Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Facts About Homosexuality & Pedophilia

Why are so many Christians confused? They don’t understand that homosexuality is just an orientation. I’m speaking of those types of judgmental Christians; the radical ones who love to slander people. They confused homosexuality with pedophilia, rape, murder, and promiscuity in general and love slandering the gay community any way they can.

Let me just make one thing clear: homosexuality has nothing to do with pedophilia. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. These ‘so called Christians” ramble on over the statistics that there are more gay men that are pedophiles than there are straight men. They’re wrong. I’m not slandering heterosexuals – I’m just stating a statistical fact. Pedophilia is in a whole different category all together.

Pedophilia: sexual desire in an adult for a child.

Homosexuality: sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex.

It’s pure ignorance to think that homosexuality stems for the desire for pedophilia. A write up about pedophilia and hebephilia is written here:

Pedophilia and child molestation are used in different ways, even by professionals. Pedophilia usually refers to an adult psychological disorder characterized by a preference for prepubescent children as sexual partners; this preference may or may not be acted upon. The term hebephilia is sometimes used to describe adult sexual attractions to adolescents or children who have reached puberty. Whereas pedophilia and hebephilia refer to psychological propensities, child molestation and child sexual abuse are used to describe actual sexual contact between an adult and someone who has not reached the legal age of consent. In this context, the latter individual is referred to as a child, even though he or she may be a teenager.

Although the terms are not always applied consistently, it is useful to distinguish between pedophiles/hebephiles and child molesters/abusers. Pedophilia and hebephilia are diagnostic labels that refer to psychological attractions. Not all pedophiles and hebephiles actually molest children; an adult can be attracted to children or adolescents without ever actually engaging in sexual contact with them.

Child molestation and child sexual abuse refer to actions, and don't imply a particular psychological makeup or motive on the part of the perpetrator. Not all incidents of child sexual abuse are perpetrated by pedophiles or hebephiles; in some cases, the perpetrator has other motives for his or her actions and does not manifest an ongoing pattern of sexual attraction to children.

Thus, not all child sexual abuse is perpetrated by pedophiles (or hebephiles) and not all pedophiles and hebephiles actually commit abuse. Consequently, it is important to use terminology carefully.

Another problem related to terminology arises because sexual abuse of male children by adult men
2 is often referred to as "homosexual molestation." The adjective "homosexual" (or "heterosexual" when a man abuses a female child) refers to the victim's gender in relation to that of the perpetrator. Unfortunately, people sometimes mistakenly interpret it as referring to the perpetrator's sexual orientation.

To avoid this confusion, it is preferable to refer to men's sexual abuse of boys with the more accurate label of male-male molestation. Similarly, it is preferable to refer to men's abuse of girls as male-female molestation. These labels are more accurate because they describe the sex of the individuals involved but don't implicitly convey unwarranted assumptions about the perpetrator's sexual orientation.

Typologies of Offenders

The distinction between a victim's gender and a perpetrator's sexual orientation is important because many child molesters don't really have an adult sexual orientation. They have never developed the capacity for mature sexual relationships with other adults, either men or women. Instead, their sexual attractions focus on children – boys, girls, or children of both sexes.

Over the years, this fact has been incorporated into various systems for categorizing child molesters. For example, Finkelhor and Araji (1986) proposed that perpetrators' sexual attractions should be conceptualized as ranging along a continuum – from exclusive interest in children at one extreme, to exclusive interest in adult partners at the other end.

Typologies of offenders have often included a distinction between those with an enduring primary preference for children as sexual partners and those who have established age-appropriate relationships but become sexually involved with children under unusual circumstances of extreme stress. Perpetrators in the first category – those with a more or less exclusive interest in children – have been labeled fixated. Fixation means "a temporary or permanent arrestment of psychological maturation resulting from unresolved formative issues which persist and underlie the organization of subsequent phases of development" (Groth & Birnbaum, 1978, p. 176). Many clinicians view fixated offenders as being "stuck" at an early stage of psychological development.

Q: "Are homosexual adults in general sexually attracted to children and are preadolescent children at greater risk of molestation from homosexual adults than from heterosexual adults?"

A: "There is no reason to believe so. The research to date all points to there being no significant relationship between a homosexual lifestyle and child molestation. There appears to be practically no reportage of sexual molestation of girls by lesbian adults, and the adult male who sexually molests young boys is not likely to be homosexual."
-Department of Psychology,University of California

Let's get it "straight" people.


Enemy of the Republic said...

The reason you will find this kind of thinking stems not only from the literal understanding of homosexuality by some Christians, but also from early psychoanalytic writings that portrayed homosexuality as a maladjustment of sexuality, a fixation, an inability to transcend a psychosexual stage. So in both the religious and secular sectors, homosexuality is perversion. Pedophillia is also a perversion--one that the Bible tends to ignore, but psychologists do not. It comes from a maladjustment in the formative years in their thinking (again, I am speaking generally here when it comes to psychology--each theorist was different). So if homosexuality is a perversion, then it is equated with pedophillia. It's a bit like saying brownies and chocolate chip cookies are all baked goods. Yes, they are, but I make both (I'm a baker) and both require different ingredients, different pans, different cooking temperatures...

I know I'm taking up a lot of your comment space here, so I will end it with this: people who liken homosexuality to pedophillia not only show ignorance,but fear of sexuality in general. Everytime someone says the word "perverted", I ask them to explain what that means to them. Generally it is simply talk about sex. So if I admit to feeling attracted to another consenting adult, I am perverted? No, I am quite normal. We try to reign in anything that smacks of sexuality while we see Britney show her business on the internet. This is the result of a sexually repressed society that believes themselves to be the opposite.

I now shall pause.

~Deb said...

C.S Lewis from “Mere Christianity” explains it in an interesting way. He demonstrates that perversion stems from the old “Christian” ways of thinking: contraceptives, which are twisting the concept of having sex merely for reproduction, starving people who think about food all the time, as well as gluttons do; the gorged, as well as the famished, like titillations.

Again, as I always say, the false illusion that promiscuity relates to homosexuality is just as bad as “breeders” and me saying that all heterosexuals are promiscuous. It’s wrong to assume just that.

They forget that homosexuals can actually “love” another person of the same sex. It’s not just “sex” and it has absolutely nothing to do with pedophilia.

Thanks, Enemy!

Enemy of the Republic said...

You are welcome. You know how much this issue irritates me as well. When we get right down to it, sexual perversion does not begin with same sex attraction or different gender attraction. It is something entirely different. I do think that pedophillia is sick. I also think that heterosexuals who can only get sexually aroused by watching porn of women getting raped is a perversion. Being straight is not the golden ticket as there are people who may please church members by liking the opposite gender, but who knows what they do to them behind closed doors? Heterosexuality and homosexuality are orientations, just like you said. The end. Heck, there are people who can still get arrested for performing oral sex in the privacy of their home (even if it's man and woman). When I hear stuff like that, then I realize that sex alone is the perversion for them and they just wish it would just....go away!

~Deb said...
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~Deb said...

The 'right Christian' way: married, monogamy between a man and a woman only and missionary style intercourse for the sole purpose of reproduction only.

Anything beyond those lines are considered "perversion".

Matt-Man said...

I know plenty of people who lump pedophilia and homosexuality as on ein the same. Un-fricking-believable. Have a Happy Thanksgiving Deb, and Cheers!!

Caroline said...

When I first came out I was still going to church. There was this one little girl that used to love and sit with me during church. One day she needed to use the bathroom and I went to take her. Her family noticed that I had taken her to the restroom and came and took her away from me. When my Mother finally realized that I was gay and that was not going to change, one of the things she said to me was, "Now do you know why Melissa didn't want you taking Katie to the bathroom."

I hate that my family thinks I would molest a child just because I love women. They don't understand that I love women, not little girls.

Thanks for posting this. You are an amazing writer.

~Deb said...

Matt-man: Sad, isn’t it? Have a Happy Thanksgiving as well!

Caroline: It’s insane that they associate pedophilia with homosexuality. With all due respect, it’s pure ignorance. There’s a huge difference, and if people cannot see the differences, then their intelligence levels are lower than imagined. Thank you for sharing that and I’m sorry you had to deal with such small-minded people. God bless!

DaBich said...

The way I see it, these people who thing homosexuality and pedophilia are the same must have narrow minds that let no light in whatsoever. They're missing out on a lot...and showing their stupidity to boot.

Happy Thanksgiving, Deb! HUGZ!

Jon said...

Comparing the two reminds me of your buddy Mark over at Chesterstreet. The guy's an ex-gay who doesn't know the difference between boy lovers and a gay man. His own religion has brainwashed his ignorant ass. He writes so much about homosexuality that you have to think twice! The guy's a complete homo and says he's cured from being gay. Just listen to his unsound arguments.

~Deb said...

Dabich: It really is sad. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving too!

Jon: Thanks for stopping by. I feel bad for those focused so much on "sin" and judging others, when they can be directing their positives toward God. Let God be the judge.

dannyzerafa said...

I do not understand why people would get homosexuality mixed up with pedophiles. Pedophilia, in my opinion is a sickness. Homosexuality is not. How hard is that?

DreamCatcher said...

Love is love. Two adults of the same gender who love one another is no different than those who are straight. It's a union.

One adult and one child is rape. Simplicity at its best. Any questions?


Leah said...

Very well written! It's a shame that the people who need to read this will probably never lay eyes upon it.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Miranda said...

I think the whole thing is so sad. They all think they're so right, should be interesting when we find out in the end.

kathi said...

Glad you decided to go with something light for the holidays, lol.
Sweetie, anyone who doesn't know the difference is an idiot and will not figure it out even when it's laid out for them.


Dan said...

Deb, thank you! I can't stand when folks associate the two. Ugh!!

Happy Thanksgiving, by the way. I'm thankful that you're my friend Deb. And yes, I'm blogging again. Can't keep me away.

CP said...

This is why the small minded think that it is dangerous to have homosexual couples adopt or have their own children. Right away, that has to mean they are looking for someone to molest in the privacy of their own homes. It is such a sick way of thinking...and it has always been very funny to me that the more narrow the Christian, the more radical the thought process is.

It makes me think they are living out their dreams vicariously by pinning their own actual desires on others.

Have a happy thanksgiving, Deb. I really miss you.


Jeff B said...

It's a preposterous argument. It amazes me how people will blindly connect two groups of people who are completely different in their actions. I'm a white heterosexual male. Does that mean that I can only be attracted to white women. Of course not.

Catch said...

I dont think the two should be lumped together..its not fair... wishing you a great Thanksgiving Deb!!!!

Queenie said...

Happy Thanksgiving Deb.
I find that people with such small small minds, do not warrent me even wasting time/typos on them. Its just to daft to laugh at...

~Deb said...

It baffles me too.

(On a lighter note...)
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

delmer said...

Years ago one of our female neighbors sorted out that the salesguy up the street was likely gay.

I remember her telling me that the wife and I should keep an eye on our young sons.

I pointed out that would be like me moving in and her warning the neighbors to keep an eye on their young daughters because I like women.

(FWIW, she seemed fairly smart about many other things.)