Monday, July 02, 2012

Facebook: I'm Only Here for the Drama

Everything has become so impersonal. You get happy birthday wishes on your Facebook wall - no card or phone call. If it weren't for Facebook, perhaps your birthday would be forgotten altogether. You no longer have to wonder what people are doing on the weekends or what they're up to during the work week and if it sucked - they always let you know. The funniest entertainment for me are the ones who create those little online dramas online with a status message indicating how upset they are over people commenting over 'this' or 'that' or posting whatever. Who gives a rat's ass? And as much as I would like to think that Facebook has dwindled down a bit, like Myspace, truth is, it hasn't at all. In fact, I want to even say it has gotten worse. This is why I'm more of a fan of Twitter. It's an outlet for whatever and however you want to express yourself and you can hashtag a topic in order to start a conversation about a particular topic. I also find it one of the best news sources (with links of course).

The most disturbing part of Facebook are the ones who have just broken up with a spouse or partner. At times, one person leaves their account fully open just to rub things in the ex's face. Get off their page! (But is it possible?)  Maybe they'll post a picture of a quote stating their feelings or indirectly insulting the person of interest... And keep in mind that people will only show you what they want you to see. They could show you everything in the world, from traveling, new house, new lover, new this, new that --- but have they really moved on?  You'll never know. Facebook is not a truthful place to go if you're seeking answers. And no doubt, there are people out there who do put out too much 'truth' - inappropriate truths to where it hurts someone else in some way or another.

What about photos? You have the self-posed bathroom portrait with some dirty underwear on the floor, or the 'pucker-lipped-I-pretend-to-have-collagen' shot which looks worse than it sounds. I love the pics where you can actually see the arm extending the phone cam in order to get the profile picture, raised high enough to enhance 'features', even some major cleavage (or minor/enhanced). We can create this world/illusion of ourselves through this hellish forum of online social media, but what's really brewing underneath that online persona?  And hey, I would never take a photo right when I wake up, but apparently, there is an online social networking forum where that's the big thing now. Maybe I'll start posting some bed head pics.  But for now, I'll just keep my "fan page" (hate that it's called that) for my writing, and my personal page to post an overload of pics of my dog and alcoholic beverages. But please, don't hesitate to keep me entertained. I love every dramatic post that gets plopped on there.

Kudos~

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7 comments:

the walking man said...

Hey no problem Deb...I will continue to entertain you on facebook as much as i can but with my 34,592 friends and me limiting myself to two hours a day you're not back in the rotation until sometime next month.

Deb said...

Mark, you always entertain, but in a good way! 34,592? O_o

Nicholas Temple said...

Maybe it's your friends on FB, Deb. I find little drama among mine. I find much more on Twitter, especially among "celebrities."

Susan said...

It isn't so much FB--it is us. We attract drama. I decided to delete my FB account for that reason, plus my job was pulling a big brother act on a coworker. I can't speak for Twitter as I don't use it. You take on topics that most people avoid. The majority are relieved because they have a forum to discuss something real. The rest want to punish you. Screw them or better--don't--that is an awful thought to wish upon a friend!

Anonymous said...

I'm not convinced that Twitter is any different than Facebook in terms of its purveyance of drama. In fact, as Nicholas says, it might even be worse.
And unless Twitter has hired a staff of journalists, I'd be hard-pressed to call it a news source. It's merely a conduit, just like Facebook (where you often see stories posted from Huffington Post, Washington Post, NY Times, etc.)

The interesting thing about the social media is that it can be used for just about anything, but as you say, many people use it as an outlet for drama. I don't think Facebook or Twitter is responsible for that (creating drama, I mean). People already have the drama going on inside them. Social media outlets simply allow them to turn up the volume. And too often, it's VERY LOUD.

Deb said...

I agree with all of the above. Of course it's the people who create the drama, it's just that now they have this vicious forum to display their angst or ~nuttiness~ --- which is fine. We can either choose to tune it out or whine about it. With Twitter, no, I don't think they would hire journalists, but I do like the fact you can "hashtag" a certain topic and find tweets with only links - not just a blurb from Jack or Jane telling you 'this' or 'that'. I just feel it's a quick fix to get some info and of course, communicate with those of certain interests. Most definitely drama is or 'was' already brewing within the person who creates it on Facebook. Thank God we can delete certain feeds, or....certain "friends".

Thanks for all your input! :)

goatman said...

I gave a rat's ass once and it was returned!
Never again . . .