Have you ever wondered what other people think of you? Have you ever had the chance for someone bold enough to tell you? It's quite interesting what we 'think' people think of us, as opposed to what they really think. We put ourselves on a lesser scale most of the time, but that's kind of normal. I couldn't believe what happened to me yesterday though. I used to date this guy when I was only 19 years old. We parted because he was very umm ---"passionate" --- to the point of going into fits of rage about whatever. He was very intelligent and extremely into Christianity. But there was that fine line between intelligence and insanity. I actually mean that as a compliment. He has philosophical, religious, conspiracy theory-like views on the world and it makes for a really great conversation at times, but somehow, he can take it to a whole new level, one that may possibly offend. On Facebook he was going on about rich people and how they were all evil. He said that God will never take rich people into heaven and that he was very happy that he didn't have an Italian last name because it held a stigma. As I kept reading, you know I had to chime in. In jest, I said, "Oh now you gotta start bustin' on the Italians, eh?" Once you comment on one of his threads, he will answer you back 50 more times - even if you don't comment back. He has no social cues or limits - it's weird. I then saw a comment that said, "Well it's easy for you to say since you're rich and successful." ...What? Are you kidding? He went on... "Your parents were very well to do which is clouding your judgement on the wealthy." ...What? He then went into our past relationship (19 yrs ago) about petty little things that used to upset him. Three words: get. over. it.
I commented about his complaint over rich people and how evil they were. I told him that God wants us to be happy and live abundant lives - to enjoy the fruits of our labor. There is a huge difference between being wealthy and being greedy. But he classified both as the same. He kept telling me how God frowned upon the wealthy. In the Bible, it says this: "Even so, I have noticed one thing, at least, that is good. It is good for people to eat well, drink a good glass of wine, and enjoy their work—whatever they do under the sun—for however long God lets them live. And it is a good thing to receive wealth from God and the good health to enjoy it. To enjoy your work and accept your lot in life—that is indeed a gift from God. People who do this rarely look with sorrow on the past, for God has given them reasons for joy." ~Ecclesiastes 5:18-20 When people start judging other people's financial situations -- they can't possibly know their situation or "count their money" for them. They can only assume that they have it made, but being wealthy does not guarantee happiness. It also doesn't mean that God isn't going to accept him. So by my stance upon this one topic, his memories of coming over as a kid and that I'm a published author, he automatically assumed that I must be rich. And let me tell ya, being an "author" or writing in general does not mean they're wealthy. I'm not sure why so many people think they're going to make millions off one book. It's hard work. There's a lot of shameless self promotion you have to do and after all that, you still have to keep plugging in order to keep afloat.
Why are people so focused on other people's situation? Don't we all have our crosses to bear? Aren't we in this together - or is it all about competing in life? Because if it is - I was never in the game. I never wanted to be "a big star" or climb the ladder of success just so I can say I've been there. I wanted to be happy with my lot in life - my work - my passion - not by merely having a 'status'. If people think lesser of me because I didn't "make it" - then so be it. People who are so consumed with other people's businesses never deal with their own 'business' and then complain about it. I truly believe we all have cycles in life - from trying to work hard to get from point A. to point B. and the world's view of "success". We all go through one way or another and when we're down on our luck, some of us grumble about what this one or that one has - and even obtaining the mindset of, "Well they just got lucky." In my opinion, those people who bitch and moan and complain about someone else's situation reeks of pure jealousy or resentment. There's this negative energy that's just so overwhelming - you can't help but wonder what their motives are behind their mutterings of hatred. You'll find them sidetracking to other things that'll 'really get you' and attack you for everything you stand for.
Life's way too short to deal with jealous and insecure people. So guess what I did to my old boyfriend yesterday? "Delete! Delete! Delete!"
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