

You're even going to come across people who are close to you that pretend they are believers, or do things publicly to have others believe they are. It's great to scream on the mountaintops that you love God, but when it has a motive behind it, God knows your heart, and people can sense that from miles away. Don't be fooled by other believers telling you that what the world wants you to do is "good." It's not. It's not. Whatever the world wants, turn your back from it. We are not of this world. This is the time of great testing, and people you thought would never fail, are falling into the pit of deception right now. Pray for them, because they are doing exactly as the Bible said they would do. 

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Wednesday, April 28, 2021

For the Greater Good

These are my thoughts and beliefs alone, and nobody else's. I can't speak for everyone else---only myself. My opinions, research and beliefs do not reflect anyone I work for. Most people I work along with have different views than I do. So with that being said, it hurts to see so many people still at odds with one another over political and mostly, social issues. They want us to hate each other. Don't let them win. "Them" is subjective. Them isn't really subjective if you think about who's been screaming 'fear' into our homes, making us want to crawl back deeper into our caves, isolating ourselves from family and friends...isolating ourselves from the world itself. At first it seemed like a good idea. Two weeks, and we'll be back to normal. Well, now they're saying two years and we'll be back to "normal." And now, without your "special identification jabby card," you won't be able to come out and play with the rest of the kids. 

For instance, There was a volcano that went off in the Caribbean Island. They were evacuating their people on cruise ships---but wait---not you, unless you've been waxinnated. No, that wasn't autocorrect. Keywords apparently set off my blog for "false information" from the American CCP. 

"For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it." Matthew 16-25 

It's OK to Question Things That May Look Off

Last year, I had so many questions. I have a lot of nurse friends who also had a lot of questions, until they became silent. Social media, the dark web, videos that were pulled down revealed strange things and I couldn't fathom the thought of our own---our own officials would lie to us---our very own caregivers, nurses and doctors. They've uncovered a ton of videos of nurses and doctors dancing in empty emergency rooms, empty C0VlD units, and those who did come out with their 'story' were either fired, bribed to a higher position, or let go. Many nurses were laid off during the pandemic. All of this doesn't make a bit of sense. How can any nurse be laid off during the most crucial time of our lives? While in the hospital last September with sinus tachycardia, the maskless cardiologist was sitting next to my bed. I quickly grabbed my mask, and he grabbed my hand, and then said it wasn't needed. I asked him if there were many people in here with C0VlD. His answer was, "Only one person who is dying of cancer is here." 

But? 

"For nothing is hidden, except to be manifest; nor is anything secure except to come to light." --Mark 4:22

"Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known." --Luke 12:2

"Therefore, whatever you have said in the dark, shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops." ---Luke 12:3 

"So have no fear of them, for nothing is covered that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known." --Matthew 10:26

Last night, we dined in a crowded restaurant with maskless people all around us. The rules were: when you sit down, you can unmask. When you stand up, please wear your mask. So does the virus only live above 5 ft? It didn't make any sense at all. If that doesn't somehow wake you up a little, I'm not sure what will. 

Stop Judging People

Here's the thing. Stop insulting people who have different beliefs and opinions than you. For instance, I know many people in my life who are getting waxinnated. They are good people. They are doing it to protect their health, as well as the people around them. They're doing it for the greater good. Their hearts are in the right place. Stop judging them and calling them "sheep" or insinuating that they are less intelligent than you are. It's wrong. Share your beliefs, but at what point does it come down to vicious name calling--- oh, and that one word that's always thrown around, "selfish" ---I get that a lot. People in general are scared, and they feel safer taking the jab. On the same respectful note, you have to be OK with those who are not waxxinated. If you are confident that your jab worked, then why worry about the non-vaxxers? 

Here's Where It Gets Muddled In With Religious Beliefs

There are many Christians who have read Revelations and the sign of times. They've been doing that for years and years, and some predicting things that haven't even happened, like Harold Camping, who said that the rapture was coming May 21, 2011 at 6pm. I went out on my balcony with a martini, waiting for our Savior to get me. I sat there for a few hours. Needless to say, a few hours later, I was intoxicated. Then he said, "Now it's on October 21st," and that's when people started to ignore him. Oddly enough, he passed away shortly after. 

Here's why Christians are scared to death of this waxxination. You can't blame them either. 

Let's start with Bill Gates having the patent number of 060606. That alone set many Christians ablaze. On top of that, the ingredients of Luciferin dissolved in 66.6 ml of distilled phosphate raised many eyebrows. 

And here's why: 

In Revelations chapter 13 in the Bible, it says, "The second beast was given power to give breath to the image of the first beast, so that the image could speak and cause all who refused to worship the image to be killed. It also forced all people, great and small, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hands or on their foreheads, so that they could not buy or sell unless they had the mark, which is the name of the beast or the number of its name. This calls for wisdom. Let the person who has insight calculate the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man. That number is 666."

Before you start judging a Christian who refuses the jab for religious reasons, put yourself into their shoes. They sincerely feel as though they would lose their soul if they participate in this. It's not that they don't care about your health and society's overall health, they don't want the 'mark of the beast' on them. This is their belief. If the manufacturers didn't want to have any issues with this sort of thing, then why for the love of God, put those numbers and name associated with it? 

"...the name of the beast or the number of its name." It has both. Even if it was a huge coincidence --- people are looking for that clear sign. This is as clear as it gets and you cannot force them to think otherwise. They're not being selfish, they are being faithful. This world is not to be in higher regard to that of heaven. They would be literally sinning if they took the jab. Would you force an orthodox Jewish person to eat shellfish? Would you force someone who is Muslim to eat pork? This is how it is, but on a much more extreme level. Doing this --- there is no forgiveness. Once you are jabbed, you cannot get un-jabbed. 

The Tawk' Around the Webs

Now the vaxxers don't want to be around the un-vaxxers, but what's more interesting are the un-vaxxers warning us about the ones who did get the jab. So rumor has it, that the spike proteins in the vax are bio-identical to those in the human reproductive system which would make people sterile. As well as the fact that there has been significant proof that they "shed" and can pass to the unvaxxed. 

To believe or not to believe?

What and Should We Believe? 

For religious reasons and for those who are allergic to the flu shot, I think those people should be exempt. I have had friends and family invite me over, and assure me that it would be safe since everyone was waxxinated. The CDC itself even says that the waxxinated can still catch C0VlD. Some of these people are in high positions in hospitals. They're nurses, doctors, even CEOs. 

The irony is, if you are waxxinated, you can be in a large crowd without a mask. But, doesn't that pose a risk too? 

For me, and for myself, I am going to trust my God-given immunity and love on everyone, regardless of what their decision is. By judging the people you love who did get waxxinated, you are defeating the purpose. You can try to explain why you're not getting the jab, in hopes that they'll come to their own intelligent and spiritual decision, but that's all you can do. And by getting the jab does NOT mean that they are not intelligent. Stop calling them "stupid" and just respect them. I wish it went both ways. But we also need the same respect, not to be mocked for our religious views. We take it seriously. I would rather die, than to try and "save my life" with a needle that isn't even 100% effective. And that's my religious and personal views on this. 

You do you. If you feel uncomfortable around me, then that's your decision. There's always FaceTime and Zoom. 

Live your life. It's over in a blink of an eye. Love your friends, your family....if you can. 

Visit and support your local restaurants and eateries. Enjoy this day as we did back in 2019. 

Be mindful, respectful, and most of all, just love one another. 

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Tuesday, April 20, 2021

Can People Change?

Do you think a person can change? For instance, do you think a person with abusive behavior can change, or maybe someone who is unfaithful and cheats on their spouse can change their ways? What about someone who constantly lies? I honestly believe that people can change, but it takes time, and in most cases, it's impossible for a leopard to change its spots. Sometimes, it's just in their nature---imbedded and rooted---no chance for change. At what point do you accept that person as who they are, and meet them where they're at, or just simply, (or not so simply) walk away for good? I thought about this a lot these past couple of years. I'm a big believer in forgiveness. In the Bible, when Peter asked Jesus, "How often should I forgive my brother? As many as seven times?" Then Jesus told him, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven." This basically means, you are to always forgive, as God always forgives you. But shouldn't there be certain types of offenses that we need to say, "Okay, that's it---I'm done?" Jesus never does that to us, no matter what sin it is. As long as we repent and have deep sorrow for what we have done, we are forgiven. 

So then, my question would be: is the person who hurt us truly sorry? 

Words can be meaningless to the person hurting us. They think a little "song and dance" of how sorry they are will bring them back into our lives, but in their heart, they have no intention of changing. And while some are genuinely sorry for what they did, their true nature just cannot change. They go back like a rubber band, snapping right back to their previous nature. So then, how do we know when someone is truly sorry? I guess that's up for interpretation. There's no black and white answer on this. 

I would love to ask this question to those who read my blog. 

How do you forgive, and how often do you forgive? 

Also, if you decide to not forgive, what would be the ultimate offense? 

Repeat behavior? 

Lack of trust? 

Do you forgive seventy times seven? 

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Thursday, April 15, 2021

Is It the End Times? How Do We Know?

It can be frightening to hear a pastor or preacher talk about the end times. Some avoid churches just to attend another who will make them feel good. And that's okay. But at what point do you really want to hear the truth? And what is "truth?" It can be subjective. When I was 'still on the milk' -- a baby Christian if you will, I wanted to hear all of those 'feel good' messages, say for example, Joel Osteen. "Yes! You're gonna get that raise you prayed about---oh, and that bad report from the doctor is going to change! God is gonna give you so much money, you'll be able to pay off your house and buy your neighbor's as well!" 

Listen, I love to hear a feel good message as much as anyone, but this is just "gather 'em up and give 'em goosebumps" kinda preaching. It's technically called, "lukewarm sermons." They get you in the church pumped up to win the lottery, but what are you really desiring? Shouldn't that be more than what the world can offer? Remember, we are not of this world. Worldly things come and go, but eternal life is well....forever and ever. And I don't want to take any risks. 

When I started digging into the Bible looking for answers, I started reading about what the Bible predicted. This was about a few years before the pandemic. Even back then, I was reading Psalm 91 aloud.  This passage is for protection from evil, as well as protection from the deadly pestilence, which is the pandemic as some interpret it to be. 

Whenever someone goes into Revelations (the predictions from Jesus Himself about the end times) -- people think only think one thing: 'conspiracy theorist nut job.' I did at one point too. I couldn't believe people were predicting the end times, because no one knows the day nor hour---and that is written and true. But you can pinpoint events that had taken place as well as present and what's to come. Many people are waking up to the fact that the Bible...is starting to look factual. My faith knows it's factual, but to some, it's just a "fairytale book." 

I felt like I kept getting pushed in a certain direction. I went through a lot of grief, transition, heartbreak, and as we all experienced, a pandemic. Everything in my life unfolded for a reason. I quit a lot of bad habits, including drinking. The message I kept receiving from God was in the Bible. 

“Be sober and alert. Your adversary the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour.” —1 Peter 5:8

Most people wouldn't take this literally, because it actually just means to be on alert. But for me, drinking was an escape, a way to not deal with what I was feeling and it prevented me from fulfilling the depth of my spiritual life. I became numb to any of the messages God was giving me. 

The word “Alcohol” comes from the Arabic “al-kuhl” which means “BODY EATING SPIRIT”, and gives root origins to the English term for “ghoul”. In Middle Eastern folklore, a “ghoul” is an evil demon thought to eat human bodies, either as stolen corpses or as children. The words “alembic” and “alcohol”, both metaphors for aqua vitae or “life water” and “spirit”, often refer to a distilled liquid that came from magical explorations in Middle Eastern alchemy. In the words of writer and health enthusiast, Jason Christoff – “In alchemy, alcohol is used to extract the soul essence of an entity. Hence its’ use in extracting essences for essential oils, and the sterilization of medical instruments. By consuming alcohol into the body, it in effect extracts the very essence of the soul, allowing the body to be more susceptible to neighboring entities most of which are of low frequencies (why do you think we call certain alcoholic beverages “SPIRITS?”). That is why people who consume excessive amounts of alcohol often black out, not remembering what happened. This happens when the good soul (we were sent here with) leaves because the living conditions are too polluted and too traumatic to tolerate. The good soul jettisons the body, staying connected to a tether, and a dark entity takes the body for a joy ride around the block, often in a hedonistic and self-serving illogical rampage. Our bodies are cars for spirits. If one leaves, another can take the car for a ride. Essentially when someone goes dark after drinking alcohol or polluting themselves in many other ways, their body often becomes possessed by another entity.”----read more here.

When alcohol puts you in a low frequency, you're making the connection to you and God staticky. So to get closer to God, I eliminated things that would make it more difficult to communicate with Him. This goes for other sins in my life that I had to free myself from. I never felt so free in my life. 

With all that's going on right now, the pandemic, the push for the vaccines and all of the division among many people, we are seeing a horrible "new normal" we've never seen before in our lifetime. I will just say this... When you are in tune with God, your spirit will know. It won't doubt the message. It won't let anyone sway your mind or let you believe differently. You know when people tell you, "go with your gut?" Well, go with your gut, but most importantly, go with what your spirit tells you to. The small voice that lets you know what is true and what is false. Things are not what they appear. So the things that say they are true are false, in most non-biblical aspects. Families are divided, friends are divided, and now, the world seems to be divided and it's all coming to a head. 

This is all happening right now and those who are serious about their faith and afterlife need to read this: 

Matthew 10:21-42

Brothers and sisters will betray one another and have each other put to death. Parents will betray their own children, and children will turn against their parents and have them killed. Everyone will hate you because of me. But if you remain faithful until the end, you will be saved. 

When people mistreat you in one town, hurry to another one. I promise you that before you have gone to all the towns of Israel, the Son of Man will come. Disciples are not better than their teacher, and slaves are not better than their master. It is enough for disciples to be like their teacher and for slaves to be like their master. 

If people call the head of the family Satan, what will they say about the rest of the family? 

The One To Fear 

Don’t be afraid of anyone! Everything that is hidden will be found out, and every secret will be known.  Whatever I say to you in the dark, you must tell in the light. And you must announce from the housetops whatever I have whispered to you. Don’t be afraid of people. They can kill you, but they cannot harm your soul. Instead, you should fear God who can destroy both your body and your soul in hell. Aren’t two sparrows sold for only a penny? But your Father knows when any one of them falls to the ground. Even the hairs on your head are counted. So don’t be afraid! You are worth much more than many sparrows.

(Don't be afraid to speak the truth, even if people are attacking you for speaking up.) 

Telling Others about Christ 

If you tell others that you belong to me, I will tell my Father in heaven that you are my followers. But if you reject me, I will tell my Father in heaven that you don’t belong to me. 

Not Peace, But Trouble 

Don’t think that I came to bring peace to the earth! I came to bring trouble, not peace. I came to turn sons against their fathers, daughters against their mothers, and daughters-in-law against their mothers-in-law. Your worst enemies will be in your own family. 

(Loving your family more than God is considered idolatry.) 

If you love your father or mother or even your sons and daughters more than me, you are not fit to be my disciples. And unless you are willing to take up your cross and come with me, you are not fit to be my disciples. If you try to save your life, you will lose it. But if you give it up for me, you will surely find it. 

Rewards 

Anyone who welcomes you welcomes me. And anyone who welcomes me also welcomes the one who sent me. Anyone who welcomes a prophet, just because that person is a prophet, will be given the same reward as a prophet. Anyone who welcomes a good person, just because that person is good, will be given the same reward as a good person. And anyone who gives one of my most humble followers a cup of cool water, just because that person is my follower, will surely be rewarded.

And with some of the not so "feel good" messages the Bible can bring---it can actually be frightening for some. But don't be scared. 

Especially with all that's going on, please do your own research if you're a believer. Many will be deceived during these times. And oddly enough, as the Bible predicted, many things are coming into the light and secrets are being revealed. 

In my own research (as well as many others regarding the vaccinations... 

“And who had suffered much under many physicians, and had spent all that she had, and was no better but rather grew worse.” —Mark 5:26 

 “He required everyone—small and great, rich and poor, free and slave—to be given the mark on the right hand or on the forehead. And no one could buy or sell anything without that mark, which was either the name of the beast (Luciferin) or the number representing his name. (Patent # & ml of dosage: 6.66ml.) Wisdom is needed here. Let the one with understanding solve the meaning of the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man. His number is 666.” —Rev 13:16-18

These are times of testing, times of faith and checking your internal inventory. Is it in you to live as the Bible says, or will you live as the world tells you to live? You have to pick one. I'm hoping this message falls on those who have been questioning this. 

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight."---Proverbs 3:5-6

My only takeaway on this is to pray for discernment and understanding. Each time you pick up your Bible, pray for understanding---true understanding of the message and watch God work miracles in your life, as well as reveal the truth of it all. And be ready for it. Be prepared. God bless you.

For more of Deb's articles, please visit: www.debrapasquella.com or join her on Facebook and Twitter. Check out her cooking blog at DebsCucina.com for some of her famous recipes!

Friday, February 05, 2021

Your Weakness & Vulnerability Is Your Strength

Once in a while, I get some people asking me, "Why do you write such personal things up on your blog and on social media?" Some people, and even some family members are embarrassed by my 'oversharing' of personal struggles with anxiety, depression and grief. I always tell them, "It's my purpose. I am here to help people feel less alone." As God once impressed on me, that I am supposed to "Do it for the One"----do it even if only one person reads what I write, as well as do it for "The One" --- God Himself. Because God is in each and every once of us. So by sharing my weaknesses, God's strength is made even that much stronger, especially for the other person seeking help. If someone lost a parent, I can share my experience and how I still cope through it. If someone suffers with anxiety attacks, I can tell them about my coping skills and hopefully assist them and prevent them going straight into crisis mode. I truly believe that's my purpose here.

It's Okay To Be Vulnerable 

Becoming more vulnerable makes you more relatable. Showing your weaknesses actually makes you stronger. Paul quotes Jesus who said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” It’s ok if we don’t have it ‘all together.’ It shows our humanness. If you prefer keeping your personal issues to yourself, then you probably have another purpose in life. That's okay. But it's also okay to relate to people and let them see the humanness in you. Some people I know are so insecure, they can't let anyone see that a day of weakness. 

I remember a heated argument I had with someone a while back. I remember them saying to me, "You need to take your meds and see a psychiatrist. Check and check. Meanwhile, this person self medicates by drinking a fifth of whiskey every night along with whatever beer to chase it down. During one of his drunken rages, he tore someone apart and never apologized to them or even considered being held accountable for his poor choices and behavior. Without judgment, I said, "There's nothing wrong with seeking professional help or taking the needed medication for whatever you're suffering with." Immediately he went into self-defense mode and said, "I don't need that!" And I reminded him that I was only speaking for myself. It was as if he had forgotten what he said to me. The psychological projection was explosive at that point. He knew he needed help. 

A Strong Person Admits Their Fears and Feelings

"Oh I could never be that open." Why? Isn't there a possibility that someone out there in the world needs your kind of help because it's exactly what they're going through right now? There's still so much stigma when it comes to mental health issues. People don't want to be seen as "crazy" or that they're having a nervous breakdown. Well, maybe if you show them your "weakness" they may see the strength in you by admitting to it---by admitting that you are human. It's like an AA director who has never touched a drink in his/her life. How could they possibly relate to the people in the AA group? They can't. They can do all the studying they want in the Big Book and read up on the Twelve Steps, but they truly can't be of genuine help if they hadn't gone through it themselves. That's why I can't stand 'textbook psychology.' I want someone who has been in the muck of it all---someone who has been there and overcome their struggles, with a few slip and falls here 'n there. That's what makes them real---that's what makes them helpful. 

2 Corinthians 12:8-10 

Paul's Thorn and God's Grace …Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Sharing your struggles not only makes you approachable, but it even enables you to reach out to those who need your kind of help. Even just sharing your story, your testimony or explain to people the struggles you've gone through will make people feel less alone and alienated. I once listened to someone's testimony and thought to myself, "I can't believe they went through the same thing I did!" I truly thought I was the only one. It gives you a feeling of oneness with those who open up and share their hardships. It's not that 'misery loves company,' but it's more about, 'I need your kind of strength right now.' Because usually, that person has either overcome it, or still trying to get through it. Both are admirable, because it's the goal of getting better, getting healthier in mind and spirit. 

So when you start to hesitate sharing a post, even as small as, "Having a bad day today," --- watch how many people say, "Me too!" Or they'll tell you about their day. You'll also want to tell them how that day turned out to be a beautiful 'tomorrow.'

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” --Psalm 30:5. 

We're Only Here For a Short While 

Get rid of the bitterness, resentments and unforgiveness. When we go back home to see Jesus, none of these trivial problems will matter anymore. Why not get along here on earth, while we're still alive? I love that quote where it says, bitterness is like drinking poison, but expecting the other person to die. The only person we hurt by not forgiving someone is ourselves. The mental anguish and inner anxiety that comes upon us when we are still fuming over what someone did, can and will affect us physically. I know for myself, when I use to harbor resentment, my heart rate would go up for a long while, until it was time to go to sleep. My stomach would be in knots and I wasn't happy. Meanwhile, the person I was angry with, had no clue I was harboring these negative feelings. So they were living their happy lives 'as is' and here I was, suffering from my own internal conflict, playing the same event over and over inside my mind. Never let anyone rent space inside your mind. 

Grief & Booze

We are going to lose people in our lives. That's just inevitable. I remember when my mom was dying of cancer, I struggled with anticipatory grief. I remember one afternoon, she heard me sobbing in the other room upstairs. I didn't know anyone could hear me. I didn't even think I was being loud. She called me and said, "Debbie, come downstairs and lay next to me." I cried even harder. I couldn't help it. She knew I was grieving over her already. I had to lie to her --- make someone up like, "Oh, it's okay, I'm just having bad pain." I wasn't. I was crying over the mere thought of losing her. Mothers know these things. 

I self-medicated. I didn't want to feel the grief. I wanted the temporary fix of feeling numb, happy, forgetting 'what was' instead of dealing with 'what is.' But once the alcohol wore off, the sadness and anxiety came creeping in like a thief in the night, stealing all my joy for the next day. So, I'd do it again that same night. It was like this torturous and vicious cycle of self-torment, just to get a few hours of numbing happiness---a faux kinda joy.  So now, I save my wine time only on one day of the week with a nice dinner, and no more than one or two drinks. I stopped "self-medicating" and now, I have eight hours of sleep under my belt most nights, and beautiful hangover-free mornings to enjoy my coffee and a beautiful sunrise. Is life prefect? Hell no! But when those problems come barreling down on me, I deal with them much differently, with less stress. When I drank a lot, my heart rate would skyrocket up to 200 bpm, especially if a problem came up. And now, no adrenaline rush---just a sober mind dealing with it in a healthier way. I'm not telling anyone not to drink---I'm suggesting to evaluate how you feel after the alcohol as worn off, and especially how you handle stressful situations while under the influence. Compare it to where you are sober. It's quite an eye-opener. 

Masking Your Pain & Anxiety 

I've been masking my pain and anxiety since I was twelve years old. Yep, I have been drinking since I was twelve, and I didn't quite stop the madness until my mid-forties. (It's never too late right?) I never knew what it was like to deal with life situations sober. I held a lot in and self-medicated my way through life, through alcohol and marijuana. After being hospitalized for marijuana at the age of sixteen -- yes, for good ol' weed -- it made my heart rate go over 200 bpm. I never touched that stuff again. I went through some traumatic events in my younger years, and tried to drown them all out by drinking it away. And now, I'm finally dealing with all of these past issues in my mid-forties. Ok, ok, ok, my late forties. But still, why did I wait so long? It took other traumatic events to make me realize, "Hey, maybe this coping mechanism isn't so healthy after all?" 

Pray It Into Existence 

Every single morning, before my feet hit the floor, I say something positive---a prayer of gratitude to God Himself. "Thank you for letting me rest and wake up this morning. Today is the day the Lord has made, I will be glad and rejoice in it!" And that alone, will usually set the tone for the day. A positive affirmation and prayer before even getting out of bed is the most powerful thing you can do to kickstart your day. You thought it, spoke it, and it will manifest. Speak it to God---not "the universe." Listen, believe what you want to believe, but praying to the universe for things to manifest is like praying to the street to bring you to your destination. Who made the street? Humans. Thank the humans who made the street, just as you would thank God for making the universe. 

No doubt, there's going to be unanswered prayers, but for good reason. If it's in God's will, it will be given. But sometimes, we go after things that are not in our best interest. If we were to get everything we wanted, we may end up in a worse-off mindset and place. God protects us and asks us to trust His will. Even Jesus asked His father to take this cup away from Him---to not go through with the dreaded and planned death of his sacrifice. Jesus was so scared, that he sweated out blood. So He knows as a human what it's like to be fearful, and to not get what you wanted. But God knows what was needed. Big difference. 

Even when you find yourself in the worst kind of emotional or physical "life storm" --- thank God for the storm, for it'll make you that much stronger. Resisting it will only cause you pain. Just say, "I trust you God," when you find yourself in the most uncomfortable or painful situation. Watch what happens. I had to learn this the hard way. By trusting Him and accepting 'what is' -- you change the atmosphere around you. You literally kick the devil right in his face. 

Don't ever feel "less than" by your weaknesses. This is the ingredient that gives you strength! 

For more of Deb's articles, please visit: www.debrapasquella.com or join her on Facebook and Twitter. Check out her cooking blog at DebsCucina.com for some of her famous recipes!

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