I'm not sure if kids truly understand what they're doing when they bully one another. Do they think of the aftereffects of all the insults and verbal abuse? Or do they think the other kid will just forget about it? As a kid, "defending myself" meant that there were no consequences or 'aftereffects' when I threw my insults back. "She did it first" was my rebuttal. It was justified and "right" in my eyes. But what I didn't understand was that this girl was a foster child living in a house full of other kids from parents who had abandoned them. I never understood the insecurities and self-loathing that went into feeling abandoned. I just didn't get it, until I kept reading the plaque. While we all grew up, moved out while things shuffled about and eventually got lost, I still haven't been able to find this plaque. This photo was taken from the internet, but it's the same exact plaque I had up on my wall. I wish I could find it because it made me who I am today.
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