How much truth is really on Facebook? How much hidden agendas have to creep into that network in order to hurt so many lurkers trying to hold onto that very person, which isn't the very person they had in mind? So as bad as it is for teenagers, this whole social networking is even worse for adults who are going through relationship problems. The one thing they all have in common is that they are fabricating their lives to be something entirely different, in order to either impress or piss off someone of interest. For me, Facebook is a tool to communicate and see people's updates, but most of all, to keep connected to friends and network with other people in similar lines of work. I suppose if I was divorced, maybe things would be different. Back in the days of Myspace - I was going through a breakup and remembering avoiding it like the plague. Your pages were public and 'out there' --- nobody had their accounts on private. You had one status message with a 'mood'. I would put "ecstatic" or "happy" with a smiley face on the side when I really was sad and crying most of the time. So I know. But I am so thankful that I'm not going through such a turbulent time in my relationship, or maybe I would be doing the same thing on Facebook as I did on that small portion of Myspace. You never know what measures you'll take just to persuade others that you're "okay". How far is too far? And how much are we relying on Facebook to see how a friend, a family member or an estranged lover is doing?
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