Thursday, April 26, 2012

What Kind of Person Would Fake Cancer?

When I first heard the story about Jessica Vega who faked having cancer in order to receive money from donors to have a lavish wedding, I immediately thought what the rest of the crowd was chanting, “Evil! Evil! Evil!” I also heard, “Karma will get her back!” Many things were said in anger, and rightfully so. What kind of person would fake cancer - a disease that takes away our friends, that takes away our loves ones, as well as ourselves? Who can actually live with themselves with a clear conscience of telling such an outrageous lie? What kind of person can rip through the wallets of sympathetic hearts in order to gain a lavish wedding and materialistic things? But if you really think about this woman, she displays every symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It’s just as serious as bipolar disorder and schizophrenia.

NPD has a few well know traits:
  • Shows arrogant or haughty behaviors and attitude. 
  • Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of them. 
  • Lacks empathy; is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. (Hence why she doesn’t feel bad about taking the money from sympathetic friends/family and strangers.) 
  • Is interpersonally exploitive; ie: takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends. 
  • Has a sense of entitlement, ie: unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations. 
Jessica’s lawyer said, “Sorry for what happened and hopes the people who showed her kindness aren’t disillusioned or less likely to help others in the future. She got caught up in something and it just got out of hand.” I truly believe that. I think she just did something not knowing how responsive and quickly this would manifest and she just couldn’t get out of it at that point. Still, she should learn from the verdict/sentence so she’ll know better, but most of all, she should really get diagnosed and treated for whatever mental illness she has. I’m only guessing what she has - I’m not a doctor. Anyone can do a little research and find more about the behaviors of others if they want. There is not one person who is “so called normal” that would fake having cancer. It’s almost borderline sociopath because if you fake cancer, you have no regards for people suffering from it or those who have a loved one going through it. You disregard any emotion that anyone has. That’s mental illness in my book. So while we’re all quick to make a harsh judgment on this woman’s crime, or should I say, her “evil manipulation”, we can also pray for her or hope that she gets better.

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2 comments:

the walking man said...

Personally Deb I think that over the past ten or so years we as a society have devolved to Idiocracy (I really thin that movie is prophetic). The woman who faked the cancer to fund her wedding really may have a mental illness, not to be taken lightly, but look at what we're as a society pushing as reality in all forms of media. Not just TV but all of it.

Maybe, though a sociopath, she was also just conforming to a media expectation and had to have a Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and couldn't afford it without pulling a Madoff?

Octo-mom same thing, she can say how much she loves kids and all but reports are that she lives in squalor now that her anticipated reality show never happened. It just seems that we always want what we won't work for and look for ANY easy way to get it.

Deb said...

I never thought about it like that but it's so true. I wonder if she did it to get attention like that. Interesting...