Monday, December 12, 2005

Not For Nothing...

Not for nothing, but when I admire a woman from afar, I look for certain qualities—or the unique traits that one already has. For instance, I love a woman who has curves, more on the voluptuous side—not necessarily someone of much avoirdupois. I look for woman who carries herself with confidence; someone who is not afraid of letting their hair down—but of course, done with class. I love the femininity of a woman; a woman who relishes in ‘being a lady’. This quality, I found in Madelene.

When Madelene and I venture out on the town, we both love to admire the beauty of a woman. We even say to one another, “Oh look—she is so beautiful!” We are aware that we’re both sexual beings, with eyes—so why fight it? It’s actually really interesting to sit at a bar and see who piques our interests.

Now, as you all know, last Saturday night, we went out for our anniversary. After dinner, we headed over to this new bar that opened up. It was this old looking, country western looking type of bar. We were there to meet a bunch of old friends that we haven’t seen in a very long time. As the night went on, and the band starting playing really good music, the bar started getting crowded. As I watched people rush in, I noticed that most of these people were under the age of twenty-five.

Here’s my concern. I caught myself numerous times eyeing up girls that were about ten years younger than me. I felt like a complete pedophile—because they looked like they just got out of high-school. Let me tell you, some of these girls looked like models. I slowly turned my head towards Madelene and asked, “Is it me? Or do these girls look a bit young?” Madelene laughed. Then I noticed something else alarming. These girls had absolutely no rear end. Their asses were as small as an eight year old boy’s. (I think some women actually try to achieve that look.) I’ve heard of that expression before, and was shocked. Why would a woman want an eight year old boy’s ass? You could have put your hand around their waistline, and closed it into a fist. That’s how thin some of these girls were. They almost appeared anorexic.

The dam finally broke after a few beers, and I headed off to the bathroom. Two stalls, a small sink and ten girls surrounding the vanity was like a 50% off sale at Macy’s. I waited amongst these very frail ladies to get into a free stall. My turn approaches. I go in expecting cleanliness—since it is a new place that just opened up. No. I was wrong. The floors were so wet, that I had to watch myself carefully, or I would have pulled a “Kathi”. Seriously. I would have fell on my ass and sat in someone else’s urine. To make this experience even more pleasant, there was a sign on the wall.

“Please use the lever to flush the toilet. We are out of parts right now. We’re waiting for them to be shipped in from China. -Management”

I swear—no lie, the sign said this. Anyone who has read that sign, will know which bar I am speaking of. So to flush the toilet, I literally had to reach my hand inside the back of the toilet to push down a lever. Beautiful! Now that’s class.

I walk out of the stall, and there are women literally on top of each other, trying to get the next available toilet. I walk over to the sink, wait my turn, and then wash my hands. To my horror, they ran out of paper towels.

Shit!

I stand there air drying my hands off, and wiping the rest on my jeans. Now I’m thinking, “Oh God…it’s flu season, and I didn’t get my flu shot yet.”

“Oh, come here! Let me give you some lotion since there are no paper towels and the soap smells like shit.” A young frail (very pretty) girl says to me.

She walks up to me, pulls out my hand, and squirts out this fragrant lotion. She starts massaging the lotion into my hands, almost erotically. If I was a man, I definitely would have been pitchin’ the ol’ tent here. I felt like a pervert because I was enjoying it way too much.

“Oh my God, I’m a pedophile. Oh my God, this girl is not even twenty-one years old. This is so bad. Wow this is such a turn on!”

The pretty girl smiles at me, and sends me on my way. I walked back into the bar and sat down with the rest of my friends. I explain my awkward situation to Madelene, to only get laughed at. She knows how particular I am about people touching my hands—especially during flu season. I almost wanted to go back to the sink to wash up again, but that would have looked rude. My anti-bacterial gel was in the car. I needed another drink to make me forget.

As we all watched the ‘young adults’ dancing around to the live music, we noticed this eccentric lady. She was dancing around almost ritual-like, forming a circle around the crowd. She was heavyset, wearing a dress bedizened with a million tassels, and colors that would nearly blind you. It was almost as if she was in her own trance, dancing around erratically, carefree and more confident than any of these little beauties prancing around in size zero pants. Although it made us all chuckle a bit, I was more impressed with her confidence. She had more self-esteem than any one of these girls—who were absolutely stunning.

Are young women so caught up with trying to look like models that they forget about the sexiest quality—confidence? If these women go out looking ‘less than perfect’, do they sink into a hole of depression? I was really concerned about the health of these girls. I am not exaggerating when I state that some of these women were no more than a hundred pounds each---or less!

Not for nothing, but give me a woman who knows how to eat a steak and drink a good ale any day!

93 comments:

Mike said...

There seems to be two rules that are followed faithfully on weight....it's either anorexia or obesity...too few people in the middle.

Cherry said...

That was a good post. It is sad how the media influences so many people. ALL you ever see on TV are THIN women. All you ever see in magazines are THIN women. Every commercial, every newstand, every billboard, every movie, every tv show.....its sad, but it is EVERYWHERE.

A lot of girls and women feel they have to look like a toothpick to be beautiful.

~Deb said...

Mike--I found the girl who's 'in between'... ;) I think it all has to do with the level of confidence one carries. Love that!

Cherry-- Don't get me wrong, I find a lot of thin girls beautiful, but it's almost like 'this is the rule' to be beautiful-- you're right. They had this agency where they were hiring plus size models. Do you know what they condidered plus size??? SIZE 8!!!! Holy fricken crap! Can you believe that? And---these women had curves, but I would not consider them 'plus size'.

Bert Ford said...

Some of my friends & I have noticed this new Skinny theme in younger women. We've started calling them "bobble heads" because their improbably thin bodies don't seem capable of holding up their normal size heads.
A less than couth friend of mine who dated an 87 lb. chick said she was like boning a sack of castanets.
He never answered when I asked him when he'd boned a sack of castanets.
87 lbs. for the love of christmas.
How could an adult human weigh 87lbs.?

~Deb said...

Bobble heads!!! hahaa!!!! You're a sick man--I love it! Hmmm, 87 lbs is definitely not right. Whew...that's a light weight for sure!

Tanisha said...

Amein!! Can you believe women allow men who are trying to be women to tell them and influence how women should look It is disgusting how small they get. I was watching the Amzing Race last night I think that is what it was and one of the women on there was so tiny I afraid she would break.

When did it become ok for women to look like boys? we are supposed to have curves. We are WOMEN!!

Great post

Wenchy said...

Great. I'll be right over. Steak medium rare. :o) Thanks!

Oswald Croll said...

Being in my early 30's, I can relate to your feelings. unfortunately, for me at least, youth equals much of what I have been brainwashed into thinking is beauty. Smooth skin, bouncy hair, tone bodies, an abundance of energy. These are all things Americans have marketed to them under the umbrella of 'beauty'. So, when we see a young, firm, smooth skin 21 year old, we instatntly think 'beauty'. Where as when we see a great looking person with a few wrinkles and a bit more weight, we think, "they must have been hot.......5 years ago". It's wrong, and most of us outgrow it / learn to ignore it, but they underlying thoughts are still there....way in the back of our heads. I know to a lot of my friends, when they say beautiful, they really mean young. I just hope my moments in this state of mind are few(er). But as long as there are woman like Sheila E in the world, I still hold out hope for myself. That is one fine-ass older woman.
Personally I blame Vogue and MTV..... hey, it's my perogative.

~Deb said...

Tanisha: Love a woman with curves! A lil' something something to hold on to! ;)

Wenchy: That's my girl!!!

Os: Well everyone has 'their own taste'. I once dated a very beautiful woman who was probably 105lbs soak & wet---and I thought she was gorgeous. I'm basically stating the fact of ---when does it become "too much"?

Thin, fat, short, tall, it's all how we carry ourselves really. Self-esteem goes a long way.

Chloe' Gardner said...

Deb, you're not a peodphile!!! If you're a pedophile, then my man should be in jail! I'm 18 years YOUNGER than him ;0). I get what you're saying about younger women these days. They have such low self-esteem. I can't imagine thinking beauty was being a size 2 or below. That's so sad, and happening more and more every day,

dsmars said...

I agree 100%. I have admired women of all sizes except skin&bone. I prefer a real woman with a womanly figure. The image you used for this post is a perfect example of that. The Lane Bryant models are just about the only real women working in the modeling industry that I have seen.

Confidence is the most important thing. Someone who is comfortable in her own skin regardless of what the world thinks is the most sexy thing in the world. There was this woman who used to frequent the same musical performances as I did. She was probably about 250 pounds and gorgeous. Everytime I saw her at a show, I couldn't take my eyes off her. She had the confidence to match her Betti Page hairstyle. If she hadn't been married, I would have introduced myself. Story of my life is a day late and a dollar short.

It's a viscious circle, really. The media presents these largely unattainable ideals, then children grow into adults who think that is natural. Then the media works even harder to exploit those ideals, thereby reinforcing them. Every now and then there is a backlash against the Twiggy syndrome, but it never takes hold long enough to make much of a difference.

dsmars said...

As for the feeling like a peophile, one of the reasons I left the college town I had lived in for ten years was that I felt the same way. I couldn't go to my favorite bars without finding myself attracted to someone who was young enough to be my kid. That just made me feel creepy.

Oswald Croll said...

105 lbs? Is that even possible. That may be a bit too skinny. I don't want to have to pay for them if I break them.

~Deb said...

Thanks for not making me feel like the biggest perv! ha!

Yeah, it's scary to think that if God forbid, one day their bodies start forming to something they feared all their lives- that these girls would become literally suicidal.

If they could only see what "other" people see, reality will tell them how beautiful they really are.

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. I wish these girls knew that.

Leesa said...

Was it fun getting your GF soaking wet, Deb? Just occured to me. Really good post - but as I get older, my ass is getting a bit larger. Not wanting a skinny, boney ass, but I don't want gravity to do anything to what I have!

Georgiapeach said...

Wow, Deb I am so so glad I read this ENTIRE post...lol. I really enjoyed it. So many things to say. Let me see...
Love the pic
OMG did you you mention Kathi's experience? Hillarious!
I see how you feel about the pedophile thing. I went to a lesbian club with my boyfriend and he was trying to push me on the women. But I was like " I don't think so, these girls are way too young". Apparently you only had to be eighteen to get in the club. Even though I am only 22, I just wasn't feeling anyone remotely close to my little sister age (17). So this was so funny. But I don't even date guys younger than me....lol. Well, I'll take that back....The only thing I will let them do is oral. But even so.......I don't really know. Anyway, I was cracking up when I read this post.
***Oh, I do believe that gay & lesbians should be able to be legally married. I think they should call it something else, however. Good poll.******

Prata said...

Oh well now we all know I was going to show up here sooner or later. Right? ^_^

Well, let's take a stab at it. Hrmm. Being thin. America is the most obese country in the world. Apparently we are all dying of an epidemc known as obesity. Yes, that's right...obesity. We are dying from fast food and an abundance of it, it's no wonder half the frickin' populace of girls/women are striving to be what they see on TV because everyone else is dying of clogged arteries and an inabilit to exercise because they are too large to escape their chairs.

The media does play a role in the thoughts of women being thin, but a large percentage of today's children are being told in school that if they are not particularly careful with what they eat and how they eat and when they exercise they will grow up to be like mom and pop who are slowly dying of degenerative heart disease. In other countries the full figured women is quite admired. As a side note, a girl in Viet Nam @ 5'2" 105-110 pounds is considered not only heavy by the general populace? They are not however, generally big people. I'm just mentioning that because it came to mind.

To give some of you perspective, you only see this sort of idiocy in highly developed very westernized countries though, the obesity 'epidemic' I mean. In China (which is highly developed as it is) does not suffer from this mass destruction of the populace via the slow silent killer that obesity apparently is. Communist countries in general tend to not have a very overweight population, nor do countries which are at least in part democractic but not as westernized as the UK or America.

Prata said...

@GeorgiaPeach
Question!

Why should they call it somethin' else besides marriage? *picks a fight???* I'm just curious.

Prata said...

Sorry my fingers got away with me earlier...I can't type worth a damn.

That entry mentionin' Vietnamese girls should read "are considered not only heavy but in some cases overweight"

Continue with regularly scheduled programming!

Anonymous said...

If I'm hearing you correctly, your saying exactly what I think. Women come in all shapes and sizes. That includes extremely thin as well as plump. It's not their size that makes them sexy. It's the essense of who they ARE. It's about being happy in the skin your in rather than trying to be someone else. Young women don't seem to get the fact that being too thin is just as unhealthy as being overweight. Not to mention what it must do to your self esteem to set unreasonable, and in some cases, unreachable goals for yourself. UGH. I'm about 30 pounds too heavy. That would be 30 lbs too heavy for ME. I'm working on it..but not because society tells me I need to, but because I'm not at a healthy weight for ME. I couldn't weigh 105 pds short of being on my death bed.
What's even sadder is the # of girls that think they are doing it to be attractive and the # of guys/girls that don't find it so. Talk about undermining yourself. *sigh* so sad.

BTW Deb...I'm the same anonymous that suggested gift wrapping yourself...thanks for the wonderful response! :-))

DZER said...

deb ... it's OK to like the hot little young chickadees ... trust me ;)

Curvy Sicilian said...

You're a perv.
That's hot.

kathi said...

I'm an "ism" now?? Actually, I've had people say "I pulled a kathi" all my life. :)
I do that, too. I'm always pointing out beautiful women to my boys, my hubby or my friends. It embarasses my boys, but hubby and friends are used to it. Beauty is beauty, no need to feel threatened by it.

Grace said...

I couldn't agree with you more Deb. Some girls just take it way too far! I can understand wanting to feel comfortable in your skin (which is my one and only reason for ever dieting), but these tiny little size zero chicks scare me. I'm not sure if this is going on in the States too, but here in Canada, I've been seeing all these new Dove commercials/ads that feature REAL women in them. They all have little imperfections, and yet they're all gorgeous! I'll even admit that (as odd as it sounds...) I love a guy with an ass. It's so sexy!

Genna said...

Great Post, Deb. I think that people these days are way too scared to look within.... That if they can change their outer beauty, well then it should fix the inner beauty. It just doesn't work that way.

Looking at women/girls trying that hard...makes you wonder what is really wrong with them... What are they REALLY hiding??

What do we do to change this society we live in? There must be something we can do... Otherwise our children are screwed.

green said...

Beauty definitely is in the eye of the beholder. Confidence is sexy, that I'll agree. I'll stop now before I have to eat my foot...

Chrissie said...

I know exactly what you mean about the younger set… and the even younger set! Know what bothers me about most of them? They all look the same! They have like 3 hair styles, 1 way to wear make up, 3 shades of lipstick and all buy their clothes at forever 21... a lot of those girls could be mix n match! It’s sad. I much prefer my trend setting daughter, with her shapely latina ass *L* and her small group of weird friends.

B is like me, she has no self confidence issues *L* S is only 14 and still has a few of those insecurities most girls that young feel,(except where grades/smarts are concerned, she is a genius) right down to the old, shielding her face from me with her hand while in the car saying,
“I TOTALLY don’t KNOW you Mother!”
Like she doesn’t want to be seen with me while I seat dance to Gwennie Gwen Gwen at the stop light. (B on the other hand starts dancing before I do now and people are often staring at her like she’s nuts as they drive past LOL) Eventually S will get over it and dance too ;)

Grace said...

Here's the site for the new Dove campaign... I personally love it:

http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/

Walking Contradiction said...

HELL YEAH!

Confidence is SOOOOOOO SEXY!!!

Especially with curves!!!

Wenchy said...

mmmmmmmm apparently we don't use Dove in South Africa.... I am hallucinating again....

~Deb said...

Leesa: Yes. I had quite a good time, thank you… (I just hope she did!) As far as your ass getting larger---nothing wrong with a little junk in da’trunk…but I hear ya with the gravity fear. Don’t they have butt bras? I’m gonna have to look into that one. I’m sure you’re just fine. ;)

Georgia: I’m glad you got through this long winded post. Most of them are very long and drawn out. Just want to warn you… Yeah---wasn’t Kathi’s experience hysterical? I just can’t get that image out of my head. Now it has become a constant fear of that fatal ‘slip and fall’ into your own or worse yet---someone else’s urine. Oh the humanity!!! So…..as far as your comment that gay & lesbians should get married-but it should be called something else…What would you call it then? I think you may be referring to civil unions? Thanks for stopping by!

Prata: Glad you came to visit! It fascinates me that people are suing big chain fast food companies because they gained weight. HELLO??? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out—hey—this may be fattening. I don’t get it. It is very sad to see obese people who cannot get out of their chairs---as you mentioned. I knew a really great woman who had that problem, and just felt so bad for her. She was literally a prison in her own home. She passed away two years ago—and she will be missed. My heart goes out to them…it’s an addiction just like alcohol, drugs or sex.

Anonymous: SHOW YOURSELF! I heard on the news once, that in order to be ‘obese’ means that you are 20 lbs overweight. 20 pounds overweight???????????? I can see 50lbs overweight---to be “considered” obese, but 20???????????? That’s just like the model agency for the plus size women, considering them “plus size” at size 8 pants! I think a lot has to do with body frames and how one carries and distribute their weight. You know---I have a friend (GAWD she’ll kill me if she reads this) but she is tall, thin, always at the gym…. Her weight….is…..200 lbs. No lie. You would think she was maybe 150 lbs or something--- nope….200 lbs. I didn’t believe her until she showed me on the scale at the gym. Amazing.

Dzer: I’m not a perv! I swear! Really! *chuckles*

Curvy Sicilian: Again! I’m not a perv! *hehe*

Kathi: Yes, I have turned to Kathism. It is now my religion of choice. We worship the blonde Goddess who had a little slip and fall in her own urine. Now that’s hot!
Kathi- if you’re pointing out beautiful women to your husband and boys---do you think you may be a secret dyke in disguise??? Hmm…One’s gotta wonder about you sweetie! {{{{hugs}}}}

Amazinggrace: It’s a woman’s imperfections that I find most attractive. I used to be gaga over this woman who had a HUGE nose. I swear! I think I was more in love with her nose than anything else. Oh shut up --- I’m trying to make a point people! Just as any imperfection, people should not dwell on it---yet they should embrace it.
I read about a model who was African-American. She has beautiful features and you can tell she works out daily. She’s tall, thin, with the most amazing skin. She never thought about modeling because she thought she was ugly because she had freckles on her cheeks. She thought that just because she was black, that she shouldn’t have freckles. What she thought was a flaw actually brought her fame and wealth because she was unique. She was one of a kind. What she thought was an imperfection actually brought her career to succeed. Amazing right?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Each of us is like a unique flower in a garden, possessing qualities that no other has. Our petals are of different textures, our leaves are different shapes, and our color varies from each blossom. None of us are alike; yet beautiful in our own ways. Some people are beautiful only on the outside, but their attitudes and the way they treat other people makes them appear as ‘ugly’. A lot has to do with your inner-self and the way you treat people.

Genna: I believe they’re hiding what they hate the most- or what they ‘fear’ the most. Anxiety about ‘what looks hot’ has heightened a great deal with young women. Great point---thanks for your comment!

Green: Nothing like a woman with confidence---the one that walks in a room and brightens it up automatically. Love that!

Chrissie: Gwennie Gwen Gwen? Haha! I’m sure that your daughter is proud that you’re her mother. You seem like one of those ‘cool moms’ that all the kids love. I did notice that trend---the three hair styles. Most girls I see that are young, all have straightened hair down to their backs, ultra ultra low rider jeans that almost show off—errr---everything….and the glossy lipstick that looks like a bunch of goo dripping off their lips. Hmm…

Walking Contradiction: Mmmmm….curves…..

Wenchy: The meds…I left them on the night stand. *hehe*

Okay, I just blogged in my own comment section. That's just not right. I need sleep.

Thanks guys!

kathi said...

Honey ~ tried it, several times. Just wasn't into it. So yeah...pretty sure. :) That doesn't mean a gorgeous face or body doesn't 'mmmmmove mmmmme to the core', lol.

~Deb said...

~^~Looks up at you~^~^

Hmm.

Georgiapeach said...

Deb, thanks for the Happy B-day wish! I could not think of the term yesterday. But that sounds like it. I think that using that term will be more accepting to people oppose to gay marriage. I really want gay and lesbians couples to have the same rights as heterosexual couples. So if they drop the term "marriage", maybe people would start viewing it differently. Bottomline: I think the word marriage is what's being frowned upon. If this comment doesn't make sense it is because I am sneaking to write this.

~Deb said...

Hope you're enjoying your birthday, GP---

I totally understand your point regarding gay 'marriages'. I never thought of it in that aspect.

And why are you sneaking around???? *hehe*

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Young wimmin' like that ain't been around long enuff to have any substance...when they hit 30, it might start kickin' in.. and don't give me that "age iz just a number" crap..

Sincerely,
Debra LaFave

~Deb said...

Hmm...well, yeah, I'm gonna go there stevo----age is but a number----however it all depends on the maturity level and experience... There are some women that are young, who are wiser beyond their years who don't have to wear ultra low riders that practically show off their entire 'hoo hoo'. ;)

SignGurl said...

How can you not feel like a perv when you are old enough to be these girls'.......
Babysitter?

I am a curvy woman. I have never been thin. Society tells me that I am not attractive so it's hard to have self confidence.

The worst part is that I have 2 daughters and I don't want them to be stigmatized by societies view of beauty. I want them to have the confidence I lack. But how can they with a mother like me?

~Deb said...

It doesn't necessarily have to reflect upon you. She'll do her own thing- and her peers are the most influenced part of it.

As far as being a perv....yeah....maybe I was being one just for a split second.......shhhh!

The Stevo in H-Town said...

I dunno...but If ya hadta make a choice 'tween "marriage" and "love", regardless of yer sexual preference...I'd take the latter..

J Christ, Single guy

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Damn, ~deb...the "age iz just a number" comment wuz s'posedta be an attempt at humor...Debra Lafave?...get it?...Good blogya got...

~Deb said...

Stevo- I'm slow. Forgive me! (hehe) A lot of things go over my head...believe me.

I'm actually addicted to your blog Stevo- good blog YOU got!

Chrissie said...

Gwennie Gwen Gwen is from Bubble Pop Electric *L* I have been listening to it in my car and i love that he calls her that *L* If i had another kid i'd prolly name her that!

SignGurl... *pinchin ya hard* Society schmociety! You ARE beutiful! Whos tellin you you arent? The ad agency schmucks who make a buck by selling as much sex as possible every where you look?? (Bob dont read this lol I dont really mean you) You are a real natural woman. I bet no one has ever asked you if your tits are real or if you have had any work done lol... but maybe part of that is a california thing... of course.. no one ever asked my Mom! I look just like her lol only shes prettier, blue eyes and a cuter nose :o/

ANYWAY... it comes from within babe... it comes from your words and how you make your girls FEEL... Empower them with whats inside you, empower whats inside THEM and they will have plenty of confidence.

Heather B. said...

When you say young, I'm wondering if you mean in their 20's..? I'm 22 and don't consider myself all that young, but I also am not showing my ass crack to the world when I go out. Anyway, I've never been stick thin and due to genetics, probably never will be. In my younger years, I was never all that confident because of the "curves", but as I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate them.
Good post.

The Stevo in H-Town said...

I consider that a validation and a compliment ~deb...getyer butt in there and comment more often..You got some good takes, so do yer reader's..(I gotta admit tho'I DO have some concern's ' bout that "dzel"-dude wearin' the Santa Claus lid)...all in fun..

~Deb said...

Signgurl: Did you mean "looks-wise"---or did you mean, how can you daughter have confidence when (or) if---you don't? I didn't know what you meant by that---so I apologize if I came across all weird there...

Chrissie: You're a sweetie!

Heather: Well, being that I'm 31 yrs old, 22 is very young (in my eyes) however, these girl that were walking in--some of them were probably 18 yrs old. Hey- I wish upon youth! :) But yeah- the showing off the ass crack is a little alarming. Thanks for stopping by!

Stevo: You crack me up! I'm gonna let Dzer answer you back on that one if he roams back in here.

Dzer? You there?

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Spare me...

Sincerely,
Bad Bowler's

~Deb said...

Dzer???????

Danielle said...

love that pic!!
morning gurl!! just checking in, I am partying in the office, stringing lights and listening to xmas music!!! have a great day!

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Prob'ly jus' me but..ya get the feelin' he's prob'ly deliverin' toys-n-shit to Neverland Ranch or, at least bz in da warehouse supervizin' those elf's-n-shit...like I said...prob'ly......jus'........me.

~Deb said...

Danielle: Save me some punch!!!!

Stevo: I think the Neverland Ranch is all out of kiddies at this point. In fact, I hear that Michael went broke recently. He's probably going to sell it. Interested in that piece of real estate???

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Yeah...I know...butya get my drift..When MJ wuz at the top of hiz game (Thriller-era) I made the statement that "that dude iz headed for a tragic ending..)I mean...it's gotta be lonely at the the top...That's too much fame..

Sincerely,
E Presley,
M Monroe,
James Dean
and on and on and on.......

LisaBinDaCity said...

Curvy women rock! Or so all my past boyfriends told me ;-)

~Deb said...

People wish for fame and then go into hiding---because of 'fans'. That's gotta suck.

Lisa--high fiving you!!!

Natalia said...

I wish more men were like that.

-N

~Deb said...

I believe that there are men out there who prefer more meat on their ladies' bones.

The Stevo in H-Town said...

...or, more bone in their ladies' meat...


I KNOWWWW...it's tacky...butya set me up...

Sincerely,
Soph O. Moric

Prata said...

@ GeorgiaPeach

Oooooh..I get you. I see says the blind man! Thanks for clearin' that up!

~Deb said...

Stevo: You're a sick man! I love it!

Prata: I see says the blind man, talking to his deaf wife---(it goes on but it gets politically incorrect and rude so I'll just shut up now)...

Nettie said...

Impressive, I need to look up a word!

~Deb said...

Huh?

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Deb, Didn't hnow ifya knew this or not but according to "Technorati" your blog iz worth $27,662.46...pull-up "http://www.business-opportunities.biz/projects/how-much-is-your-blog-worth/" and see fer yerself...not kiddin' either..Congrats..thatsa nice pieceachange...

~Deb said...

What the? Huh? Wha? Me?

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Hell, pullitup and Czech it out fer yerself...

Love-40,
M Navratilova

~Deb said...

How do I cash in Stevo? (haha) Come on, I'll take everyone out to dinner and drinks! Whaddya'say???

Lisa said...

Ok Deb, anonymous is showing herself.
Wow,what a turnout! Congrats!

Simply put,to me, people are beautiful. If more people recognized that instead of obsessing on an arbitrary vision of beauty, there might be more HEALTHY beautiful people. Instead of young girls starving themselves as well as eating away their way through life. Women come in all sizes NATURALLY. From the extremely thin, to the round and lush. Genetics, bone structure, LIFE dictates that we aren't all going to look the same.

The sad thing is that the women/girls that are worried so much about their looks are often very unhappy with their relationships. How awful to ONLY be noticed for how you look rather than who you ARE. I'm 42, not in any way classically beautiful, and yet have worked with/been around young men that have wanted to be with me because they got to know me and were totally enamoured by who I am. Now THAT'S self affirming, regardless of the fact that I'm never going to be a size 2 with a D-cup and blonde hair down to my ass. I didn't however act on their invitations.....it felt too pervie, not to mention that my hubby would have frowned on it. *sigh*

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Drinks?...We're IN!!!


Da Boyz at da "Jammy"

felix said...

I believe Nettie is referring to your wide range of vocabulary. I was quite impressed myself. It’s on a rare occasion I witness such good grammar. I’m not perfect, but I know when a blog is interesting. It’s no wonder your blog is worth that much money. I bet you anything, with the amount of people tapping in each day, you will definitely get someone asking you if they can advertise on your website and pay you as well.

Your worth is based upon your stories and ability to hold a reader’s attention. The more tests, the more questionnaires about oneself and the HNT posts eventually lessons in value.

Georgiapeach said...

Wow, Felix that was a beautiful compliment to give Deb. I am the queen of grammatical errors. My blog is probably worth one red cent..lol.

Crassius Maximus said...

Hey yo, I absolutely agree. Curvy women are the joint!

~Deb said...

Lisa: It’s definitely true. Women worry way too much about appearance. Now, it’s okay to have some self-respect and look good…but when does it come to the point of obsession? That’s what scares me. There’s anorexic to body builders who keep getting bigger, and bigger, and bigger---and don’t care about their ‘means’ to get there. It goes both ways regarding each aspect.
Thank you for showing yourself!!! I’m happy you did, and I enjoyed reading your blog! I’m going to visit often!

Stevo: Bring it! Da’girls ova here in New YaWk will be waiting for ya! No moonshine though- okay?

Felix: Wow. Thank you. If you only saw how many times my book was thrown back to me by my editor due to ‘grammar’, you’d laugh. I never had anyone ask to advertise, but I’m not sure I like that idea of all those pop-ups and annoying ads that are hard to load.
I actually enjoy reading people’s 100 questions about themselves and enjoy some of the HNT photos. I think it depends on each individual though. It’s how they ‘make it interesting’. Thank you again for the kind words!

Georgiapeach: I love your blog Georgia- you say it like it is—it’s raw and very entertaining! Look at all your fans girl!

Crassius: That’s what I’m saying! ;)

Crassius Maximus said...

Some might say that because you are so good looking that you don't have to worry about your appearance anyway, Deb. So,in a sense, it's easy for you not to care. I myself like a woman that really tries to stay in shape, but like you, I think some obsess over it too much. Besides, those curvy curves look good to a fairly big cat like me (6-1 217 lbs). Some of these skinny girls, I worry I might break 'em.

Georgiapeach said...
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Georgiapeach said...

"Besides, those curvy curves look good to a fairly big cat like me (6-1 217 lbs)."-Crassius

That's a damn turn on..lol

~Deb said...

I keep insisting, all I need is 'more height' and I'll be at the exact weight I want to be! ;)

Georgiapeach said...

lol! Me too.

Crassius Maximus said...

Thanks GPeach, your blog is genius, and your comments are too. It's no suprise the ATL is blowing up like yeast. My compadres at "The Jammy" scratch their heads when I say shit like "Dirty Dirty" and "already". It's always good to hear from Hotlanta in cyberspace.

Crassius Maximus said...

You too Deb. Us at The Jammy are just tryin' to get on y'all's level of blogging. It's off the chain.

~Deb said...

Georgia: ANY MORE HEIGHT---and you'll end up having your house customed made so you won't bump your head! 6'1??? You should be a model!

Crassius: My level of blogging has lots to do with mental illness. *sigh*

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Maybe it's that "Neurotic Christian" thing az ya say in yer profile...btw, ain't that redundant?


Tammy Faye Bakker

~Deb said...

You might be right. A neurotic Christian holy rolling, bible thumpin' lesbian. Oh it just doesn't get better than that, does it? Shall I throw republican in the mix? *GASP!!!!!!*

Mary Cheney

The Stevo in H-Town said...

A Republican?!?!? Damn, Girl..you've jus' gone too far now..

Great Signature tho'...You may amounta sumpthin' after all, ~deb..

~Deb said...

Naw.

Wenchy said...

83 comments and you not even nakkid? darn!

How ya doing today Deb?

~Deb said...

Half the comments are left by me answering Mr. Stevo back with celebrity aliases, and if I were nekkid on this blog, I'd have ZERO comments. Believe me. Ugh. Time to call Jenny Craig--I'm feelin' it!

How are you?

becca said...

SUPER GREEEAAAAAT POST MY DEAR DEB! :D

I feel the pressure to be THIN THIN THINNER! Even when I was 100 lbs when I was 12-14, I still felt FAT!

:(

And yes, I fell into despair because of my weight, because I wasn't stick thin. I'm trying to stop beating myself up because I am not model thin... but I am still on a diet, or tell myself, TOMORROW I WILL DIET! after every failed diet.



I really admire way you and Magdelene can look at attractive people without feeling jealous. My ex boyfriend was deprieved by over possessive me- he couldn't even TALK to a girl.

But hey, I was only 15.

You are not a paedophile... just that teens are really wild nowadays, coincidentally me and my best friend were just talking about how even YOUNG CHILDREN, girls,like wearing halter neck, mini skirts etc.

Blame the media. Seriously.

Take care and rock on! Your views of women being women, not sticks is COOL! *hugs.

The Stevo in H-Town said...

But hell, ~deb...ifya WERE nekkid, it might jus' increase yer "hits" and drive up yer stock #'s...Remember...da boyz atda "Jammy" can drink an awful lot and prob'ly will whenya take us out on da town to celebrate yer good fortune..yer gonna need ta be pretty....uh....liquid...

~Deb said...

Becca: Yeah, I think a lot of women feel that way, "I'm too fat, I need to diet..." When they are actually thin in reality. And, when you are on a diet, and fail, or 'slip up', it's important that you forgive yourself, and then continue with your healthy diet plan. I've forgiven myself AN AWFUL lot of times! Oy!
Thanks for your comments!

Stevo: You're gonna need your beer goggles if I get on here nekkid mister! I look better when the beer if flowing, and the lights are dimmed. ;)

The Stevo in H-Town said...

Hell....So do I...and, really, more to the point, the more I imbibe, the better-lookin' I get...


feelin2good2bwrong

~Deb said...

Hmm...very interesting Stevo....

2qt2bstr8

Crassius Maximus said...

All this talk about drinkin' and bangin' has got to be good for the ever increasing monetary value of this blog.

~Deb said...

Sex sells...so does a lot of booze.

Geoffrey Hirschfeld said...

I am with Crassius on this one-I am built like a "Nuckle Dragger"-5'11, 235 and I have to wear a 17 1/2 shirt, no matter what because of my shoulders(people hate sitting next to me on airplanes), and I totally prefer women who are curvy. I have a total crush on a co-worker who looks like a German godess, somesort of Heidi with curves. She will come in to pick up her paycheque, and more often than not, she has these jeans on that are just...sexy. Yikes-got a shiver.

Anyhow, lust is OK. One of my campaign workers was 19 and I had a hard time accepting or even knowing that she was 19 when we first met. She was working for Norm Dicks, and I for the HDCC of Washington, and we worked out of the same office and I had no clue. She holds herself like a professional, and has these eyes and curves....She knows that I am in love in a paralell universe(totally out of my league, and I like her new BF a lot), and we will always be friends.

Ok, where was I? OH YEAH, lust is OK-the day you stop looking, you die inside. We appreciate beauty and life, why should we deny that? Beauty has no age definition, and the only definition is one that we make ourselves. But I do have to wonder about these men that like women with no curves whatsoever-I have a few theories.....