Thursday, December 29, 2011

The Fear of Crossing Over

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There’s something much larger than us. As I said in my previous post, it’s too much of a mystery for us to figure it out, but what if people like Ben Breedlove who has cheated death three times and then tells us that there is something out there? Ben’s fourth time resulted in death on Christmas night due to a heart condition. Will the atheists start believing? Will all spiritual and religious people stop fearing death? It’s life’s biggest kept secret - biggest mystery - biggest fear. It’ll never downgrade or be seen as something we never think about on a daily basis. I wonder how his mother feels - does she believe he’s okay? Does it make her own questioning about the mystery of death any lesser? Or, does she believe that what Ben was seeing was purely out of visions manifesting from his brain? No one is ever convinced, even when this happens to a loved one. At the end of this video, it appeared to me that Ben was hoping it would happen again, as he stated that he never wanted to leave that place he was at while he died for three minutes. There is a scripture from the Bible that I do believe which gives me comfort. If you’re not a Christian, you can apply it accordingly.

What Will Happen to Us When We Die?

“We know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down--when we die and leave these bodies---we will have a home in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands. We grow weary in our present bodies, and we long for the day when we will put on our heavenly bodies like new clothing. For we will not be spirits without bodies, but we will put on new heavenly bodies. Our dying bodies make is groan and sigh, but it’s not that we want to die and have no bodies at all. We want to slip into our new bodies so that these dying bodies will be swallowed up by everlasting life. God himself has prepared us for this, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit. So we are always home with the Lord. That is why we live by believing and not by seeing. Yes, we are at home with the Lord. So our aim is to please him always, whether we are here in this body or away from this body. For we must all stand before Christ to be judged, We will each receive whatever we deserve for the god or evil we have done in our bodies.” --2 Corinthians 5:1-10

“That is why we live by believing and not by seeing.” -- That can be a hard pill to swallow for someone who has many doubts about the afterlife. It also states this in John 20:29. How can we as “ordinary people” believe something without proof? And even though I, personally, have had many spiritual experiences that led me to believe that there is a God, my mind (or the devil) asks, “Will you even get into heaven though?” --So many Christians or “religious” people fear the worst: hell. Okay - so there’s is an afterlife, but where will we go? What irritates me about organized religion, churches, etc., is that many of the people of the cloth will scare you into believing that if you are not perfect, that you will perish in hell. They instill this guilt inside your heart, so that your natural instincts as a human being should be altered. There are rules and regulations. There are “conditions”. Isn’t God unconditional love? What does unconditional love mean? I feel bad for “religious” people who constantly walk around with this aching guilt that never seems to subside. They’ve been brainwashed by----people, not God. They’ve been taught since birth that “this is right” and “this is wrong”. Christians who have been taught that the sins of yesterday (Old Testament) still applies today. Then why did Jesus die? “But what if we seek to be made right with God through faith in Christ and then find out that we are still sinners? Has Christ led us into sin? Of course not! Rather, I make myself guilty if I rebuild the old system I already tore down. For when I tried to keep the law, I realized I could never earn God’s approval. So I died to the law so that I might live for God. I have been crucified with Christ. I myself no longer live, but Christ lives in me. So I live my life in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. I am not one for those who treats the grace of God as meaningless. **For if we could be saved by keeping the law, then there was no need for Christ to die.”**

That one sentence says it all: {“For if we could be saved by keeping the law, then there was no need for Christ to die.”}

Then you have this passage:

“You and I are Jews by birth, not ‘sinners’ like the Gentiles. And yet we Jewish Christians know that we become right with God, not by doing what the law commands, but by faith in Jesus Christ. So we have believed in Christ Jesus, that we might be accepted by God because of our faith in Christ-and not because we have obeyed the law. ***For no one will ever be saved by obeying the law.***” ~Galatians 2:15-16

So in my own opinion, if you don’t believe that your sins are washed away completely, then you’re basically not believing that Jesus’ death actually did take away your sins - that His death was meaningless. But that’s “my” belief, as well as it is written in the Bible. I have had other Christians debate me on this topic because they still believe the old law applies to Christians. Basic rules, like love God and love your neighbor - the things that make someone a decent human being - but not things like eating crustaceans of the sea, or being gay or lesbian, as Leviticus states.

My point of this post is to ask the question: are we still scared? We avoid certain things so we can cheat death ourselves. We try to “be safe” and not live on the edge. Through my own spiritual experiences which are in my book, I know for a fact that our bodies are labored here on earth - our breathing is “work” - our limbs weight a TON, and the emotional pain (even if we’re somewhat happy) is excruciating. We feel too much. We think too much. We fear too much. We self-medicate so we can feel...numb. “Numb” - is how we feel on the other side, or what mimics it. Why do you think so many people are on painkillers without the pain, or the abuse of alcohol or drugs? It aids in the human condition which is pain. We are all in pain and if someone says they aren’t - they aren’t looking at it in a physical/emotional all-being aspect because they don’t know what the other option feels like. We’ve become so immune to this “pain” (that seems painless), that we tend to think this’ll how we’ll feel when we’re on the other side.

Jesus said this before He left us:

"Don't be troubled. You trust God, now trust in me. There are many rooms in my Father's home, and I am going to prepare a place for you. If this were not so, I would tell you plainly. When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am. And you know where I am going and how to get there." --John 14:1-4

“I am leaving you with a gift---peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give isn’t like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” --John 14:27

What do you believe happens to you when we cross over? Or do you even believe that we cross over at all?

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That corgi :) said...

My mom was very sick for about 10 days before she passed. The night before she passed she was sort of with it; she recognized family members, she prayed with my niece. One thing my sister said that has stuck with me was that my mom's eyes were the clearest she had seen them in a bit and that my mom was looking beyond those in her hospital room for the majority of the evening, like she was looking at someone else there that no one else could see. I kept that in my heart and read about a friend who lost her dad six weeks before my mom that she said his eyes were so focused and clear the day before he passed. My sister-in-law's mother suffered a massive stroke at church right after the service. After the people around her realized something was wrong with her, they looked at her face and saw she had a big smile on it......

I truly believe in the case of my mom that she was seeing Jesus. I truly believe in the other cases I listed above they were seeing him too. All three had strong faiths and trust in Jesus.

For my sister, when she left the hospital that night she thought my mom would be getting better; imagine her surprise when she got the call the next morning that my mom had slipped into a coma and there was low chance of her coming out of it. I had been praying for a few years before her passing that my mom would have a smooth death that she basically would fall asleep here and wake up in heaven. I truly believe God answered that prayer. Miss her like crazy, even though its been five years, but know she is where God wants her to be and that is good enough for me.

Yet there are days I do wonder how the whole death process works. Yet I trust in Jesus. He said he is preparing a place for me. I do believe he is. Such a dichotomy I do believe.


the walking man said...

Question. If when we die we go straight to heaven and that coupled with the sins of all men as a debt paid for, why don't we all simply suicide and go to heaven where our sin is already forgiven? Why wait and go through this life of fear and loathing you describe Deb?

I fear nothing, not death nor life. Number one what is the point of trying to ward off the inevitable and secondly why do we still fear death if we believe that God has the power to take a mortal man who was murdered by a police state at the request of the religious leaders and give him life eternal?

I mean if the creator can do something one time he can do as many times as necessary. Correct?

To me fear is a sin, especially egregious is the sin of the fear of death because we then doubt the Creator and that spirit of Christ within us and all that the creator accomplished in vanquishing the devils last power, which was the ability to spread the fear of dying.

"Concerning them which SLEEP brethren I would not have you to be ignorant..." I'll go with this one. Them who die do NOT go directly to the home of God but rather to the place of sleep where their ancestors before them sleep also. If we die and go straight to the place of light or darkness then why did Christ teach of a resurrection and a gathering of the saints, with the sea giving up her dead also.

I have faith, great faith that Mr. Breedlove is now safely quietly at rest in the house of his ancestors waiting for that resurrection.

It is also written God himself shall teach you...ergo if you have a fear of anything ask that one who created all that is to show you why you fear it and how to overcome that fear.

Not many years ago I went to the funerals or memorials of 6 suicides am I to invest my faith that they are damned? Naw I think not, I have invested my faith in that they too will rise and live again according to the promise of the Creator delivered to man from the mouth of the Christ.

Deb said...


The faith that we have is more like “knowledge” and to other people, it’s just a simple belief system. Such unexplainable things happen and when they do, we open our eyes up to it or other people start believing as well. My condolences for your mom. It’s never easy to see someone you love about to cross over. This is a bit unlike your experience, but right before my grandma passed, I was planning to see her the following Saturday afternoon with my partner. I knew she wasn’t well and it wouldn’t be too long. So the night before (Friday night) I had such a vivid dream of her. Keep in mind that it was a while since I have seen her, and as I remember, she had bright red hair, short, chubby, cute, but what my mom had told me, she was 60 lbs, white hair to none, frail and brittle with bed sores. So, in my dream, she came to me in her vibrant red hair, full round robust figure & feisty attitude and said, “Don’t you dare come see me this way! Please don’t come tomorrow!” And I said to her (in my dream), “No, I haven’t seen you in a long time and I wanna come up - and that’s that!” The next morning, my mother told me that grandma had just passed away. When I went to her funeral, I saw a short, robust and vibrant redhead - the way I remembered her. That’s what she requested. I knelt besides her and said, “You stubborn woman!” I don’t believe it was just a dream.


You said: "If when we die we go straight to heaven and that coupled with the sins of all men as a debt paid for, why don't we all simply suicide and go to heaven where our sin is already forgiven? Why wait and go through this life of fear and loathing you describe Deb?”
Because there is a big difference in having our ‘human nature-type’ of sins, and being an evil person with evil intentions. I do believe there is a hell. Don’t get me wrong - I believe our sins are forgiven because God truly knows our heart. For those of us who are generally ‘good people’ - what sense would it make to commit suicide when God has a purpose for us here on earth? Maybe our purpose is to help someone or spread some sort of message to the world. Like your poetry - people are inspired by your words - they can relate on various levels - OR - they learn about how it’s like to live in a different environment. You opened my eyes up to a world I didn’t think existed. I have learned a lot from you and maybe that’s why I found your blog.

You said: ”Them who die do NOT go directly to the home of God but rather to the place of sleep where their ancestors before them sleep also."
And that may very well be the case. It’s all about “faith” - but I do believe that when people cross over, the feeling, the weightlessness of your spirit is such a relief - the burden has been taken away from you - the heaviness of the world has been lifted. Even if we have to wait a bit to get into heaven with our ancestors, it’s a much better place than here on earth. This I believe with all my heart. I also do believe in ghosts (ones that roam) and believe that there is some sort of ‘in between’ stage. But, I can’t say “I know”, because I don’t. I have faith that God won’t disappoint us.

And fear is of the devil. It’s not something God-given. “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” --2 Timothy 1:7 Debilitating fear is not from the Lord. We can call upon God’s Spirit to give us teh power to face our foes, the love to overcome evil with good, and the discipline to persevere through our trials. We have been given the power to turn from fear to faith. I absolutely believe that if we spent more time practicing our faith (our relationship with God) we become much more fearless because God’s love takes its place. God does show you how to overcome fear, but you have to be alert, aware and most of all “there” to receive it.

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