With all of our human flaws, I’ve come to a conclusion, which is solely based upon my faith in Christianity and my belief of Satan: our inner conflicts, grudges, bitterness, depression, anxiety, fear and anger are all tools used by Satan to smother any sort of forgiveness, resolution and love in our hearts. Think about it - Satan is brilliant. What better solution to separate people from God by not forgiving one another? And it has a ripple affect: by the amount of bitterness, resentment and hatred toward one person, leaves a lack of forgiveness for the other, which is a sin against God. So person A leaves a trail that trickles over to person B, who then receives the wrath of person A being bitter, by means of self-deprecation and depression if person B is weak enough in their faith.
This is why some people are better than others when it comes to dealing with a death in the family. Some people are so devastated that they cannot even attend their own family members’ funeral services. They say that each person handles death differently. True, but what about people who aren’t afraid of dying? Do they simply not care? Or, do they have such great faith about the afterlife, that it’s almost welcomed in a nondescript way? Some who have claimed to have seen “God” have all said the same exact thing: “I don’t fear death.” It’s great to see and believe; it’s also better for those who believe without seeing which means one thing: faith.
Jesus said, “You believe because you have seen me. Blessed are those who haven’t seen me and believe anyway.” ~John 20:29
Back to our human flaws: Satan uses them in order to attack other people. He can use other people in order to tear you down. This is when your faith needs to come in. Pray to God (whoever your pray to - mine being based upon the trinity), and ask Him to lift the cloud of bitterness and anger away from the one who is attacking you emotionally. Whether you were hurt in the past, or currently being attacked, this is the best way to go about it in my opinion. Without the negative energy being lifted from this person, there is no room for forgiveness. Just as it says in the scriptures, there cannot be evil cohabitating with the good; there cannot be sin and God in the same place. If the clouds of negativity fail to rise, this is when you have to step up in your faith and realize that life is too short. You need to send love and pray for the person being attacked and know that in a short while, we all come back together reunited in love. I do believe this much is true.
No one can tell another person how to handle their emotions or where to direct them. That is only up to them to decide. You can only pray for them and make choices for only yourself that’ll better your life. I once prayed to God and cried out, “Why do I have to be so forgiving?” Sometimes I feel like people walk all over me because they know I can’t hold grudges for long and it takes a whole lot for somebody to anger me. I feel as though I get the short end of the stick by being so forgiving. My mom laughs at me because when she does see me get angry with someone, it only takes 2 minutes for me to simmer down and defuse and say, “I love you”.
With that being said, I firmly believe that all the struggles we go through serve as a purpose in life…
“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us—they help us learn to endure. And endurance develops strength of character in us, and character strengthens our confident expectation of salvation.” ~Romans 5:3-4
Is it all a learning experience to help us evolve spiritually, so that we can treat others with love and respect? All the good deeds in the world won’t help us get into heaven, but I do believe it will help us become better people, which serves to help us internally; spiritually, so that we can see the bigger picture one day.
I’m still trying to figure “life” out, and I know with my strong Christian views, I can cloud myself with limited thought processes, because many people believe in different things---I totally respect that----but what if we all go back to “one”, as some believe? I have a dear friend that believes in reincarnation. She believes that we come back higher evolved from the past lives we have lived prior. Have you ever heard someone say, “Oh he or she is such an old soul?” Maybe that comes from being an actual ‘old soul’; an evolved spirit that has more experience because their soul has traveled beyond the realm of what a new soul has gone through. Do you think maybe it’s mere intelligence or do you think that it comes from a deeper place; a place where only the soul resides?
Of course, this type of belief goes against the grain with my faith in Christianity, however I’m always asking questions about faith, God, and other people’s beliefs.
What are yours?