Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Who Has Myspace? Fess Up...

Lately, I’ve noticed that a lot of my own friends are signed up with Myspace. To me, I thought it was a juvenile website based on meeting friends and friends and more friends. True, you do meet tons of new people, but I didn’t get the base of it. It has blog options as well. It also has an area where people leave comments to you right on your web page. This I didn’t get- because I thought, “Well what are they commenting to?” They’re basically just ‘hellos’ and little funny cartoons they leave and just a reminder of who’s thinking about you or who wants you to comment on their page. Depends.

Anyway, I made fun of my friend for having this. I mean, we’re in our thirties and it seemed sort of ridiculous to even entertain the idea of putting a web page out there like that. Well, I signed up. Not only that, but I’ve came in contact with old friends from high school, and friends I haven’t seen in so long! It was kind of nice to reconnect. I’ve also met some really interesting people on there. There’s all sorts of musicians, artists and writers trying to get noticed and tons of creative people who just love to network. This Myspace isn’t bad after all.

Then I had a thought. Why not promote my book to those who I feel need to hear what I went through? Why not add some people on my list and see how they feel about their comfort zone about being homosexual? You can send bulletins out to all of them with videos or a message reminding them that God isn’t something to be scared of. A healthy fear of God is one thing, but to be too afraid to come to Him due to the pressures of being gay is something the devil wants you to think…as well as some people.

One nice girl named Tiff wrote:

“The concept of duality between homosexuality and Christianity has always perplexed me. Many arguments have been and will continue to be waged about the issue of homosexuality based upon Leviticus 18:22 where it says in the bible that a man lying with another man as he would lay with his wife is an abomination. This is where my confusion begins. In the eyes of God, or so I’ve been told, the way I am is an abomination. But, on the same token, it also says in the bible that God knows you and everything about you before you are even conceived. He knows every thought you will think, everything you will say and do, and he has a grand divine plan for your life. So taking this into consideration as well, it is confusing to me that God, in his divine plan, would basically set me up to fail in his eyes. It doesn’t make sense, from what I have heard about him, He doesn’t make mistakes like that. So to avoid all this existential confusion, I have chosen to refrain from spirituality in its entirety. That’s not to say that I’m a raging atheist, or that I don’t want to believe in God. It’s just that I don’t know where to begin sorting out the truth from all the homophobic religious hypocrisy that has plagued Christianity for so long that it’s become part of the very fabric of its beliefs.

Nice blog though, kind of uplifting.


I honestly didn’t think I would people with such deep thoughts on Myspace. I didn’t think it existed. I basically judged the site due to it’s reputation for being “juvenile”. I was pleasantly surprised to see someone on there with such a great thought process who has an incredible opened mind.

I wrote back to her:

“And that's the whole entire thing Tiff- where Christianity gets so scary! People draw away from God due to what other people have to say about it.

Fact: Leviticus does say that homosexuality is an abomination, however, it also states that eating shellfish such as shrimp, lobster, clams, mussels, oysters are all an abomination to men. Even if you sit on a couch with a woman who has her period- that is detestable to God. That's all in Leviticus.

Here's where the line draws though... Leviticus is in the Old Testament. Christians and people who are not of the Jewish culture go by the New Testament. The old doesn't apply anymore. The Old Testament has books that due reference to history- so it's good to refer back to it for history and what mankind has gone through. But as believers of Christ, we go by the New Testament, due to the salvation and the forgiveness that God gave to us. We are all sinners. Not one of us are perfect in God's eyes, however, God's love for us is perfect. It's so perfect that He gave His only son to die for us on the cross in the Christian/Catholic beliefs. (As well as other religions that are based upon the trinity.)

What about premarital sex between heterosexual couples? That in itself is a sin in God's eyes. How many people do you know wait until marriage before they seal the deal? Some fundamentalists and other radical Christians will throw in the argument that sex should be between two married people- and sex outside of marriage is sinful. Well, I am sure that if the gay and lesbian community were able to get married, we would. But the state won't allow us. "People" won't allow us. And that's the big difference. Are we listening more to people? Or are we trying to tune into God more?

Through my spiritual experiences Tiff, I know that God accepts all of us. He knows our hearts and sees our motives. He made every little hair on our head- and you're absolutely right, He wouldn't set you up to fail. The devil does that. God loves you more than anything and He knows the struggles that we all have- whether we're gay or straight. We all have our cross to bear.

In my opinion and theory, the devil plants the seed of fear to come to God, because we're gay. "God will punish you!!!" That's something that the devil does, and it's something that people do all the time. If my own mom and dad accepts and loves me as a lesbian living with her partner, don't you think God is able to do the same? Are we saying that God's inadequate? He's perfect- He's GOD! So, hopefully you can another point of view regarding Christianity. People make it scary...not God.

Thanks so much for your comment!


Hopefully, my page will encourage those who are confused about Christianity. I also don’t want people to think that I’m trying to convert others into being a Christian- I just want those who are weak in faith and those who are confused to know that God loves them. There are so many people who are atheist and/or into Satanism on Myspace. I even tagged those people to be on my list of friends, hoping they will come to my site finding a little piece of mind. Maybe they can relate to the torment of struggling with life’s circumstances, being homosexual- being a sinner in general and having a love for God at the same time. Maybe they can relate to the pressures of others trying to tell you what’s right and wrong. Shouldn’t we go to God for approval? We rely so much on other people for approval, that we forget about the most important thing…God.

So if you’re interested in taking a peek at my page, click here. I swore I wouldn’t let any of my blogspot friends know about this page, but it’s not so bad after all.


Pittchick said...

I have myspace, but I don;t use it. Basically I use it to send messages to my brother, because he doesn't have email. I actually didn't even remember I had set up a page once upon a time until my brother found me on it!

Are you completely healthy now?

~Deb said...

Hi Pitt! Yes, I'm in better health now thank God. The last of my antibiotics were taken today. I started just using Myspace just to contact my friends and see what events were taking place, but now I can see how other people utilize this website. It's pretty interesting.

Anonymous said...

I have myspace, but I'm bad at using it.
I didn't want to sign up either - I thought the same thing you thought, but SOMEONE made me do it, so now I've been on there for a little bit.

I like it.

Anonymous said...

Grrr...I hate it when this thing eats my comment.

Okay...I fess. I have a myspace page, but I do not write anything there. I basically have it because several of my friends have an account there and I need to sign in to read.

I even added a picture to my myspace because a friend said the little gray box that is posted next to your comment was ugly-ing up her page. I didn't want to be held responsible for ugly-ing up the page!

Anyway, I'll have to stop by and check out your page. Glad to see you're feeling better!

~Deb said...

Hey Steff,

I've seen some tweaked up pages with tons of glitter, flashy little thingies and other crap that literally drove me insane. Some of the pages are just unreadable.

Glad you found me! :) I'm feeling much better- last of my antibiotics today. Let's see if my health lasts!

Thanks to everyone who prayed for my recovery!

Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

I’ve not gotten involved with MySpace. I have enough trouble writing a daily blog.

The issue of sin is one that does require a lot of thought. For some reason, Christians and Muslims seem obsessed with “sexual sins” much more than other religions.

QUASAR9 said...

Hi Deb, Happy New Year!

Anonymous said...

Welcome back to the Land of the Living, Deb. I missed you.

I'm very appreciative of bling-bling, but I hate a bunch of "flashy little thingies" on web pages myself. It's enough to trigger an epileptic fit!

I truly believe that you were led to bring comfort to people like Tiff. If My Space provides another vehicle to deliver your message of acceptance and love, then Godspeed to you. In my opinion, true love is a wonderful gift between consenting adults, male or female, in whatever combination that may be.

Oops, I seem to be toeing the edge of my soap box. I should step off for the moment and let somebody else speak. I have had consumed one glass of red wine and feel a bit more verbose and heady than usual.

Now go take a multivitamin.

samuru999 said...

Hi Deb
Happy new year!
I am so glad you are feeling better!
I just got in from work, and need to get started on dinner!
It was so great to have you visit me today....sure have missed you!

I will check your page later!
Have a wonderful evening!

Sending ((hugs)) back to you!


Miss 1999 said...

First- I hope you're feeling better! Second, I'm so glad you were able to help someone :0) Myspace isn't as bad as I thought it was-- I have one, too! I've met a lot of friends from high school, and new friends as well. Granted, I actually like blogger better- but it's cool having a MySpace, too :0)

PS: I added ya :0) *hugs*

~Dawn said...

I have a myspace, but I don't keep it up. It is mostly to post comments to my sister's site.
The myspace websites slow my pc down with all the cookies from songs and the like, so I don't go to them very often.

The Absent Minded Landlord said...

A buddy of mine turned me off of Myspace long ago as he just used it to find girls. Beware the crazed minds of the teeny boppers who rule that world. But if it helps sell some books, more power to ya.

Anonymous said...

~deb, I do not have a myspace account, and I will not get one. I guess I think it is juvenile, but I say this after writing a blog entry on "princess panties." Er, looks like I don't have much of an argument to make here.

I made a comment on YouTube last month, and I got a reply that said, "you mean, someone who actually thinks wrote a response." The guy asked for a reason that someone would hate kids, and I told him one reason (bitterness after years of infertility, not that I hate them).

SherBears said...

I have myspace too. Mostly to keep up on my bf's blog, but I have reconnected with a lot of people I used to hang out with so I've been using it more.

Glad you are feeling better!

~Deb said...

It's funny, because a lot of people start theirs only to look at someone else's account...then eventually they start tinkering with their page--and there you have it!

I thought blogging was juvenile at first. I thought it was some "online diary". Then I saw so many intelligent adults blogging and writing about their lives, religion, politics, etc. I'd much rather my blogger account, but I'm also glad I started up with myspace as well. A fun mindless page. :)

Video X said...

I gots me one. I haven't been able to use it as much as I used to, but I would if I could. Mine is stupid and childish though...on purpose. It's fun. Lots of inside jokes and stuff...mostly people I know or will know..and a couple bloggers who quit blogging (although they are back to it now).

Anonymous said...

I have My Space but never remember to check it. It's pretty boring, for the most part. No real interraction or thoughts. I keep forgetting to answer the notes you post for me there! Sorry about that...

A (belated) Happy New Year to you, girl! We both had a rough year in 2006. I'm looking forward to a fresh start!

Kevin said...

Hey Deb! Happy New Year!
I signed up for MySpace a while ago just to leave a message for a musician I had heard. The next day I had 5 emails from various women asking if I would marry them! I cancelled, but I suppose I wouldn't have been so quick to do that if 5 guys had asked me the same question! :)

~Deb said...

Everyone who quits blogging, or attempts it, always seem to find a way to make it back. Ever notice that?

A lot of people neglect their myspace and forget they even have one. With blogspot, you sort of have a need to come back on and write. Myspace doesn't have a great blogging option- it's more of a contact thing for me.

Anonymous said...

I sent you a note a few minutes ago. Sort of silly, but could you read it, sweetie?

ann said...

Great to see you back and on form... hope this is a very healthy year for you.

Back to your post.... one religious comment please.... as far as I am aware G-d is all loving and all merciful.

I've got myspace somewhere... haven't a clue how to use it, being somewhat the computer incompetent around here. Still yours looks awesome, so bright and jazzy and I love the pics.

G-d bless and Happy New Year

lotsa luv ann xxxx

LisaBinDaCity said...

I got NoSpace, I live in NY after all ;-)

Anonymous said...

I have myspace but I have it set on Private so that only the people on my list can view my site. I have mostly family members on it anyways, so much for the nude pics!! LMAO..Just kidding ya!

Myspace would be a great outlet for getting your book known to the public. Go to it girl...good luck!

Natalia said...

I hate the site. I hate the layout. I hate the tools. I hate the fact that it is mostly a hook-up place on steroids. But that's me.


Anonymous said...

So glad you're feeling better. My hubby has what you had and I see first hand what you went thru!

CP said...

I have one! Add me!!! *L*


or, some shit like that.


~Deb said...

Leesa: I didn't get your note.... a note? Where?

Ann: I believe He is as well. It's other people who discourage others about coming to God sometimes that drives me nuts. But then again, there are people with much different views than I. So I can't say anything other than share my own interests. I hope you have a healthy new year as well! Thanks!

LisaB: Welcome to New YawK! No space for $3,000 per month! We gotta win the lotto!

Cinderella: I didn't even think about promoting my book on myspace, until I was flooded with all the 'friend requests' from bands and their new CDs that they were releasing. Then it dawned on me, hmm, maybe this isn't so bad after all!

Natalia: Yeah, the layout and how everything is just jumbled up into weird segments is awful- but everybody's doing it! (haha) Seriously though, some of the layouts as far as hand picking them are just awful. That I do agree with you on.

Dabich: What I went through was three weeks of pure torture. I'm still not really over this sickness yet. I took antibiotics and I am still with a slight cold. That bug really kicked my butt! I hope your hubby kicks it faster.

CP: You bet!!!

J R Estelle said...

I have a myspace page just for messing around, but I'm totally going to check your page out. Mine is www.myspace.com/obear29 and yes I'm a HUGE PATS FAN.

Anonymous said...

I created a Myspace account a few months w/ the same pretenses and it has been a major source of networking for me. I found people I haven't connected with in over 15 years from college and high school or they found me. So long as its not mis-used (as with most things), its an excellent promotion tool. I will definitely check out your site.