Friday, August 10, 2007

Constant Peace

Let your spirits be high, your worries be low and your peace be constant. I prayed this for someone I know going through some life struggles. We all go through them in different ways. Sometimes, I look at certain people and say to myself, “How dare I complain about something so trivial!” Maybe it wasn’t trivial to me at that time, but sometimes I have to gather my thoughts and realize that things can be much worse. Complaining is basically venting. It never does any good, except to get it off your chest.

This morning, I woke up to the sounds of raindrops pit-pattering against my windowpane. I was underneath a plush goose-down comforter, lying down in bed. It was the first cold day in August. I know, that must sound weird, but it was cold and rainy. These are my favorite types of days. I usually get a big blanket, a huge cup of soup and watch movies. I still needed to do some work and make it to the gym afterwards though. After work and exercise, my evening is planned with dinner and drinks with friends and family. My favorite day of rain, big blankets and soup has been diminished. Do I have a right to complain?

The both are wonderful options. I’m grateful for even having an option. Sometimes I find myself losing gratitude for the things that can be taken away from me so easily. I’m not one to take things for granted, but lately, I have been blinded by all the blessings that surround me. When we’re at work, we wish we were home in bed. When we’re home too much, we wish we had some work to do. It never ends. I remember working at the call center looking out the window thinking, “I could be doing so many things right now, like cleaning, doing laundry, going to the park, going shopping or even getting my hair and nails done.” Then, when that lucky day rolled around- wouldn’t you know it-- I stayed home doing absolutely nothing. Ironic, huh?

It’s like we say things, and then turn around and do the complete opposite. Well, I guess I can only speak for myself.

My self-dialog while preaching these sentences to someone else:

“Let your spirits be high.”

I can give this advice, but shouldn’t I take it myself?

“Let your worries be low.”

Sure, I would love them to be low, but with all my anxiety, how can they ever be low?

“And let your peace be constant.”

Yeah right.

For many, peace can have so many meanings. Peace can mean a few hours away from the kids, a day off from work, a glass of wine, reading a book or sitting near a lake at sunset. But what does it truly mean to have “constant peace”? It’s that peace that resides in your heart, no matter what’s going on in your life. It’s that thought that reminds you that everything’s going to be all right. It’s that voice from within that lets you know that there are worse case scenarios out there and that we should feel lucky and have gratitude for it all. For me, peace is God living inside of me, guiding my emotions and handling the way I react. It’s giving up control and letting God take the steering wheel instead. Let’s face it, He’s better at it than I am. Constant peace is the ability to keep God around, while life keeps batting us down with more problems. Constant peace is meditating on God’s promises that things will get better and that we’re not alone. God’s always there to see us through it all.

So today, may I wish you this… Let your spirits be high, your worries be low, and your peace be constant.

Have a great weekend!


SJ said...

How can we achieve constant peace when the universe itself can't?

The earth tectonic plates are always moving - earthquakes and volcanic eruptions and tsunamis result.

Stars and planets are formed and destroyed comets land, stars supernova.

If constancy can't be achieved by [insert your faith/rational based entity] how can I?

Maddie said...

You have already come to realize, what millions of others seek in a very frenzied society. You already know, "the secret"! That "secret" is the Word of God, that lives in you. Jesus said, "I give you peace, My peace I give you."
That is the peace that comes when you know that God is in control, for your good and your benefit in every aspect of your life.
Your post reflects what millions seek, the search for peace.
I thank Him everyday for His peace. It is the only reason I can deal with every circumstance of life with success.
Thanks for the awesome post, like always, you shine.

Lisa said...

Great post. Great, great post. I want to add something, but I have nothing to add! You said it perfectly, Deb. :) What a blessing you are!

Matt-Man said...

Same to you Deb, and Cheers!!

~Deb said...
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~Deb said...

SJ: Saddening questions… For me, the only thing I can say when the world has gone ‘mad’, is that I seek my peace from God. And I will admit, sometimes it’s almost like last resort-----but it’s the best resort. I run around looking for other things to calm me; to give me that constant peace. Nothing else has compared to the peace that God gives. It’s hard though, to just rely on a higher being sometimes…but with faith and a closer relationship with God (for me), it seems to work the best. You said, ”…If constancy can’t be achieved by {insert your faith/rational based entity} how can I?” For “me”, it won’t be achieved. I’ll keep putting band-aids on every panic stricken thing that comes my way. Thank you so much for the thought provoking comment and questions.

Maddie: Someone with the faith as much as you hold can move mountains. Just like I said the other day, or “quoted” the other day, …faith as small as a mustard seed can move mountains. You have that faith. I’ve seen it throughout all these years and you’ve inspired me, as well as made my faith stronger. You’ve helped me find peace in God, you’ve prayed with me, you’ve taken me to church and have seen me through my worst times. You’re the one who shines…you definitely have the “Jesus light”. It radiates. Love you!

Lisa: I appreciate your kind words! Thank you! It just poured out of me- no thoughts- just poured out for some reason. {{hugs}}

Matt-man: Cheers to you!!! Keep up the high spirits! I’m going out for “spirits” myself later! :p

Ricardo said...

Have a good weekend as well! I do the same thing. When at work, i wish to be home and when I'm home I want to be working on something. But I also have fallen victim to doing nothing with my free time when I say I am going to do something with it. It's awful that I do that.

You have the right to vent. We all do. No one is ever happy all the time.

Samantha said...

My top rainy day movie has to be Breakfast At Tiffanys. Since I live in Cornwall, land of rain, I watch it a lot! I also spend my days off lazing instead of treating myself, but lazing is sort of treating!

GW Mush said...

I always like to combine spirituality and food.

Grant us pea's,

Lettuce pray.

I also force God to be more peaceful. I threaten to write 'crap' on God's blog if he doesnt agree with my demands that he be more peaceful and stuff.

Maddie said...

Love you more.....

Belladonna said...

Such lovely words.

However...a line that sticks in my head from the book Courage to Heal: "comparison of people's pain simply isn't useful." Just because someone else may have to endure things far more abhorrent does not in any way minimze the heartache you or I get.

While complaining may not be particularly helpful, I think minimizing our own experience by holding it up in comparison to the experience of others is just as futile.

We each deal with whatever cards we get dealt to the best of our ability. Sometimes we can recognize the grace that surrounds us and sometimes we fall flat on our face with self absorbed shortsighted sorrows.

In good times or bad, training our spirits to be able to go quiet and soak up that elusive remain in a state of gratitude REGARDLESS of our exterior circumstances, yeah that's a challenge. But it is a challenge worth reaching for. said...

a wise man told me recently that he sees desire as the root of the difficulty. a simple statement, but true, IMHO. and your post here brings this thought back to me. what difference could one make in one's day by merely just savouring what is ~ not thinking about or wishing for this or that ... but just mindfully savouring what's around oneself.

indeed, its hard ~ oh so hard ~ to get past one's blinded ego to see, really see with grace-filled vision. its existence, i suppose.

Catch said...

That is such a neat picture Deb! Rainy days are for laying around the house and watching good movies on tv...and having something that smells wonderful simmering on the stove for dinner! I love to take a book and go out and lay on the swing on my deck and read...just relax and enjoy the rain.

Gary Baker said...

"comparison of people's pain simply isn't useful."

I agree with the statement as is. What we experience is unique to each of us. However, I think it can be very useful to compare responses. We get caught up in our own little worlds so often that I think we tend to over-emphasize our own pains or trials.

I read Mike Adams's blog. He wrote back an answer to one student who sent him a note saying that she should be granted a higher grade based on circumstances that occurred that hindered her study during the course. Dr. Adams replied with the story of a woman who attended his class who was a quadraplegic, who had to get up several hours early each day just to get dressed for class with the help of others (forget about the inherent difficulties in studying, getting to class, etc.) She neither asked for, nor accepted special treatment.

The circumstances and "pain" for each person were quite different. But the biggest difference was in how they handled it. One approached with an inspirational determination to succeed. The other responded with a self-centered feeling that her problems had to be accommodated by others. I can't really comment on the quality of anguish each person felt. As I said, that's very personal. But I know which person I found more inspirational, and who I would rather be like.

People in the Sun said...

Good luck on your journey, and have a great weekend, too.

Bryan Younger said...

I love your blog. I think it is the only one I read as much as my own. You must be very brave to show your heart and soul to the entire world. Please keep writing and I will keep reading.

channelofhealing said...

Hi Deb,the title post got me, what does it mean to have peace of the mind,body and soul, because it's funny how when you think you have summonted a particular situation another comes up...hence your answer comes in here “constant peace”? It’s that peace that resides in your heart, no matter what’s going on in your life. It’s that thought that reminds you that everything’s going to be all right.
Deb peace to me is having God say to me... my child! everything will be alright, for I am in Control of your life... that is all I need so every other thing is nothing to me.
Deb... I don't know you personally, but I know one thing we are all God's children He made us all, I don't judge, I am not God neither is any man God. so all i will tell you to give your all to God and let Him prune you, mold you to fit into His purpose.
you are His vessel, you must be used By Him.

Luv always

Art said...

Thank you Deb! I wish you the same and I hope you had a great weekend.

GW Mush said...


Your blog looks a lil different, is this what happens after you get a new bed? hehe

~Deb said...

Thanks for the input everyone! I appreciate it! And yes, my website looked different for a day- it's back to normal again. I need a professional to help me out with any technical stuff!

DaBich said...

It's Tuesday, and I've just read this, but I find it so ... inspiring.

Thank you once again!

Robert said...

Incredible post, as are most here at your blog. I love the way you speak of God 'living inside of you.' I wholeheartedly agree and truly feel as if it is the separation one feels from God that creates all further conflict, no matter what, where, or how it manifests. I'm sure there are many Christians, and of course others, who believe God is far away, waiting for them after this life, in heaven, etc. And yet here you are, telling it like it is, God is the home of our very heart, never absent, never far, never waiting...always here and eternally present.
Thank you once again for your words, you are lovely.