Wednesday, April 04, 2007


This shot was taken right outside my deck yesterday evening around 7pm. It was right before the sun was going down.

Usually, when we’re under pressure, sometimes it’s hard to appreciate the smaller things in life. In my case, when I’m stressed out or full of anxiety, I take a lot of things for granted. I forget how good it can be if I “let it”. There are many people who believe we create our own anxiety- our own chaos that literally drives us to drink. The theory is that we “choose” to stress over something, or that we “choose” to be depressed about a certain situation. I believe this to be true.

To have peace around us, what do we need? We need peace from within us. If we don’t have peace within us, then we can’t have peace in our environment. It’s the same concept as, if we don’t have love within us, or love ourselves enough, we cannot expect to love someone else. If we don’t have money, we can’t give it away, right?

At times, when I find myself drawing farther away from God, my life gets static. It’s full of things that irritate me. I can’t hear God’s message. Everything, everyone and everywhere I go, seems to have a negative effect on me. I blame it on all three. “Well, if this didn’t happen, I would be so upset”, or “If he/she didn’t do that all the time, I wouldn’t be so annoyed,” and, “If I didn’t have to be ‘here’, I wouldn’t be so agitated!”

I’m learning more and more, that when you create peace within yourself, you learn to develop tolerance. Life is going to be chaotic no matter where we go, what we do, or who we may run into. We need to deal with it at hand and learn to react better to certain situations, instead of grumbling over the small stuff. I’m still in the learning process of it all. I may not be perfect, but I’m slowly realizing what it takes to become a calmer and more peaceful person. It takes time, and like the human I am, I still have a lot of work ahead of me.

Through prayer, meditation, and putting aside time to regroup, I’m able to maintain a level of peace in my life.

What’s your technique?

Update: Thanks to all your much needed prayers, the doctors told Madelene's mom that there wasn't anything on her pancreas. The tests indicated that there was a mass on her pancreas, but through prayers and the healing of God--He has baffled the doctors! Thank you so much for all of you who've prayed and sent good thoughts our way!


Crassius Maximus said...

My technique is somewhat understated. I never talk to anyone about my feelings, instead allowing stress to fester deep inside, only to ultimately manifest itself in a drunken tirade of some sort. I found this to be more natural and much easier than opening up about my feelings and trying to resolve the issue.

kathi said...

My technique is literally falling to my knees before God. Sometimes I come to a point to where I honestly do not have the strength, physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually to stand, and I have to fall to my knees before Him.
The only place I find peace is with God, in His Word, or simply seeking His guidance. Outside of that, it's always chaos. It may be fun or enjoyable chaos at times, but it's chaos all the same.

Oh, and the picture, it's gorgeous!

Miranda said...

Great pic!...My technique? Plenty of xanax and holy basil lol.

[eric] said...

Ooh, that's a nice view.

"What if," can become a mess for some people. When something goes wrong, it's always "What if..." or "If only..." or "I shoulda..." If more recognized that they can't control life nearly as much as they think, their lives would be so much easier.

~Deb said...

Crassius: Why am I imagining an episode of COPS?

Kathi: So you humble yourself before God? In my opinion, it’s the best way!

Miranda: Ha! Holy basil! A nice bottle of vino helps me in those desperate times of distress! Everyone has their own method, right?

Eric: The WIS (What If’s Syndrome) It’s awful. Put it in a bag and shoot it!

Matt-Man said...

I play my keyboard, write, and listen to music, and of course drink some WIR. I have managed to let go alot of pent up hatred over the last couple of years. I guess part of it is age and the other part is finally taking the advice I freely give to others: Let it Go!!

"The single clenched fist lifted and ready,
Or the open hand held out and waiting.
For we meet by one or the other."

Carl Sanburg

Peace, inner or otherwise is a choice. Cheers, Deb.

castawaylee said...

Reading enables my mind to travel to places I'd rather be, but that glass of wine in that photo sure looks like it could do the trick!

Saur♥Kraut said...

So peace=wine? ;o) You're right, we need to take peace where and when we can. And I'm so glad that Madelene's mom is OK.

Natalia said...

That is just a brilliant shot. Lovely.


Dirk_Star said...

I go out to the woods and get my perspective back...

Yesterday I went to visit Serpent mound in Peebles, Ohio.

GW Mush said...

I could go On & On & On about this if you let me but my techniques are to take anti anxiety meds 3 times a day, run on the treadmill, dare I say masterbation, and watch SouthPark and giggle.
Well, this shows how pathetic my life and you can compare your life to mine and feel better and less stressed:)

Nancy said...

I so want to join you girls for a glass of wine this afternoon! I guess I will settle for some alone time on my back porch.

I have not found complete peace...not sustainable, anyway. I think the key in my case is to "Let go, let God." Ooh I hate that expression, but I need to stop pretending I can control anything and RELAX.

Now where's that wine?

~Deb said...

Matt-man: I totally agree with that---“Let it go!” Cheers!

Castawaylee: It does take you to another place- a great way to get away from it all.

Saurkraut: Peace does equal wine! I take it with me wherever I go…shhh! Thank you regarding Mad’s mom!

Natalia: Maybe not the best photography going, but it’s a piece of what kind of “peace” I had yesterday evening.

Dirk Star: Nature definitely gives you a feeling of peace. I never heard of Serpent Mound. Hope you had fun!

GW Mush: Laughter is the best medicine! I love South Park too! I love the rest you mentioned as well! Peace!

Nancy: You’re always welcomed! I had to learn that I couldn’t control everything. I’m a total control freak, and if I let it take over, my peace is totally gone. I “try” to let go. Does it work all the time? No, but when it does, it’s a much better place!

tkkerouac said...

When I'm feeling anxious, and out of control, I head to the gym for a workout and afterwards 20 minutes in the hottub and sauna. I would like to get back into yoga again!

Dr. Deb said...

You live in a beautiful place!!