To Save a Homosexual...

What does it mean to be an ex-gay? It could mean anything to many people, depending on their beliefs and opinions. To radical Christians, it simply means to give up your “sin”. They believe homosexuality is an abomination, as listed in Leviticus. They completely ignore the fact that the rules of Leviticus do not apply to Christians today. It’s a good learning tool about history, and how some Jewish people still live today. To other people, being an ex-gay means suppressing your feelings and going back into the closet out of shame. It’s pretending to be somebody else. Who wants to live a lie? Wouldn’t that be a sin alone? Wouldn’t it be horrible to marry somebody of the opposite sex, while knowing deep down inside that you’re really gay? Is it fair to the other person who married the ex-gay?

“You’re not living for Christ!” A lot of Christians will chant this line to those who are gay & lesbian and living as Christians. For myself, I rely on God. I live for God. My life is His. When you ask God into your heart and repent for your “sins”, you’re made right with Him. The price was paid in full when He died on the cross. The problem is, some people don’t have enough faith that Jesus’ death was enough to save us. It takes away all “sins” of the past and present.

My conscience is clear, but that isn’t what matters. It is the Lord himself who will examine me and decide. So be careful not to jump to conclusions before the Lord returns as to whether or not someone is faithful. When the Lord comes, he will bring our deepest secrets to light and will reveal our private motives. And then God will give to everyone whatever praise is due. ~1 Corinthians 4:4-5

With all of the teachings in the bible regarding judging others and criticizing your ‘brothers and sisters’, it’s surprising that there are so many people out there who worship God, but make their primary focus on judging the gays and lesbians.

Jesus said: “Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. For others will treat you as you treat them. Whatever measure you use in judging others, it will be used to measure how you are judged. And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. ~Matthew 7:1-5

This passage is completely disregarded by some Christians. When someone focuses only on the gays and lesbians, they’re taking away from other important issues they can help with. They’re so determined to make every homosexual into an ex-gay, that it becomes a type of idolization on their part. It takes away their time with God, in order to achieve the goal of getting them out of the homosexual lifestyle.

Christians who focus way too much on homosexuality:

*Christine from Talk Wisdom
*Mark from Chester Street
*Dani from Generation X-Pose

There are many others out there like them; however, these three seem to drill the issue deep into the ground. Although at times, it may seem as though these people are genuinely concerned about trying to get homosexuals to be straight, they seem to neglect other important issues based upon Christianity. Is it their mission to cure homosexuals? Do we need to be "cured"?

What is a sin? As far as I’m concerned, the Ten Commandments still apply.

Do not worship any other gods
Do not make any idols
Do not misuse the name of God
Keep the Sabbath holy
Honor your father & mother
Do not murder
Do not commit adultery
Do not steal
Do not lie
Do not covet

How about the seven deadly sins?


None of the above lists says anything about homosexuality being a sin. Christians will twist it a bit, and say that “lust” is sinful. They equate lust with love. It’s not the same. They’ll tell you that you’re committing adultery, since the relationship is outside of a marriage. Wrong. If we could marry legally, some of us would. And, how many heterosexual couples are out there having premarital sex anyway?

The truth is, we’re all in this together. We all have sins, flaws, imperfections that make us unique. We all have our crosses to bear and we all have to answer to God. The most important thing is---we don’t have to answer to a mere human. They have their own sins to contend with, but they’d rather focus on somebody else’s. That’s when the motives of certain Christians are revealed.

When does it become a matter of helping somebody, as opposed to criticizing people in order to hurt them? Do they have a hidden agenda? And if not, then why do they drill the issue so diligently?