"Oh, you cook? Well I can do that better."
"Oh, you like photography? Well, I can do that better."
"Oh, you have a website and write? Well, I can market that better than you can."
It never ends! This is why most of the time, I keep to myself and just stick by my old friends from high school and hang out with some of the people I work along with. There's no tension there, there's no judgement, no complications.
I keep my circle of friends small. I have quality friends, I don't need quantity. I don't want to deal with insecure, narcissists who have delusions of grandeur, who belittle you all because they truly believe that they're healthier than you, that they're wealthier than you, and that they have a better relationship than you do---or they just think they know what's best for you. I don't need to be mocked because of my anxiety disorder, while they pop a few Xanax and Ambien to calm themselves down at night. I'm tired of hypocrites. I'm tired of people who hurt people. And of course, I know that from experience, because hurt people usually hurt people. I get that. I understand that. And, I'm also a very forgiving person. I just lack trust in people. I usually like to give the benefit of the doubt. But when it's on a consistent basis, where all you're doing is trying to defend yourself, or trying to make them understand why their judgments are so harsh---it's time to take a step back and shut the door to your closed circle.
"Don't tell people your problems. Eighty percent don't care, and the other twenty percent are glad you have them." ---Lou Holtz
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