Topics dealing with mental health, grief, relationships and the sole reliance on trusting God.
All articles are written by Debra Pasquella.
Life is Way Too Long to Worry
There are so many unfortunate people suffering with cancer. We lost quite a few good ones this year from this awful disease. I've heard and read quotes that say, "While we're all trying to lose weight and diet, someone out there is just trying to make it through another day of cancer." It makes dieting and worrying over weight so trivial. Makes it seem silly to want to lose weight or better your health -- cause you don't have cancer, so why go out of your way to "improve health"? I say, why not try to prevent it by diet alone? Then again, you hear about people who never smoked a cigarette a day in their lives and voila --- they got the big "C". It doesn't make any sense at all. You can diet all you want, but what's going to keep that tumor from growing on your brain? (I know, the hypochondriac in me…I think I have a headache now.) Even with me -- ever since I've been on Paleo, I've seen some real jerks who are apart of this growing trend harp and emphasize on how people on Paleo will never get cancer. And yes, the diet excludes nitrates, hormones, steroids and all that good stuff that gets pumped into our food supply, but what's gonna keep us from contracting another disease? While I "believe" we can somewhat prevent cancer, we're losing our marbles trying to save our lives that will eventually fade away and turn into dust. So what's the point of life? I'm overweight, so losing 30 lbs to me means that I'm going to feel better --- no joint pain, no back pain and less stomach issues. While I'm here "now" --- I want to live a life with less complications. This does not have anything to do with longevity whatsoever. I'm not trying to increase my years, I'm trying to increase my happiness. Isn't that what we're all striving for -- a life full of happiness and pain-free days?
Dad was a tough cookie, living his life to the fullest with heart disease, diabetes and emphysema. They gave him his last rights many times. They even gave him a timeframe of when his life would end. Once, the doctor said, "He probably has two weeks, tops." Fifteen years later, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer…bladder cancer. "Oh well he smoked, so that's what did it." A year later, a close family friend passed away not even two weeks ago from bladder cancer. She wasn't a smoker. Everyone can pre-diagnose you when it comes to witnessing your lifestyle, whether you're a smoker, a drinker or a marathon runner. "Oh he's gonna have a stroke or cancer if he keeps on smoking," "Oh, her liver is going to rot out from all that drinking," and "Did you hear about that thirty year old marathon runner who died of a heart attack? All that running is no good." People are going to judge you up and down, give you life sentences based on "what doctors say" or what they saw on Dr. Oz. Does it mean anything at all? Nope. Stress can kill you. About five years ago, Madelene's coworker walked outside the building, flung his suitcase in the backseat and sat in the driver's seat….to have a heart attack. He left behind a wife and two kids. He was only 32 years old. Then again, some people have a very high tolerance for stress and live to be 102 years old. There are no set rules of mastering longevity. Just love your life, appreciate who is in it and ignore the naysayers if your life makes you happy. Life is way too long to worry. For more of Deb's articles, please visit: www.debrapasquella.com or join her on Facebook and Twitter. Check out her cooking blog for some of her famous recipes!
Matt & Alissa Walsh & The Duggars Within the last couple of days, I have been responding to a post entitled, "T he Duggars Aren't Hypocrites. Progressives Are ," by a blogger named, Matt Walsh. I read Matt Walsh because I like content that goes against my grain. Some of it I agree with, while others I don't. That's the beauty of following someone with drastic opposing opinions. He wrote about Josh Duggar and if you're not sure who Josh Duggar is, he is a reality TV star on the show called, 19 Kids and Counting on TLC. The show was pulled after news of him sexually molesting several girls as well as his own sisters when he was a teenager. Josh was apart of an anti-LGBT religious group, to which he quit due to the issues brewing all over mainstream media. My issues with this story is that Josh Duggar has continually bashed the LGBT community for their "immorality" with his Bible, even having a lesbian aunt as a relative. The problem is the
Let's get one thing straight right off the bat: I do not rejoice in other people's shortcomings or problems. What I do take a tiny bit of pleasure in, is seeing hypocrites being brought out to the light. As God says in the bible, everything secretive will be brought out into the light. Conservative blogger, Matt Walsh who takes pleasure in bashing gays, lesbians and transgenders, calling them "sick perverts" who have "mental illness" has finally admitted that he was wrong about Josh Duggar. He laughs, mocks and bullies those who are of the LGBT community and uses God as a shield so that he won't come across as the ol' fashioned bigot that he is. He proudly shows off his tattoos, smoking a cigar and drinking beer like a good ol' boy. It never ceases to amaze me that someone with tattoos can mock someone who is "sinfully" gay. "You shall not make any cuts in your body for the dead nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves: I am the
Anxiety & Derealization Panic attacks can often feel like you're losing control, or perhaps going to lose it and go crazy. Some experience derealization---a sense of a surreal world---as if you're in your own home, but it's a different place somehow. Many people are experiencing this derealization these days ever since the pandemic has come to a low simmer. I'm sure you know many people who don't go out as much---or at all. And once we step outside, it feels different---surreal---weird---foggy, right? It's not the same world, we think to ourselves. It doesn't feel like the same place. That's how people who suffer with agoraphobia feel. Long periods inside their home, or long periods avoiding places can make some feel as though they're in a different world altogether. I sometimes chuckle, because a lot of these 'spiritualists' on TikTok claim that the world ended in 2012 and that we are living in a different universe, which is why we feel