If there is one thing I have learned in all of my, umm, 29 years is this: never expect anything from anyone. I don't mean to think less of someone else's abilities to do something for you, but never expect what may seem "appropriate" or what someone "should do" ---- they're not you. They can't read minds and if you don't tell them what you need, they may never know. "Well, he/she should know." --Not acceptable. People have these high expectations for others, which sometimes can be seen as unreachable or unobtainable, and it's not fair because that one person being mentally battered hasn't got a clue of what's brewing. For instance, and this one is not a huge deal, but my dad had a long time friend for years who had stopped calling once he passed away. Mom piped in, "Well he should have called by now." But if you look at it in a different view, maybe he's taking it much harder than we realize. Granted, yes, he "should" call, but people are different. Even though "he should" --- we can't expect him to pick up the phone and chitchat, when in fact, there wasn't much chitchatting going on with him and my mom in the first place - it was my dad's buddy. But yes, out of respect, maybe it would have been nice.
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