Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Compassion Without Internalization: Hamas' Consequences

New Year resolutions are easily broken; much like people.  We feel too much.  We think too much.  We hurt too much.  A very good friend of mine is making an interesting New Year’s resolution...

“We should live in the NOW and let everything else go.”   

It sounds so easy to do.  It sounds like the perfect solution to all of our heartbreaks and disappointments in life.  Is it easier said than done?  Maybe.  What if we put all of our effort into it?  Are we trying too hard then?   Sometimes when we try too hard to forget about something, all we’re really doing is focusing on it. 

It’s difficult to focus on the positive side of things when our economy is literally sinking, people are being killed senselessly in wars and our world as we know it seems to be shaken up by the devastations that people have turned it into.   I’ve been noticing that a lot of people have been internalizing all these negative things happening in our world into their own griefs - even if they have nothing to do with it.  They absorb more than others. They feel more than others; yet we all feel the effects of the world’s anguish to some degree.  Just because war isn’t happening on our own soil doesn’t mean we can’t still feel the effects.  No, it’s not the same as “being there”, because that’s absolutely traumatizing to the entirety, but as compassionate human beings, even thinking about the thought of other innocent people being killed and slaughtered over mere land is dumbfounding. 

I really didn’t want to make this a political post, however when thinking about all that has happened between Israel and Hamas, I was just saddened by the bloodshed itself.  In the same regard, with the constant terrorist attacks by Hamas into Israel, doesn’t Israel have the right to defend itself?   Don’t they have the moral responsibility to end terrorism on their land once and for all?  How much longer can they take another hit from Hamas?  Their actions come with consequences.  Israel must protect itself and their people.  

"...In Iran on Wednesday, fundamentalist students asked their government to authorize volunteer suicide bombers to attack Israel.”   read more...

Truth: terrorists don’t fight a fair war.  What are the people of Israel to do? Just put up with it and let them bomb Israel again and again, killing more people?  How many more crude homemade rockets does Hamas have to fly over and kill people with in order for Israel to have a backbone? 

Those of you who sympathize with Hamas, I understand that innocent civilians are being killed and injured, but innocent civilians in Israel have been getting killed and injured due to Hamas' actions.  Now, with more accurate weapons that have more range, they can do a lot more damage to Israel.  It’ll only get worse before it gets better. 

And yet, we still keep internalizing it all.   

My New Year’s resolution: compassion without internalization.  

With all that's going on, I wish you peace, health, love and happiness for this coming New Year!  


Leon Basin said...

Hey, how are you doing? Hope all is well. Happy New Years

Enemy of the Republic said...

I don't sympathize with Hamas, but I do sympathize with the innocents who are getting bombed into the stone age by the only nuclear power in the Mideast. Israel waited a long time to defend itself--those rockets didn't happen yesterday. Israel allowed its own people to be terrorized until the moment felt right to strike back. Now there will be a ground invasion. Hamas will be destroyed and that won't be any loss, but innocents on both sides of the drama will die. Soldiers who have the best military training in the world will be sent to kill their next door neighbors and possibly die in the process. Hamas has been stupid, but as one blogger wrote on my blog, we've had eight years of an idiot in office and few of us have paid the price the Palestinian people will pay. The Holy Land will never rid itself of the blood that soaks the ground that no one can agree upon. It is awful and I blame both--Hamas and Israel's military regime.

Fu Manchu Dad said...

Good idea, this not internalizing everything that happens. One can't be responsible or even feel responsible for all the crap that goes on in the world. Sad as it is, there are things that most of us can do nothing about. You have to get a grip, and march on with the world in which you can make a difference. Not to be oblivious of everything, but to keep a realistic perspective and know when to say "There's nothing I can do" and move on. Great post. Have a happy, productive and sober new year. My best to you and yours.

SJ said...

To me the the thing Israel is doing wrong is that it is NOT solving it's problems. Anyway I am kind of used to Israel-Palestine being an issue since I was a kid so no internalization there.

Oh and Happy new year. Stay weird :)

The Mad Hoosier said...

What's interesting is that for all the bad feelings against the United States, particularly in that part of the is the United States that is protecting them.

We have "handcuffed" Israel for decades from doing what it is their right to do...full-on attack against those that attack them.

It's ok for the United States for go full on(although we don't even go full on) against terrorists that attack us, but somehow Israel isn't afforded that same right??

Despite the hatred of many middle east countries against us and despite every ultra liberal here in our country's efforts, our compassion is exceeded by no one. We convince Israel that peace and restraint is better than annialiation of their enemies.

the walking man said...

Deb...I am not going to speak to my beliefs of the Israeli assault, I have done that at Enemies place.

I will speak to the more important portions of your heartfelt post.

Whether we choose to focus on it or not we ALWAYS live in the now. In reality it can be no other way. If life is metered by the metronome of the heartbeat; then all there is, is the moment of that wuhdump sound of the muscle working right now.

Anything else we focus on is speculation over the future, trying to formulate a plan that may or may not have an affect when that wuhdump arrives. Or we can focus on the past, the one thing about ourselves we can not change without lies to ourselves and others. Lies are always counter to goals gained on solid ground.

To me, one who has a voracious appetite for information about the world, it would be depressing to not look at our ball of dust from a step or two back. It's not that I don't care about the economic melt down, Israel, Palestine, Darfur, Aids, Iraq, Iran, the crazed Wahabi of Saudi Arabia, America and oh so many other situations or places; the words above after all represent people, cultures and society at large. And it is those people I consider not the governments that rule them.

But to internalize the troubles of others is counterproductive to achieving the goals of our dreams, or mine at least, one peace for all the people to live under in amity. (Notice I said peace not government).

Focus on myself I say and in healing me, I will be able to give that same healing to them I encounter. They can then carry that same desire to others. It is all one can actually do for both themselves and the world at large.

Money can be given, but it will be spent and have to be resourced again, but time spent in healing ourselves and then others that is wahdumps well spent.

Deb...May the times ahead bring the blessings you richly deserve, may God, you and Madelene continue to love and may you continue to be a source of hope for the rest of us.

Just_because_today said...

I like what your friend said
“We should live in the NOW and let everything else go.”

It reminds me of something Charles Chaplin said:
"Life is like a theater production that allows no rehearsals. Therefore, sing, laugh, dance, cry and live intensily each moment of you life before the curtain's down and the production ends with no applause"
And you are right, we think too much, hurt too much.

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~Deb said...

Leon: Hi, doing great...thank you! I hope you have a wonderful New Year too! :)

Enemy: I feel horrible about all the innocent people that are involved with this war. It’s unavoidable - in any war, sadly. I hate war as much as the next person, but these terrorists don’t “play fair”. Too many lives are being senselessly slaughtered and there are no diplomatic ways to settle anything anymore...why? Why can’t there be a cease fire on both parts and a peace talk? I don’t understand barbaric ways of doing things, but when one side keeps on throwing the bombs, both literally and figuratively, what is Israel supposed to do? Biblically speaking, **this will never, ever end**, and it has proven so till this point and will go on and on... They will fight over this land until Jesus comes back (in my beliefs), or in other beliefs, until this world finally crumbles into pieces.

Fu Manchu: Isn’t it strange how some people absorb more than others? I think it’s genetic how people can detach themselves (in a healthy way), where others feel the pain of other people more than the norm. Scientific studies have shown that part of detachment goes hand-in-hand with how our mind processes it all---pure genetics. Even to the extreme measures: sociopaths vs. the average “normal” mind. That’s WAY extreme of course---I’m just basing this on the way our minds internalize things ...or doesn’t. Fear has a lot to do with it too I believe.
Thank you for your input. Still on the wagon and sober! :) I hope that you have a wonderful, healthy and prosperous New Year!!!

SJ: Why is the timing wrong? Do you think that Israel should have retaliated sooner? Or do you resent their patience with Hamas? I think Israel waited too long to do this. There seems to be no other way to handle this, since terrorists don’t do things in diplomatic ways...they’re cowards. I don’t get it...I don’t like it either, but I back Israel up 100%.
And, ....would you have me any other way BUT weird? C’mon. You know me a little by now! ;) Happy New Year to you!!!

The Mad Hoosier: You’re right. I guess the U.S. tries to make every effort to make peace in other lands, yet when turbulence erupts on our very own soil, we attack full force, and unfortunately, we have attacked the wrong people, and those who we (Bush Sr. & Jr.) had resentments towards ie: Saddam), when all along we should have been full speed ahead on bin Laden. Is he dead? Is he alive? Is he doing business with us now? You made a good point. I guess having too much power comes with some hypocrisy, lack of faith and criticism, all bundled up in our big melting pot.

The Walking Man: ”...But to internalize the troubles of others is counterproductive to achieving the goals of our dreams, or mine at least, one peace for all the people to live under in amity. (Notice I said peace not government).”

Beautifully said. I don’t think there will ever be peace in government, wars, countries, world sufferings, etc., etc., what can we do when we’re so powerless over it? Your advice is so so so invigorating and healthy! Focus on “us”----heal ourselves----so that we may heal others with our positive energy. For some, and even for myself at times it is very hard to do. A new year to a brand new start with good and healthy outlooks on life is the only way. Focusing in on the “now” in our own personal lives and never looking back, but reflecting on the past as a learning process is always a good thing. Too much focal point on the future may cause you to miss out on the most important thing: our journeys. I wish you all the happiness and health in this new year to come! Thank you so much for your comment!

Just Because Today: With too much focus on anything, we do hurt too much and feel too much. I love the quote by Charles Chaplin. I have never heard that before.
Thank you! :)

And I have to say to all of you (who happen to be my favorite writers)---that I have learned so much by reading your articles and comments and really altering my way of thinking, for the better! I’m so thankful that I have come across your intelligent and amazing minds. It’s rare to find these days. Thanks for teaching me so much!

Enemy of the Republic said...

Happy New Year, Deb

Rick said...

First time visitor to your blog, and I'm impressed by the level of impassioned reasoning in your work. Re the tyranny of living in the now, as writers we have to be free to walk between the past, present and the future as we choose. There won't be much in the of a brighter future if we don't. It's difficult to learn from the past and encourage a more peaceful future if we are stuck in the moment.

The true meaning of living in the NOW, in my opinion, is that it puts money in Eckhart Tolle's pockets. He had a good basic premise that has turned into something like a mini-cult movement.

Re the Middle Eastern problems- both sides are too self-important to lay down their weapons. It is a horrifying, degrading situation for both sides. If war is hell, then they have mutually condemned their people to a life of brimstone. God help them all.

~Deb said...

Enemy: You too- you too!

Rick: Interesting point! Thank you for bringing that up. Yes, we definitely need to reflect on the past so we don’t (or try not to) make the same mistakes again, so it’s a fine line between “living in the moment” and just leaving the past completely behind.

I agree that Israel and Hamas has created a hell on earth. Sad to think the holy land is really a place of fire & brimstone. We can only pray for peace...

Thanks for visiting, Rick. :)

Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

Happy New Year, Deb!

May you be blessed with much happiness and many joys in 2009!

May the world be blessed with Peace & Justice in 2009!

Many years ago, before thoughts about terrorism were as common as they are today, I attended at sociology lecture by a man who had been studying terrorism since the war for independence from France in Algeria. He made a comment that I have not forgotten: “Most terrorists would be terrorists even if they had no cause to die for.”

~Deb said...

Happy New Year to you as well, Nick! :)

What a scary concept to think that even without a "cause to die for", they would still wreak havoc. I wonder why that is---are they just so genetically frig'd up like sociopaths or is it all for their God? If it is true, that they would kill without a cause to die for, then it has to be a psychological problem in my opinion. And it keeps getting worse as time goes on, doesn't it?