chancla means, and if one goes flying at my head, I'll know who it's from.
So the "just kidding" part in that story was in the form of, "Well, I didn't mean anything by it."
But you said it.
There are times when I say off-kilter things, but for the life of me, I cannot understand why certain people say the most offensive things to the people they claim to care about.
Gossip Kills Three
And what does gossip do?
Gossip kills three: the one who says it, the one who listens, and the subject of the gossip. If they gossip about someone else--then you're probably next or you've already been spoken about.
That's actually a rule taken out of Judaism. There's no doubt that people are going to have to speak about others in order to tell a story. The big difference is: how do they tell it? Do they slander others in the process or do they keep a somewhat neutral ground while explaining it? I try not to be judgmental in a any way, but sometimes you have to shut people out in order to live a peaceful life. It doesn't mean you have to hurt them in any sort of way or talk badly about them -- you just need to remove yourself from their life or at least, keep them at arm's length. As soon as I feel like you're one of these gossipy hens with no social cues whatsoever -- the type that blabs on and on about other people, especially people I am friends with or associate with, then I disassociate with you. For me, it's a huge red flag for drama. I don't like keeping secrets about what so-and-so thinks of someone else who is within the immediate circle. It's just not my bag.
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