Friday, August 03, 2007

Simple Connections

What is it that draws people together? What makes two people connect as friends or lovers? Is it attraction? Is it same ethnicity? Is it the same religion or political views? What seems to tie the knot between two people who connect so well?

I’ve always noticed for myself, when I come across a friend who I simply connect with, I find that it has a lot to do with similar trials we both endured. We relate, we talk…we connect. It’s like being in a strange foreign country where no one knows your language. You walk around for miles trying to find somebody who speaks your own language- but there’s no one. Then days later, months later, or even years later, you find a person who speaks your language—fluently. The relief that follows brings pure joy.

I found that with a few people in my life. Some of those people are still in my life today. I received one of those forward emails a while ago that said, “A friend comes into your life for a reason, a season and/or for a lifetime.” I truly believe that. There are some people who I have connected with that are no longer in my life today, but I am so grateful that they’ve came into my life- even if it was only for a short time. I’ve learned something valuable from each and every one of them. There’s not one person I regret meeting. (Well, maybe just one!)

Isn’t it funny when somebody can finish your sentences, your thoughts and can totally relate to you on every level? It’s like a breath of fresh air. You hope that the friendship/relationship can continue forever, but you also have to keep in mind the ‘reason, season and/or for a lifetime’ quote. That person may be there for a short while to help you through a certain situation in your life, or they may be there for a particular reason and possibly for a lifetime. If we can just enjoy the journey and not focus so much on the future, it makes such a difference. You’ll never look back with regret.

This weekend, tell the person who relates to you, whether it’s a friend, lover or relative that you’re happy that they’re in your life ‘right now’. Tell them how much you care for them. Let them know how grateful you are…

Thank you, Michelle! I'm totally grateful.

24 comments:

Michelle said...

Wow hunn. That was so touching. What a diffrence you've made in my life as well. I'd like to think that we will be friends for a lifetime, but however long the relationship does not matter. You are ABSOLUTLY right, some people are just meant to be there for a short time and others.....well, they assist in life lessons sometimes the hard way. You are a beautiful human being.

~Deb said...

You're an incredible person and I'm so lucky to have crossed paths with you!

The Rev. Dr. Kate said...

What a beautiful post! You are one of the folks who has come into my life whose wisdom, sharing and connection I appreciate. Thank you!

~Deb said...

I appreciate all the time and energy you put into helping me, and most of all, being my friend, Kate. Thank you!

just me said...

Good post. I think in this whole process of coming out I've realized this even more clearly than before.

Enemy of the Republic said...

I've had this experience often enough to make me wonder about reincarnation and the sharing of souls. Why is it that some people just FIT and others do not into your life? Sure, it applies to romance, but it happens with friends, even with bloggers who just get it. It's a wonderful thing. Good post.

~Deb said...

Just me: I realized who my true friends were in that aspect as well. Thanks!!!

Enemy: Like the "kindred soul" concept. I truly believe that people connect on many levels---even spiritual. :)

thewishfulwriter said...

This particular post really resonates with me right now...just yesterday I was thinking about how grateful I am to have the friends I do...the FEW people who really get me, know me and still love me :)

I've also done some thinking about the few friendships that have ended because of squabbles, or unresolved tension. I'm wondering if approaching those friends, no matter how awkward, and clearing the air, might be really healing for me. Not necessarily so that we can pick up where we left off, but so we can have closure and wish each other well.

...still thinking...

Matt-Man said...

My friend and I finish sentences of the other all the time. We are so much alike and yet it never gets boring. Have a good weekend Deb and Cheers!!

~Deb said...

The Wishful Thinker: And that's just it---those people who "get you". It makes all the difference. Thanks! :)

Matt-man: It's like having a twin, huh? ha... You guys are going to sound like you're 'in stereo' pretty soon! Enjoy your weekend too!!!

SJ said...

Great post. I too wonder what makes people "click". Among my friends there are different types and not all of them are friend themselves. I feel like an axle with friends emanating from me like spokes at times :)

GW Mush said...

Deb,

I feel I have a strong connection with you cuz we both like to wiggle our butts and giggle, hehe

~Deb said...

Sj: You're like the glue that holds them together. That must feel good in a way, right? Shows that you can bring people together, regardless if they're friends or not. That's great!

GW Mush: I'm concerned. *wiggles eyebrows at you*

Art said...

I think that connection you speak of transcends attraction, ethnicity, religion, politics and many other things. It's just there... or it isn't. I certainly can't explain it.

~Deb said...

Some say it's chemistry---even with friendships. Thanks, Art!

People in the Sun said...

How frickin' cute was that?

Anyway, Honey just called me to say she came out with a great idea: Why don't I take her car to get an oil change tomorrow? I told her I'll do it. My exact words were, "Better me than you." Sometimes that's as close as you can get to telling someone you'll love them forever.

~Dawn said...

Those friends that work well for me are those who challenge me or fill a need, and I them.
Sometimes we walk that road for a short time together and other times it lasts a very long time....

Deb, I enjoy walking life's road with you!

kathi said...

I appreciate you, I appreciate you, I always have and always will appreciate YOU.

Oh, and I love you lot's, too. :)

Aayush said...

yep it happens to all of us ! Maybe its something to do with reincarnation ! i suggest u read this book: many lives many masters by Dr Brian Weiss ! Its fantastic..and he also discusses this point of having invisible connections with certain people!

Ricardo said...

For friendships, it's always been a matter of our past experiences. Even if we don't know specifics there is always a a connection. It's strange.

As far as lovers go, it's never been a matter of ethnicity but it is a matter of good old physical attraction first, the other stuff later.

├ůsa said...

Deb! Spot on as always! I’ve started to open up these last few years and I do tell – especially my friends how much they mean to me. Not as often as I think of it, but more than never. They do the same to me. And I tell my new man often how happy I am that he is in my life. People need to know that we don’t take them for granted!

Deb: your sweetness and energy means a lot to me! I hope to be able to give you a hug in person one day :- )

ann said...

great post Deb...

you know I'm not Christian,
I'm not gay and I don't rant...

so...

since it seems we have few
obvious similarities
it must be our
differences that make me like
you so much...

hope you and yours are well;
sorry I've not been around,
but like a bad penny, I'm back
and, shock horror, may
even post soon

take care

lotsa luv ann xxxxx

City Mouse said...

Hi Debbie!

What a great post! How ironic that I was thinking about you today & decided to check your most recent blogs. You're a very special person who came into my life. But I haven't been very good about staying in touch :(. I'll write more tomorrow!

**MUAH**!! & {{HUGS}}

Tara

~Deb said...

Thanks for the comments everybody!

And Tara----my ol' friend!!! Life gets in the way, but you always know that we always pick up where we left off. Call me anytime!

Miss & love ya very much!!!!!!