Monday, December 16, 2013

The Sad Truth About Facebook

There are times when I'm okay. Most times I'm okay I prove it with a smile. Most times when I'm not okay, I also wear a smile. Facebook tells people I'm happy. "You seem so happy lately," because I plopped up a funny post or a photo that seemed jovial. I'm not going to bog down someone's feed with nonsensical depressive quotes or statuses. I try to be upbeat, but I am much more than my Facebook status or tweet. I think it's sad when friends and family only check social media to see if their loved ones are "okay". What about a phone call or text or even a visit? Our way of life is social media, but I'm not going to write a status message saying, "Well, today I felt depressed, but I'm okay now." And I have those days believe me. They pass quickly as they come, and sometimes, they linger a little too long for my liking. I'm like anyone else. I have my limits and sometimes, I get angry or frustrated at certain things, but I refuse to start rambling off my problems on social media, unless it has a funny curve to it. The fact is: nobody cares what you post up. Why drum up the drama? Maybe I hide behind my humor, but that's the way I deal with things. If I didn't, I'd be dead. My life is messy, and sometimes it's a lot of fun. I'm a bit of a recluse from time to time. It has no reflection on how I feel about anyone. I can pop an entire bottle of vitamin D and it still sometimes leaves me in a funkity-funk. I love hearing how others perceive me based on social media. It baffles my mind to think that so many people out there rely on the well-being of someone's update. I was tempted to write, "I'm not okay." And that's it. Of course that's one of those good ol' attention whore status messages and it will get some buzz ---- but why even do it? You wanna know the worst of it? Nobody cares that you're not okay --- they care about the entertainment of it. That's the sad truth. They want to see the next status message - the next chapter on this saga of your Facebook life. They eat it up like a soap opera and I've seen so many people fall for this pseudo compassion.

If you really want to show that you care, call that person up. Make a surprise visit. Make plans with that person. Show that their worth your time and effort. Even send a private message to their account if you see an 'alarming status' --- ask if they're alright. Don't just leave some lame cliché -- "Things can be worse," or "Time heals." and "My thoughts are with you." Bullshit. Your thoughts are, "Wow I can't believe she wrote that on his/her Facebook account." Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe your thoughts are legit. But this whole social media crap has become a way for some people to actually believe they can check up on someone's well-being. It takes a whole lot more. People not only hide behind smiles, but they hide behind their status messages and monitors.

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