Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Are Homosexuals Just "Playing House"?

That’s what it is to them. We’re basically “playing house”, in hopes for Mr. Right to come along and sweep us off our feet. We’re not fit to be parents. We’re not fit to be married. We’re not fit to be treated as humans. We’re not real; we’re “fake”. This is how the gay and lesbian community feels when they hear Mitt Romney speak. He says that he’s opposed to gay marriages, because it’s not in the best interest of children. Marriage isn’t all about baby making. It’s about love, commitment, loyalty, friendship and companionship with whomever you love, whether male or female. It’s about taking care of one another and uniting as a “family”, whether you’re childless or with children.

I remember once being in a circle of girls talking about relationships. This is going back a few years ago. One person said something about how she wasn’t able to go out like she used to with her girlfriends, and that her boyfriend would get jealous if she ever stepped foot out of their apartment. I chimed in and told her about my relationship, and how we have an understanding that the both of us have separate lives as “persons”, yet we come together back at home as a couple. We have a great deal of trust. We go out together a lot, however, if one or both of us decide to have a night out with our friends, then that's okay. The girl looked at me and said, “Oh, well that’s different- that doesn’t count.” I just stared at her in shock. You could tell she was thinking about what she said. “I mean, you’re with another woman and all, so it doesn’t really count.” So, she was basically saying that my relationship with my partner was invalid; “fake”. I’ll never forget that conversation.

Have you ever seen the movie, “If These Walls Could Talk 2”? It focuses on the lives of lesbians in three different eras. One of the couples that star in this movie were longtime lovers. They were senior citizens living a quiet life, enjoying their time together. All the things they’ve acquired throughout the years have been beautifully meshed together as one- as theirs. They made a home for themselves. When tragedy takes the lives of one of the partners, it shows you how much legal rights gays and lesbians have (or don’t have) when they basically take away almost everything they’ve ever owned together. Because we cannot claim our partners legally, we cannot gain the benefits of which we should have the right to, because we’re not heterosexual.

What scares me the most, is that people still have that same mindset that gay couples are only “playing house”. It’s disturbing, because I’ve seen it for myself and I have experienced for myself that they’re still living in a time where being homosexual was hidden beneath piles of clothes in the closet. We’re not valid in this world- especially through “Christian” views and those who claim to be Christian. (I speak for a select few.) Just because your partner says that you’re the beneficiary or that you have the right to make the decision, in case of a tragedy---YOU DON’T. Another member of his or her family can take that right away from you without you saying one word. Why? Because we have absolutely no rights. We’re not respected and we’re not considered “valid”.

We can’t be “Christians”, we can’t be married legally and we can’t live up to the standards that we’re real people, with real lives, who love with all our hearts. We don’t “lust” for one another- we love our partners. It’s not a “impulse of our flesh”----it’s a relationship like any other. It’s really scary when you think about the long-term, when and if something happens to your partner and the family gets involved. To me, I would never feel safe “sharing” my material belongings with my partner- not because I don't trust her. I don't trust her family---even if they say they like you. It has nothing to do with that at all. I don’t feel safe having her name on anything. I don’t feel safe knowing that at any given time, my rights to decisions that my partner has granted to me can just be swiped from my hands.

And people think being gay is a choice. What a joke.

Let me put it in another way. The law was our guardian and teacher to lead us until Christ came. So now, through faith in Christ, we are made right with God. But now that faith in Christ has come, we no longer need the law as our guardian. So you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have been made like him. There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male or female. For you are ALL Christians—you are one in Christ Jesus. And now that you belong to Christ, you are the true children of Abraham. You are his heirs, and now all the promises God gave to him belong to you. ~Galatians 3:24-29